In 2020 I met a seemingly lovely young lady from Butuan City and things progressed quickly into a relationship. I never went to Butuan because she said it was boring and I've got insurance issues travelling to Mindanao, so we met elsewhere in places like Manila, Cebu, Baguio, Boracay, Palawan etc. We also holidayed together in Bali. I saw her several times a year. She said she was a penniless student and I supported her with an allowance and paid her tuition to the local vocational college and then into a masters program at the catholic university. I suppose I could have got suspicious when her "best friend" started turn up on our holidays - they would then spend time together which didn't particularly bother me because I'd just go and have a beer or hang out by the pool. I was told the "best friend" was in a lesbian relationship and had an adopted child. I was even shown happy family photos of the "best friend", her partner and child. She also said she was like an adopted child with the "best friend's" family and showed me lots of photos of her at their family events. By late last year, things had become tense between us, she was becoming somewhat unavailable to meet, and providing what seemed nonsense excuses. We split up a few times but always got back together. Fast forward to one week ago, in Australia, I meet a filipina at a social occasion and it turns out she knows my girlfriend well - very well. She even shows me her Facebook page (an account I had no idea about) and the truth is all there to see. The "best friend" is actually her lesbian partner - they've been together for 8 years. It appears to be a very loving relationship. They own a vape shop together so I have no idea if my girlfriend is actually doing her masters degree. The person they told me was the "best friend's" partner is actually her sister-in-law and the child belongs to that family. I confront my girlfriend and she breaks down and confesses. She and her partner hatched a plot for her to get pregnant to a western man - the goal was child and money. And when she failed to fall pregnant (she had always told me she was on the pill so I hadn't mentioned that I had a vasectomy - talk about lucky!) her partner wanted her to end the relationship with me but she wanted to stay - she said by that stage she genuinely liked me but also the money. This was when the tensions in our relationship emerged, because her partner was trying to block her seeing me. I really only have myself to blame. Even though our relationship was primarily long distance, the signs were there and I had just ignored them. Anyway I just thought that I would share in case there is someone else out there in a relationship with a feeling of unease but not acting.