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Can a man and a woman be JUST friends?

Last activity 25 December 2013 by kishwerbaqar

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hutkgjf

Can a man and a woman be JUST friends?

Fred

Yes.
I've managed this amazing feat when she wouldn't let me take her to bed.
Oddly enough, we eventually slept together in Malaysia, thousands of miles and three years away from when we met but we didn't do the deed.
I suppose we actually valued the friendship we had.

aabie ryan

i think so...

if it's CAN'T...

i can't imagine how many boyfriends i have up to now..

James

Not only can a man and woman be JUST friends, there are some cases where they should never try to be anything else.

When I was younger, divorced and living on my own in Vancouver, I had a female friend who lived in the apartment directly across the hall from mine. We developed a very strong friendship, both dated other people, shared our secrets, went places together and it was just wonderful. It was purely a friendship and a very good one at that. One day we were out for lunch (and had a few drinks) in the downtown core while walking to the bus stop afterward she decided to go into a sex shop to look at some intimate lingerie and I followed her inside. Between the drinks and the lingerie we were both a bit aroused and ended up back in her apartment making love. We were both so embarrassed afterward by what had happened we never spoke to each other again. Live and learn. I lost a very good friendship by doing something impulsive and foolish.

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mostafa zaghlol

sure possible , why not be

fattouna2013

OF COURSE THEY CAN

Lugien

if a Woman  only Attarctive to a woman then the answer is YES lol

HaileyinHongKong

Annie Hall is better.

Joe Chem

That remindet me that very scientific investigation big_smile.pngbig_smile.png

youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA

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global I think you can?t say "yes" or "no" there are different people and situations.. everything is possible. maybe not an good idea but possible big_smile.png

annekoolit

Yes! Avoid any kind of attraction especially skinship at all cost big_smile.png

sony99896

Hai , i agree with Manila

Bye

mahfoudy

I think it all depends on the very first reason upon which this relationship had been established in the first place.

chikky3

Think its possible, well for me.
People re different.

Pedro1986

It's possible for some, but it's not easy. big_smile.png You need to keep the brain sane ...

kshah

Indeed they can! There is nothing wrong with having a friend from opposite sex.............better yet it's always good to have somone from their side who can share the inside intel. lolz

kshah
annekoolit wrote:

Yes! Avoid any kind of attraction especially skinship at all cost big_smile.png


lolz... true that. though at times it gets tough

imxielo

of course yes!..why not?..whats the diff.bet. man to man and to woman..making friends to woman doesnt mean that you have an affair or something..you can be friends to anybody..there's no problem with that..

kshah
imxielo wrote:

of course yes!..why not?..whats the diff.bet. man to man and to woman..making friends to woman doesnt mean that you have an affair or something..you can be friends to anybody..there's no problem with that..


Totally Agreed!

anna.shu

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luisasosa_2687

Sure. But that depends on the shape and purposes as the relationship ended. If mutual agreement was or if it was a break for infidelity that changes everything.

I'm friends with my ex. We always talk in the mail, he tells me his stuff. We talked about everything. We have a unique friendship because the relationship ended on good terms, this new phase also depends on the maturity of both.

abdulazziz lopez
Hericles wrote:

Can a man and a woman be JUST friends?


friends can be lovers and lovers can be friends.

Annarawa

Yes,my best friend is a guy and we came from a different country,some people don't understand but we never explain how or why we become friends!

Annarawa

Indeed they can! There is nothing wrong with having a friend from opposite sex.............better yet it's always good to have somone from their side who can share the inside intel. lolz
Its actually easier to be friend to opposite sex

kiwiinkorea
kshah wrote:
annekoolit wrote:

Yes! Avoid any kind of attraction especially skinship at all cost big_smile.png


lolz... true that. though at times it gets tough


What about friends with benefits?

Melby
kiwiinkorea wrote:

What about friends with benefits?


That wouldn't be "JUST friends" anymore, then.

ralph.pratt

Most women delude themselves into thinking "We're just friends"  Yet the guy would accept sex at the drop of a hat if offered from the "just friend".  See:
youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA

kellie120110

becoming friends first is a benefit of the relationship having the self control on both sides to understand the weaknesses and strengths of each other, and knowing yourself would determine if sleeping together would be detrimental to the relationship or not.
also how much you value the friendship will determine if either would just at the drop of the hat sleep with the other, it doesn't need to be the end of the friendship, i believe it could be the change that happens to something more, but humans don't like change so perhaps this is the hardest part, friends with benefits, or a true relationship, a lot of men and women are afraid of this conversation, it would require some honest feelings communicated to grow or what sometimes happens you just walk away, the way i see it being female, a friend for any length of time is special, the more involved with each other you become you learn more, sex is  emotional for women if you become intimate or not, this friend has effected who you are in a positive or negative way forever. just my opinion

Fred

As the youtube link says, no chance unless the couple have a very good reason not to have sex.
Even then, nature takes over more often that people care to admit.
Girls and boys are built to be attractive to each other and no amount of telling people "we're just friends" will ever change that.
I'm married so I simply avoid having female friends.

iwangsetyo

who's wanna go to another country? don't forget to come to LOTTE DUTY FREE. it's make you enjoy for shopping

tommm

Common sense,yes and man have to control their lust. Every single man have to respect woman because,remember we came out from womb that bore you.Un-constructive topic,come on guys,post a better 1.

victorian67

Of course they can and I love this interaction !

hebafattah

yes

Fred
hebafattah wrote:

yes


Are you the lady in your avatar?
Really very attractive. You make me want to visit Cairo to be your friend. big_smile.png

By the way, amarakl, do you fancy me?

hutkgjf

sure yes

HaileyinHongKong

Are the men here saying that they can't have female friends because they want to sleep with every woman they meet?  Really?  Every single one?

ralph.pratt

No I won't say everyone of them.  But most females think they are the exception, when they aren't.  Exact ratio? - I don't know.  But I would give it to be around 90%. 

And then again, there's the opposite sides of the gender fence in this regard.  Which I have been the one that only wanted to be friends, and she wanted more. 

But mostly, I've been on the normal side of fence.  "Nice Guy" - that the female only wanted to be friends with. Now, I'm older and wiser.

HaileyinHongKong

Then you would not have sex at the drop of a hat with 10% of the women you know who aren't related to you?

lukme

it is possible:)smile.png why not????

kshah
HaileyinHongKong wrote:

Then you would not have sex at the drop of a hat with 10% of the women you know who aren't related to you?


lolz. be nice. smile.png

Fred
HaileyinHongKong wrote:

Are the men here saying that they can't have female friends because they want to sleep with every woman they meet?  Really?  Every single one?


Not at all.
Most really old and/or ugly women are exempted from this.

However, it is in a man's make up to breed. Men have to resist the temptation because of social conditions, not because they don't want to.

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