Do you believed in a long distance love affair?

sram wrote:

I believe.... other side who believe.... Pls contact

depends on the both sides if they have understanding and if its destined it will work why not just the real people at the right time

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gambylove wrote:

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your point was......enhance me pls......

No , long distance doesn't work. One of you has to move.

denise my long distant love lasted....we got married 19 months ago. were apart 29 months, he is now with me

yes denise, billion of people around the world and some marriage cause by a long distance relationship, So it thus work.

I have been in a long distance relationship / marriage now for 15 years. My wife and family are in Laos and I work around the world.

I sometimes do not get home for 4 to 6 months. Our relationship is strong.

Gianesha wrote:

Doing it for da past 7 months
It does work if u have complete trust in ur partner and if u love him/her truly...

we had that trust and love but he broke it. it is very hard to control something when there are temptations around you. of course it is easier now with all the gadget and social networking around but it is a lie to say you are okay with just phonecalls and messages. relationships need human touch and warmth. no words can express a hug...

most do agree and some are not.....

It can only work if there is a time limit on the time apart. If you know that it has an end then it can be survived. Otherwise, I'd say no.

My boyfriend is currently working in China.  I need to get a visa just to go see him for a day or two.  We're doing ok, but it's driving me nuts.

wow i watched the glee season 4 episode 5, its all about long distance love affair. its seems it didn't work out in the series.

I still don't find it ideal to have a long distance relationship. What do you get from distance relationship? Can anyone share? And what do you think of long distance relationship?. . . I think what I really want to bring up are two thoughts long distance relationship and what the supposed healthy relationship should really be. This is my suggested brought up thought and a short quick sidetrack. For the reason is that The two doesn't seem to go well all the time.

its not easy to say...
i have one relationship before.. the man always beside me everytime..but after two years we already broke up..
he affaired and lied..so i think the man more near with me, more not understand me..

and now i find one man at another country..he is from west but we can understand each other..i think its work if i still keep contact..he more know me than my family..

heii emman. i think u should try it.
every woman not same.. so i think there is woman will wait u for a long distance..relationship just need communication, trusting and the final destination.
more close woman not sure she is the best..
but maybe far woman is good..we never know..
but just try it..

this is can be your test and the woman will survive until when..
if its work.. you do not pass a good girl..

Interesting story. Thanks for sharing, Nellin Javellin. It goes to prove that there are still others who prefer this kind of relationship because of their previous experiences, disappointments and hurts.

It just makes me wonder that what if the 2 who has been in a long distance relationship have decided to make a knot or in other terms get married, raise a family, and live a couple's life under one roof - Wait for it - . . .  Learned that it is not actually the same kind of fiery attraction, love and affection which they both used to have back then when they were living in two worlds apart and no way of knowing and have proof of what the other person's life is like at your back.

I would like to clear out that I don't want to lead the solution of "living in" as the answer to completely know what the soon to be partner's life is like. For the reason is that stats and studies prove those who do so end up filing for a divorce or called it quits after going through the experiment stage (as experts and counselors called it). This kind of stage actually breaks churches as the pastors' say. This one is actually like science where the idea of marrying as a sacred holy gift is ruled out. I believe that it becomes more sacred than solution and learned past experiences when two understand each others' mistakes and hurts and end up supporting one another with love, care and encouragement. Like two working as one in spirit to glorify the one who created marriage itself.

Sorry this was quite long.

Nellin Jessvellin wrote:

heii emman. i think u should try it.
every woman not same.. so i think there is woman will wait u for a long distance..relationship just need communication, trusting and the final destination.
more close woman not sure she is the best..
but maybe far woman is good..we never know..
but just try it..

this is can be your test and the woman will survive until when..
if its work.. you do not pass a good girl..

thanks Nellin, right now the only women in my life is my mom. hihih

I do believe in it...My boyfriend and i have been into a three year long distance affair it was quite long but we did survived. We love, respect and faithful to each other, yet there was some arguments and problems but we still manage to surpassed it. Just this July 2012 we got married and we are together as strong as can be, hoping to build a simple and complete family... When it comes to love no mountains and oceans can separates a pure love...

Emman Lopez wrote:

thanks Nellin, right now the only women in my life is my mom. hihih

I like your answer.

anyway i have experience it in some ways the key to good relationship is communication and fear of God then everything follows why not try you never know how it works until you try

Bri-yen wrote:

Emman Lopez wrote:

thanks Nellin, right now the only women in my life is my mom. hihih

I like your answer.

thanks and thats true bro.....:)God knows.

Emman, If ever you found someone who will become your partner aside from your mom and specially God please do not forget to tell your first loves as mentioned above who this person is. Count your accountability partners too and those whom you find counsel with for added help. I just like to share an advice that was shared to me and also learned in the long run. For in this way nothing is kept in secret and under guidance. Happy waiting and searching i guess! hehe

would you believe bri-yen that i prefer to be single?

It all depends.. on situation, most importantly on individuals.. I don’t think it could be generalized (as it applicable to many aspects)

Cheers!

Emman Lopez wrote:

would you believe bri-yen that i prefer to be single?

I believe you for I too am single who have accepted it and prefer to still be one for now; but open for other possibilities if that is God's plan. You are not alone who is curious of other possibilities but better to seek His advice.

it works,.. but a lot of sacrifices lots of effort to fall in love with d same person everyday,.. to keep it alive and real,. no easier road in here distance time different social life make u fall apart , trust is the biggest issue , no one can know where it success or it is fail, no one know until betrayal happen, but when is said,.. when is love will never hurt,..

some says both must have TRUST, both must have GOOD COMMUNICATION, both must SACRIFICE, both must have TIME to each other, both must be PATIENT to one another, HONEST, BELIEVE and LOVE to GOD are important in order to succeed to a long distance love affair. to all that shares their thoughts and feelings.

I met this cute girl like a Philippine actress but she's in Oman, far but if I'm really interested I will continue communicating with her. Nothing will lose if I'll try.....

sorry for the metaphor girls , that is sortta guy thing , long distance relationship is like leaving your base on red alert or generals & going out , your base is gonna be outrun sooner or later , it's how well you placed your defences to delay that, so yes you can have long distance relationship , but not for long , the best way to do that is to have a plan & talk about it openly so that the waiting time isn't as hard as waiting for no purpose

when you are in love....
a minute apart is too long
a meter away is too fat
but thanks to technology and air travel...
people are living further but are closer

Guardian wrote:

sorry for the metaphor girls , that is sortta guy thing , long distance relationship is like leaving your base on red alert or generals & going out , your base is gonna be outrun sooner or later , it's how well you placed your defences to delay that, so yes you can have long distance relationship , but not for long , the best way to do that is to have a plan & talk about it openly so that the waiting time isn't as hard as waiting for no purpose

agreed.....

Guardian wrote:

sorry for the metaphor girls , that is sortta guy thing , long distance relationship is like leaving your base on red alert or generals & going out , your base is gonna be outrun sooner or later , it's how well you placed your defences to delay that, so yes you can have long distance relationship , but not for long , the best way to do that is to have a plan & talk about it openly so that the waiting time isn't as hard as waiting for no purpose

Are you saying that women will cheat sooner or later and the best men can hope for is to delay the inevitable by watching them like a hawk?

hELLnoi wrote:

when you are in love....
a minute apart is too long
a meter away is too fat
but thanks to technology and air travel...
people are living further but are closer

A meter is very fat.  That's when it's really time to exercise.

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

hELLnoi wrote:

when you are in love....
a minute apart is too long
a meter away is too fat
but thanks to technology and air travel...
people are living further but are closer

A meter is very fat.  That's when it's really time to exercise.

well spotted. fat fingers

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

Guardian wrote:

sorry for the metaphor girls , that is sortta guy thing , long distance relationship is like leaving your base on red alert or generals & going out , your base is gonna be outrun sooner or later , it's how well you placed your defences to delay that, so yes you can have long distance relationship , but not for long , the best way to do that is to have a plan & talk about it openly so that the waiting time isn't as hard as waiting for no purpose

Are you saying that women will cheat sooner or later and the best men can hope for is to delay the inevitable by watching them like a hawk?

where have i said that , neither the words cheating , hawk , i guess that was you trying to get the metaphor huh , i did say it's guy thing or video gamer thing ,

No sweetie , that isn't wat i meant . i meant that long distance relations can work for sometime but not forever . that u & your partner need to have it detailed . like time table on when are u gonna meet & end up together , other wise the feeling that you're jst waiting for nothing or wasting your time  will creep on you & u'd break up evantualy
hope u get it

I didn't get the second one from the first one at all.

don't worry your not alone.....

For us it worked!  I was from South Africa, my husband from Germany, we met in Hong Kong, and travelled to each others country twice a year and once a year to a different country (we met though work), we have now been together for 4 years (married for 2 years) and i still get butterflies in my tummy when ever I know he is on the way home   We saw each other in person every 2-3 months and spoke on Skype every night till early hours of the morning :d

Miscellaneous wrote:

For us it worked!  I was from South Africa, my husband from Germany, we met in Hong Kong, and travelled to each others country twice a year and once a year to a different country (we met though work), we have now been together for 4 years (married for 2 years) and i still get butterflies in my tummy when ever I know he is on the way home   We saw each other in person every 2-3 months and spoke on Skype every night till early hours of the morning :d

Well this is inspring.....best of luck.....