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what is more important in life... love or sex ?

Last activity 19 June 2012 by Felicien Rukebagana

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El_Jost

Sex produces children ;)

Mostafa samy

sex what ?

El_Jost wrote:

Sex produces children ;)

eman1212

There are many different meanings of love..and the greatest is unconditional love...Love is a gift..and gift doesnt need any payment,its free..so if you give love to man specially woman..you dont expect anything in return,,if you  love her truly you need to wait..cause true love waits...Sex is only for those in communion..Married people...thanks guys..more power expat

Rockies

What is love? Something you get used to it, do not want to change and feel comfortable about? Then that is my "love".

Sex? I have not had it for quite a long time. To be fair, It has been once every 2-3 months for 5 years. This really bothers me.

What do you guys say about this type of relationship? I guess this is the quetion being asked.

womenseeking

I am just wondering why do people need to do this thing? To know other people? For friendship? For a date? Or they just want to? It is better for us to have communication to other to mold the friendship. Having casual dates and sometimes, a woman seeking man, vice versa. I I hope it'll help you guys. It was a suggestion and nothing more than that. Thank you. And have a nice day ahead. :)

Fred

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

Everyone can love everyone.  Not everyone can have sex with everyone.


I disagree.
A man can have sex with pretty much any girl but he may need a blindfold if she's ugly (Or a peg if she smells a bit ripe).

lukme wrote:

without love no sex and without sex no love....... so both are two sides of a coin


Gandhi would probably have something to say about that if he wasn't as dead as he is but I thought he was talking rubbish.

For most men, it'll be sex but many forgo that freedom for love.

Suzie Que

Rockies wrote:

Sex? I have not had it for quite a long time. To be fair, It has been once every 2-3 months for 5 years. This really bothers me.

What do you guys say about this type of relationship? I guess this is the quetion being asked.


hey rockies,

just read your comments/questions and was intrigued. personally i do not have an issue with sexuality. we are sexual beings and its a need as far as i'm concerned, but i do think it has to work within our moral boundaries in order to feel "right"

if we are religious, then sex within marriage works (or should); if we are not structured by faith, then consensual sex usually works.

essentially what i'm trying to say is, as long as you are aligned with your values and your partners values, then it’s a personal and private exchange.

i dislike being told how to live so i hope you are able to come to terms with your own needs and how you satisfy them.

cheers,

Suzie Que

mas fred wrote:
HaileyinHongKong wrote:

Everyone can love everyone.  Not everyone can have sex with everyone.


I disagree.
A man can have sex with pretty much any girl but he may need a blindfold if she's ugly (Or a peg if she smells a bit ripe).

lukme wrote:

without love no sex and without sex no love....... so both are two sides of a coin


Gandhi would probably have something to say about that if he wasn't as dead as he is but I thought he was talking rubbish.

For most men, it'll be sex but many forgo that freedom for love.


mas fred, i appreciate your candor. regardless of whether i feel the same as you or not, it's refreshing to see a person represent themselves honestly.

cheers,

panosanest

REMINDER:
Without sex we wouldnt even be discussing right now.
We d never been born.

And we were born having hormones you know.

HaileyinHongKong

mas fred wrote:

I disagree.
A man can have sex with pretty much any girl but he may need a blindfold if she's ugly (Or a peg if she smells a bit ripe).


Only a man would say that. 

But I'm still pretty sure that no man anywhere can have sex with everyone.  Not that it would ever stop them from trying.

Fred

HaileyinHongKong wrote:
mas fred wrote:

I disagree.
A man can have sex with pretty much any girl but he may need a blindfold if she's ugly (Or a peg if she smells a bit ripe).


Only a man would say that. 

But I'm still pretty sure that no man anywhere can have sex with everyone.  Not that it would ever stop them from trying.


I had a good shot before I saw the light, got married and became too frightened of my wife to continue my naughty ways.
Men try to have sex with everyone but can have sex with almost anyone. (Females only in my case - but species was less important to me.  baaaaaa)
Beer helps if the lady in question is less than pretty.
I've made love to a few really amazing ladies but woken up with a hangover and a fat lass.

Sorry - I'l get my coat.

Mostafa samy

Trying to choose between sex and love  is like eating popcorn without salt or drinking tea without sugar.
too much of a good thing end up being a bad thing.

jjk.nguyen

Why have to compare two these things. So stupid for this question

Mostafa samy

Have you ever heard about illustrations? illustrations make it easier to grasp the core concept.Although Love and Sex are two different things, when combined together it can bring great benefits to a relationship. Most people are misusing sex which brings bad consequences and they blame sex for that instead of blaming themselves for their misdeeds.
From Hericles with lots of Love

Fred

Hericles wrote:

Have you ever heard about illustrations?


I know of them but that sort of stuff is illegal under Indonesian pornography law. :D

Seriously, if a tad off topic;
I know porn is often considered sexy but it's just an epic fail for me.
Sex is more than wonderful but I just don't get how a mucky picture turns anyone on.
For me, seeing a pretty lady, dressed in a sexy manner but naughty bits fully covered, is far more exciting.

Am I in the minority?

HaileyinHongKong

If you need to consult illustrations you're probably doing it wrong.

Fred

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

If you need to consult illustrations you're probably doing it wrong.


.....Or are so sad, you aren't doing it at all.

I totally fail to understand the attraction of porn.
Not a religious or moral thing - I just don't see the excitement of it.

panosanest

Porn is great by all means. Helps your imagination grow.
Like when you were discovering sex with yourself.
Remember the first times? Magical. And without partner.
And sometimes pleasure is bigger than with someone else. Well it depends. Sometimes.
Lets go back to our subject now.
Love or sex if you had to choose?
I think we all know what the answer is.

Fred

panosanest wrote:

Porn is great by all means. Helps your imagination grow.


You need pictures to instruct you?
Crikey - I just dated biker chicks.

Imagination becomes redundant.

panosanest

I suppose so. But did you read carefully my post? All of it?

And another thing also.
With porn you can go in places you cant go in real life EXCEPT...

Think about it. Dont rush. Just think.

Can we go back to our main issue now?
I asked a simple question:
Love or sex if you had to choose?

S Karan

Love

HaileyinHongKong

panosanest wrote:

I think we all know what the answer is.


I'm seeing a variety of different answers.

Nellin Jessvellin

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

Everyone can love everyone.  Not everyone can have sex with everyone.


I agree with u...hahahahaaha

Nellin Jessvellin

I think love and sex both important but more importantly it is the money ..
from my understanding,,life is real..no money no lover..if someone say that love more important than everything,this word is bullshit..
whether love can make a person survive without eating?

haggishunter

I would say love first. Find the right person to love then sex will be more special. :)

As for porn :offtopic:    Is your man making love to you or to the person in the porn.

abdulazziz lopez

in life, love has many meaning while sex has many reason to make. but if you guys talking about a true love well love should comes first before sex.

anoption1369

love is the most important sex is every where and easy to get.

BlunderCity

"Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go, it's one of the best."

Woody Allen

Fred

anoption1369 wrote:

love is the most important sex is every where and easy to get.


PM a few telephone numbers please. :D

Mostafa samy

one thing is not more important than the other we just need to put them in their respective places in life.

Astamous

The more of one means the more from the other :D from me I have sex for the hope of love but not the other way around.

Fred

I'm still voting for love.
Before I was a boring old fart, I would have a try for sex with anything with a pulse.
I wasn't fussy about gender and didn't have George Orwell's hang ups about the number of legs. The only reason I never got round to blokes was I didn't run out of ladies and sheep.
However, I am a boring old fart now and realise life would be a real drag without someone to love.
Someone who you can care for and can care for you.

nenee

Mostafa Samy's answer is the best! My question is why are you asking this question and why is it naughty? Anything addicting is bad for you, therefore balance of all is what makes life healthy.

CYCLOS

if love is hard to get,sex easy to get  then take sex and wait for love until you get them both in the same time.

fgilson2

if you be with a woman just for sex its gonna be like a lolly pop as soon as u end it u throw it away and try to find another one with different taste and shape!!!!!!

panosanest

HaileyinHongKong wrote:
panosanest wrote:

I think we all know what the answer is.


I'm seeing a variety of different answers.


Well...suppose they had to choose in reality, im sure they ldnt like to be sterilized (not even by some harmless pill). Those answers in here are clearly hypothetical.

Nellin Jessvellin wrote:

life is real..no money no lover..


That's why the human race is going to extinct. The new generations have become so inhumanly cynical...
Nothing surprises me anymore.

BlunderCity wrote:

"Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go, it's one of the best."
Woody Allen


Agreed. Have in mind that Woody Allen married το his own daughter. Many people ll find this sick but again love is the main factor they got married. Controversial?

mas fred wrote:

I'm still voting for love.
Before I was a boring old fart, I would have a try for sex with anything with a pulse.However, I am a boring old fart now and realise life would be a real drag without someone to love.


How about love someone and having sex with someone else? In open.

Felicien Rukebagana

the most important is love just
     because sex is a result of love.

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