Stay or Divorce

@Ambreh You know the answer. You are tolerating disrespect from your wife. I would divorce the first time she said such words and you are not obligated to help her family. Wouldnt be surprised if she has a partner in Morocco and just waiting to enter US through visa.

How did you even marry her without you understanding her? How do you speak with her everyday? This is not a marriage brother. You are sponsoring a little girl's life as a father figure. You are not getting your islamic rights met by her, divorce and find someone who respects you and your decisions.

@Ambreh

No offence but what do you think after all that you have experienced? Come on man its not a rocket science.

@Benson Harrison I am never bringing her to America and she's aware of that, we mainly used translation, before we got married I told her if her intention was to come to America then she shouldn't marry me because my plans is to relocate to Morocco.

@Benson Harrison

    Spot on ....bro i did this mistake and i am paying consequences. Sbd she was morocaan wimen too. This is ulterly disresoect .... zero tolarance ....big red flag. This guy is in usa i can clearly see another domestic violence case in america for her stay. If you want to give him gift fine but focing for gift ....

@Penniewisellc

     The way you will set her path now ....we will follow that path for reat of her life if she is willing to do so. If you will tske this bull shit you will suffer reat of your life  ....yes suffer ....

@hiddeneyeservices I know exactly what to do but I keep delaying in hopes that things will change but deep down I know it won't change

@Ambreh

Do you have attachment issues? work on your self confidence brother and find someone worth marrying. I love my wife and Alhamdullilah she is great but she knows if she utter these words to me, ill be out of her life instantly.

People only respect you if you show them you have self respect and wont tolerate every shit they give you. Its been 3 years, it takes no more than 2-3 months to learn basic english. Good decision on not bringing her to USA or you'll be having a vawa case against you and she will get free green card.

You don't even live close, there is more to a marriage than just living though. Imagine living in same house as this woman who does not respect you. That is jahannam on earth for a man with dignity.

Again you are not obliged to gift or help her family, only her. I dont like advocating divorce but this situation calls for it. How much was your mehr and how much did you spend on ring, wedding etc?

@Benson Harrison I don't have attachments issues it's my first marriage and wanted it to be my last I hate the stigma attach to divorce that's why I am struggling with the idea

@Penniewisellc

My brother divorce is halal and allowed islamically. Do not get disheartened by how society looks at divorcees, stop caring about society and focus on your happiness. Our Prophet pbuh married many divorceed woman.

There are also very good divorced and single woman who will be happy to accept you. Look in Morocco or I advice get married in USA, its better for you to find someone who is similar to your mindset and lives in USA. There are many Moroccan woman in USA if you wish to get married to your ethnicity only.

I lived in Morocco for 10 years, I can speak moroccan and it only took me a few months really to get conversations.

Anyway, she doesn't love you, she doesn't even care about you for being a nice man to her and her family. She is taking you for granted, for a ride as long as you let her.

She couldn't ever do that to a moroccan man, she would have no teeth left.

@aishahm

Spot on bro. As victim of simliar abuse i feel like its my duty to let people know by my life experience not to do mistake which i didnt few years back. I are 100% rite

@Ambreh

Divorce is the best choice in your situation believe me if you don't take the right decision now you will be suffering for the rest of ur life

@alinia

Cant agree more spot on alina

@hiddeneyeservices relocating to America is out of the question, I made that clear before the marriage,  i put it in the marriage certificate that the day she will nagged me to bring her to America then straight divorce, I have friends who have experience familiar faith So I will never be a victim

@Ambreh

Spot on ...my brother i really hurts when someone usses you for their benefits on ur cost ....i am victim ....ur moves are very wise

@aishahm This is exactly 💯 what I have been thinking. It's important to hear because I am not important to her. Our last conversation few weeks ago I told her if she doesn't learn it then  I am not coming back to morning again and she can pretty much 4get about the marriage

Your title is catchy tbh, and reading your original post imposes a lot of questions to be asked, I cannot go through what has everyone said here, but like everywhere else I'm pretty sure there were plenty of good or bad solutions presented to you, but let me dip my nose a little bit.

Divorce is a huge deal from a religious and social perspective, but it can be a detrimental solution to bigger problems, ergo it should be the last option to go through.

Only you can evaluate whether this marriage will work or not, whether it might cause more damage than the good it brings, whether your wife is expecting (if you have ever consumed your marriage so to speak) or not.

If there is a tiny bit of a chance your wife might be pregnant, I think you should be making a trip there to settle things yourself better than listening to us here on an internet platform, keep in mind, some women might hide the fact they're pregnant if they knew they're gonna get divorced, though it's Haram/illegal Islamically, well people do it, and you might lose your child forever, you might even live without knowing they exist in this life.

The 2nd thing is to revise how did you get to know your wife? Who introduced you? Why you decided to marry her in the first place; it's only logical that we want to marry someone we feel at ease with and not the other way around, so when you see something you hate in her, remember what attracted you to her and made you decide to tie the knot back then.

3rd, you mentioned her whole family lives in the apt you rented for her, and this might be why you're being treated this way IMO. I'm not Moroccan but the mentality in the region is quite similar, and if, I beg you pardon, you're Muslim and you married her mainly because you wanted a Muslim sister, then what were the measures you've taken to judge her and her family, if it was enough for you that she was born in a Muslim country, thus you expected to get the best out of it, then you were hugely wrong! If you chose her, let's say because you wanted someone with kinda similar values like a Westerner, i.e. no Hijab, no practicing, no commitment to her religion, then what happened was an eventual outcome of what you're going through.

However, if you really did your best to find a chaste pious wife and you deemed her marriage-material, then check her sister(s) if she's got any and her mom, a woman might be a great asset for the stability of any household, but if she's got what are known in the region as Lucifer's Cows (corrupt surrounding), then she might be blinded by their wicked whispering making her really believe she's being wronged and she's being oppressed not the vice versa.

To conclude, you can measure a thousand times but cutting will only happen once, so don't rush your decision, and providing for one's wife is Fardh 'Ayn (individual obligation) mandated in the Quran, so if she asks for her Nafaqah monthly, you're obliged to provide for her, and also Al-Maskan (a place to live), which is why I said your posts leaves nothing but questions to wonder in one's mind about these details.

With all and all, the matter of disrespecting you or shaming you needs to be studied from both parties, as you said you communicate through a Translator or through Google, so misunderstanding each other is mostly to be blamed, and why you're frustrated she didn't learn English within your 3 year time but you never thought why you didn't learn Arabic instead?

Also, keep in mind, a woman will only disrespect a man who has allowed her or rather made her to disrespect him, you should read between the lines here.

I'm still baffled about the 3 years timeline here, things are not adding up correctly, so take this advice from me, be honest with yourself, sit down, revise your decisions past and future ones, check what you wanted from this marriage, what you've got from it, and what you might salvage out of it, and don't be emotional, judge yourself as if she was your daughter and someone came from over the ocean and married your daughter, then imagine how you would like him to treat her, then treat this sister, and if you think you've hit a deadend, then divorce only takes 2 words to be uttered by you and it will happen, that's how divorce is handled in Islam.

Just a brotherly piece of advice, these huge serious topics should not be decided over an internet forum, but you know what's best for you. Wish you the best, and hope you can stitch what could stitched, otherwise, everyone should be let go to move on in their life.