Am I the only one who regrets going abroad?
I feel like the first country I lived in abroad was one of the worst fits for me... it totally broke me. By the time I found more suitable cultures and moved there I was already meh about the expat life. I made lots of friends in the second place. I've also heard lots of stories of Bulgarians abroad and 100% of them are unhappy. Most just stay due to the money and family obligations and of course plan to move back when they retire.
Here are my issues with living abroad:
1. I went alone so having no one relative next to me was so hard. Now I understand why Turkish people do better abroad, many of them take their whole families with them, even (grand)parents who know nothing about the local language. With your family there beside you nostalgia disappears as we don't miss the places so much as we miss the people!
2. I wanted to be surprised so avoided doing Street View research. Well I was negatively surprised. Had I known what the architecture & climate there looks like I'd never went. ALWAYS check the place on Street View or at least Google maps to see if it isn't a flat country if you need mountains! That's how I discovered large Bavarian cities are nowhere near mountains (Munich is not close enough to the Alps for me).
3. Most expats make friends with fellow expats. It's normal as they have expatriating & nostalgia in common. Most locals get fed up with having to speak EN if it's not their native language in order to accommodate a foreigner.
4. That's connected to 3 but many people who move around don't seem truly happy in my experience. I've met so many people who went abroad to escape past hurts, broken relationships, abuse etc. And the stress of being an expat is actually hurting them more instead of healing. Meanwhile many of the locals are content & happy enough to stay.
5. The happiest expats I've met are not the ones that stay put in their new home country, nor the ones that switch places frequently but those who are wealthy enough to have properties in many countries and jobs/business allowing them to come & go as they please. For the average, middle class Joe the expat experience is more stressful than the boredom of home. Working at a call center or as a teacher sucks even in the city you grew up, even more so in a foreign land & most of those jobs fire ppl so easily.
All in all tell you the truth if I could turn back time I'd never ever go study abroad for uni. All I have now is experience of xenophobia & alienation there and a diploma from a place I will never ever even visit on a short trip. Oh an Street View is much cheaper and safer to experience a place than to get food poisoning, develop blood sugar issues and get a xenophobic/racist treatment. Have you ever feel like going back home and quit traveling even for vacation?