Desperate expat housewives

its not like you always ahve to be lonely or dejected in a foreign land....you could indulge in some sort of constructive activity ...learning languages..best is to try to master the host country language,  others could be socialise in the neighbourhood and makie new friends and get accqainted with the host countries customs and cultures and learn to appreciate the differences...its anyways better than killing your time on facebook or skype

Hi,
love your post... i am in the EXACT same situation,
just so hard to be away from family and friends...
i've been in uk since i got married 4 month ago, and i still have no job... so i  don't meet many people, with drive me a bit crazy! i love people so much lololol
So this forum is going to be my new best friend i'm afraid

I moved to Canada to be with my now-husband a couple years ago and I would love to connect with other expat wives/mothers.

I live in a pretty small province so it is pretty lonely sometimes, especially being a stay-at-home mum at the present time.

In my work in various countries I have seen workmates wives have affairs.
The problem beiing that their wives think it is great to be living overseas, having servants to look after them. After a few months they are getting bored and often start drinking then looking around.
The fact that their husbands are still working long hours and sometimes are not home every night does not help. 
It takes a special kind of women to live overseas, especially if they have children. Many families I know have survived and are better off because of it.

Im a white women married to a pakistan man...who's 10 years younger
we knew each other 3 years before we married 16 months ago, But apart 2 years, and seen him for a total of 5 weeks in 2 trips over there.
I might go over and live in pakistan depending on his visa. I know it will be hard and i hope i can meet other expats in or near hasilpur.

My wife has become an ex-pat twice. 15 years ago she left Ukraine to marry me and she had a terrible time the first year. She was actually losing her hair! But, she is a person who makes friends no matter where she is and it wasn't long before she had a network going even though she was a stay-at-home mom.

Almost 4 years ago we moved to Costa Rica, another uprooting for her, but with the benefit that here she has been able to exercise her talents in architecture and art. She adapted from being a watercolor artist to making mosaics and designing several houses in our area. Of course, she again quickly built up a network of friends (many who speak Russian!). I'm the type who could live in a cabin in the middle of the forest and go without visitors for months (at least it's what I tell myself, lol). Without her I'd probably be a hermit.

The hardest thing for her I know being here is missing her friends back in Oregon. It's difficult for people to travel down here as they are so busy with their lives up there. She has been back to the States a few times, but she would like to see her old friends more often I know.

pura vida,

Casey  - A Dull Roar

The internet can def make you feel less lonely. It helps just to know other people have gone through what you have, that things have gotten better for them. It helps you know its not some failing on your part that there is a difference between the expat life you imagined and the one you arrived to.

hey ur right about internet being a source of socializing in itself., infact it has now brought this world into a smlaeer place to live., if your in New Delhi, ill be more than happy to have u aas my buddies not cuz i dont have any but merely cuz i love meeting new ppl n undderstanding various cultures., moreover im sure that they are plenty just like me with the same interests., so go ahead n shoot me a mssg.,

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We have had an up and down road over six years in China.  My wife has at times loved it and at time wanted nothing more than to just go home.  Here are a couple of blog posts I wrote about how she found her sweet spot in the expat community and even turned it into a small business . . .

Being Married to the Expat Cake Lady

8 Question to Help You Find Your Expat Thang

i would move over to pakistan if my husband asked me without a doubt..... but i would have to be doing something or i'd go doolally

Wow, what a neat place to read all these posts. My hat is off to you Julien, this is an awesome place for information and the meeting of new friends world-wide. I think people are sometimes too worried what someone else thinks about their race and should not worry what others think. If you love each other, then who cares what others say. I have a lot of experience with people who wish to think they are better than you are, I figure that's their opinion.
     I have lived in The U.S. my whole life, I have been around a bit as a sailor in the U.S. Navy. My girlfriend of 20 years is..... how can I put this delicately.... I guess somewhat physically and mentally challenged and some people can't resist asking me sometimes, and I understand as I am somewhat normal by most standards. "Why do you stay with her?" My answer is that I love her, she came into my life at a real low when I was second guessing why am I here? She brought me out of that feeling and I have been on top of the world ever since, I owe that to her. I see a lot of beauty out there and am not afraid of saying so, I have many friends right here in Washington state who have interracial marriages, and I don't see why I should care if they don't.
     I have found this to be an excellent source for anyone thinking of moving to another country, such as myself, and I have to say you guys and gals are covering some very important ground here, some I never even thought about! It's almost like this should be a mandatory reading for anyone who wants to move to another country. I also see a lot of future friends to be gained here, as that in my estimation is the ultimate goal is it not? You can die with great amounts of money and things, but they will never remember you, but a friend will always remember you. Thanks again everyone of you, this is a great place!!!!

Kurt....

very interesting topic

ya it is come in ones life to become expat.Wifes also sacriscfice

To me the husbands should call the wives always with them

<- lonely housewife in the Netherlands. Still trying to find stuff to do during the day and people to go out with.

Anyone in the Amersfoort/ Utrecht area??

I thought Amsterdam was a beautiful city when I went there on vacation.  If I lived there I'd walk around every day.