Stuck in female only compound!

@hitch  nah.. people who want to get enough posts so they can PM just say 'hi' or 'I'm new' so I don't think that's the case. 

My thought is that expats can have very different experiences in KSA, depending on their personality types.

Hi Kat, I'm not sure what part of KSa your in but I will be in Jeddah the end of November to work at King Faisal Hospital as a nurse. I am imagining I will be in your exact same situation or worse when I arrive. Let me know if you'd like to get to know each other a bit so if we hang out when I do come it won't feel so weird.

Such outside feeling sting me, i mean i am so sympathetic about seeing people blocking from each other for nothing.

Alliecat wrote:

Btwn-Fear-N-Hope wrote:

This sounds so depressing. Hope you meet some nice people soon. Do you think single females outside of compounds have it easier or worse?

And why can't two people (or more); who recognise they are from the same part of the world or speak the same standard of English; not strike up a conversation inside a mall?

I've struck up conversations with other western women inside malls, Jarir, etc., but usually it amounts to nothing because they don't need any new friends (it works the same at home; for example, if you change cities it's difficult to meet new people because their lives are established and they don't have the time or desire to form new friendships). 

Here in KSA, unfortunately friendships are often formed solely on what people can do for each other.  If you have nothing to offer (ie. you're not on a western compound--you're not promiscuous--you're not wealthy), you're out.

It sounds harsh and I'm sorry.  But I've seen this play out time and again.

How i wish all girls under that habibi have the same thought like you Kat. I don't mean gathering with girls, but just normal people with differrent culture. But i've heard my friend that Riyadh is planning for a new city compound that is for female working place. I like that. That's the first step. I'm even imaging another come across a couple years in the future when i return, called it Arabia of Lawrence? What do you think?

Kat2404 wrote:

Thank guys and girls its nice to know some of you understand what its like!
If i could just go out now and talk to a group of people in a mall and say hey wanna meet up with me and my friends then i would but i think it'd come across very weird!!!lol
I have made some good friends here and we are having fun and been to a few parties etc and i'm sure in time we will meet many new people. I just wanted to post on here in case anyone was looking to meet up at the beach or anywhere, we are all normal girls haha and definately not out to steal anyones habibi's hehe i liked that comment
Just fun people looking to meet other fun people

By the way is anyone get the plan to go for desert hiking at such hot time?? Ok i must be crasy...

I have a collegue just arrived and just left...better prepare i think. Good luck for you.

Helovesmenot wrote:

Hi Kat, I'm not sure what part of KSa your in but I will be in Jeddah the end of November to work at King Faisal Hospital as a nurse. I am imagining I will be in your exact same situation or worse when I arrive. Let me know if you'd like to get to know each other a bit so if we hang out when I do come it won't feel so weird.

Send me an email. I will invite you in expat parties where you can meet interesting expats.

travelnauman@gmail.com

hiii All
really it's a nice Blog lol

AllieCat how r you, i think in Riyadh you can't have fun like in Jeddah because they are very strict there comparing with Jeddah

Hi @DiveInstructor, welcome to the forum
If you come to Dammam /  Khobar, you will be abducted
Great demand for diving instructors

Hi @ghanshyampdave
Thank you for this Information
but there is a lot of Instructors also in Dammam

Hi...
I've been here a week and already been to a real party... with special water.
If you make the effort to socialize you'll be ok. I've turned into the yes man.
I'm exhausted but happy.

We need to Prepare for a party for that Females in that Compound LOL

Kat2404 wrote:

We do go out regularly but you cannot exactly meet new people in malls etc as it is not allowed, hence why i posted this, so it does not happen as naurally as it would do notmally apart from at the beach.
Like i said we only live with people we work with, there is no one else in our compound apart from collegues

Hey add me on your facebook we can be friends

facebook.com/abdullah.khan.1232

Actually i just wondering i am From Croatia and i live with my wife in Jordan where i work at the time, few days ago i received job offer for Jeddah and i would like to move there. So what you saying is that we can not meet some people there and simply invite them to our home or go together out? It sounds ridiculous, i thought the Jordan is boring but now after reading this post i am not so sure about that. Is that really situation there? Because we like to meet new people and to go out, organize BBQ, listen loud music, dance......... Will that be problem in KSA? If yes i should call employer.

Nadzyg wrote:

Actually i just wondering i am From Croatia and i live with my wife in Jordan where i work at the time, few days ago i received job offer for Jeddah and i would like to move there. So what you saying is that we can not meet some people there and simply invite them to our home or go together out? It sounds ridiculous, i thought the Jordan is boring but now after reading this post i am not so sure about that. Is that really situation there? Because we like to meet new people and to go out, organize BBQ, listen loud music, dance......... Will that be problem in KSA? If yes i should call employer.

It's not a problem if you're married but it IS a problem for singles to try to hang out.

it also wouldnt be a problem if you were a lesbian

just saying

Freshlikesushi wrote:

it also wouldnt be a problem if you were a lesbian

just saying

Or a gay man

this is true

What about transsexuals?

best of both worlds right?

I'm sure it would be paradise for single guys

More girls need  to step out of their shell and socialize with guys, female expats start to realize i am right when they are lonely in a foreign country.
YES !

Hi Kat,

You can meet whoever you want in a lounge, restaurant or in the mall. We do it all the time. Believe me no one will stop you!!! just dress in moderate(Abaya)and act reasonably. You don't need to stick to the compound. Go out, discover the city and meet some new friends.

Only one point to keep in mind:there is no problem whatsoever to meet friends(male and female) in public specially as a western but its risky to approach people that you don't know at all in public.

Hi,

In addition to restaurants & cafe's, you can also socialize in various amusement parks (though there are very few here) by the beach; at various networking events / exhibitions; a couple of parks on Andalus Street (average experience); other compounds.

I'm just shocked about the topics in here, FYI I am not in this blog to date or look for any kind of intimate relationships with women, gays, lesbians nor trans.

Anyway I'm shocked cause I have attended dozen of parties held at compounds by westerns, I have been & seen westerns in 2 pc bikinis in Jeddah in private beaches. Have you guys been to Durrat el Arros or any such a like resort?!

PS: if you keep a low profile in here, you could get away with anything!!



Adios!!!

hahahah i see a lot of disappointments here lol and the thing is none of you is saudi just one i guess ! im from riyadh i party every weekend and when i go to jeddah i even party more cuz its easer idk why foreigners have a hard time to contact with saudis parties ppl ? and they all get disappoientd and get depressed and they cant wait to leave the country ! am not alcholic or something like that but im just saying if you dont drink in public or make a problems then youre fine they wont try to ge you youre ok as long as you dont disrespect the low in public ! some ppl want to make out in the mall lol hey thats one of the things you cant do here lol some wants a bars or night clubs that will not happen lol and i think most saudis agree and i do i dont want ppl drunk in the street or drunk drivers we have already crazy drivers without drinks lol im just saying find the right ppl good luck ppl and enjoy your stay

Freshlikesushi wrote:

this is true

at least gay ppl here hide so good and respect or better be  afraid of others and they dont makeout in malls and make ppl especially kids look at them and throw up lol this is one of our freedome to raise our kids to be normal human beings and teach them whats wrong whats right and who they are and not to leave them in certain age for what we call a human wolfs to change their beliefs (no offense) thats how we are and if you compare it with other countries oh wow i hope you study it and know how much it effects communities with a lot of psychologicl and health problems .
but you have a freadome of speech and we have it too;) im not with or against homesexualty ( more gays means more girls for me lol) but for real i dont want it to be in my kids in futuer when i get marred and have kids  i hope you get it im not here to fight im here to clarify some wrong common beliefs or ideas    

all respect

@Momo  I can't believe what you just wrote!  Homosexuality is a way of life here for Saudis due to the gender segregation, which you have to admit is abnormal.  When Saudis get married and can have a normal relationship, this changes.  But up to that point, it's 'love the one you're with' !!

Well I have lived my whole life here till high school ! I never fall in love with a guy !!! It's not a way of life come on I lived with guys I love my guys friends i say it I LOVE the guy cuz he is a real guy not to sleep with him lol it's just deferent culture ! You may never will get it if you don't grow up with it ! And how you say someone can be homesexual and then changes to be normal !! That can not work ! I'm not saying there is no gay or lesbian ppl here no there is I'm 100% sure ! But we believe that if a guy hangout with girls a lot he would copy them or be girly guy and if a girl hangout with guys can make her  copy them and be lesbian ! That may effect young ppl more ! The thing is I see a lot of boys wearing skinny pants or some shitty clothes here its just the media change them they don't know why they were it and who wear it in other countries ! The same with girls but that doesn't mean they are homesexual ! I sit with a lot of them I ask them a lot of question I swear the answer was the same ! They don't know why they thought its cool hahah and that's funny but I don't consider it as big problem like it is in other countries and they still think its not a problem cuz they can't stop it ! And if you look in our history we were like that long time ago like 100 s of years ago if that was exist we all be gays and lesbian by now lol

You've made an interesting point (just one lol).  Which is, that you seem to think that somebody who engages in homosexual acts is gay.  You may be right, but I think that sometimes experimentation is part of growing up.  I also think that straight guys can become involved in homosexual relationships if they are denied a natural way to express their sexuality.

That's right but when or who do that !!!! Straight guys or girls can do this whenever they have a lack of self-confidence or lack of education of who they are In realty ! They are just lost in that point and they wont be straight anymore in my point of view!  trust me it will bigger problem if they see it in streets and tv and malls !  I consider this a problem it may develop and be a mental health problem and then it will be hard to fix how can it be a mental problem whenever they do surgeries for the special parts and they start thinkin that they are not who they are

Momo Ajmi wrote:

That's right but when or who do that !!!! Straight guys or girls can do this whenever they have a lack of self-confidence or lack of education of who they are In realty ! They are just lost in that point and they wont be straight anymore in my point of view!  trust me it will bigger problem if they see it in streets and tv and malls !  I consider this a problem it may develop and be a mental health problem and then it will be hard to fix how can it be a mental problem whenever they do surgeries for the special parts and they start thinkin that they are not who they are

I have to disagree with everything you've said because I don't think a person chooses to be gay--research indicates it's genetic and I believe that.

Here we have to agree that we don't believe in the same thing and I said god won't do mistakes but you  disagree and believe god do mistakes by creating those ppl in wrong way cuz they suppose to born to as deferent sex and I really can not change beliefs if its strong like that and when it comes to god ! I respect you and your opinions and its really interested to learn more about others and I like your thinkin and you're really smart I'm happy that you wrote me back and thanks for your patient

Momo Ajmi wrote:

Here we have to agree that we don't believe in the same thing and I said god won't do mistakes but you  disagree and believe god do mistakes by creating those ppl in wrong way cuz they suppose to born to as deferent sex and I really can not change beliefs if its strong like that and when it comes to god ! I respect you and your opinions and its really interested to learn more about others and I like your thinkin and you're really smart I'm happy that you wrote me back and thanks for your patient

I don't think God made a mistake. I think we can agree that God doesn't make mistakes--so that means he made people this way deliberately.  It's up to us to understand why

I respect your opinions--I know that Islam has very strict views on many things.  Discussions such as these are how we all learn what others think and there's nothing wrong with agreeing to disagree  

As they say, that's why there is chocolate and vanilla icecream!

I love chocolate ice cream more :p

Well, I like it when they're twisted together

Oh youre not raisest 😋And I love brownie with ice cream

Hi. You lucky. At least you have friends. Been here 4 years, live among the arabs. You keeping well?

Where r you  from ?