confused with expat men

this thread is rather funny for me...

thamia wonder why did most of expat guys are talking about sex to her...

in my case, i have plenty of friends, and most of them are men..
expats or locals..none of them were talking about that such of things with me..cuz i lead the convo..or maybe i'm not as sexy and as pretty as you (what so pretty in a girl who likes to wear sneakers rather a high heels?)

but one filthy thingy had happened to me once, but i could overcome it and  and decide not to meet that guy anymore

i learned something...guy treats lady mostly as their reaction..and their reaction is because of an action,,,from you

but that's only my two cents worth

and mas fred, you still owe me to help my charity programs...

aabie ryan :

thank you for being willing to give a positive comment. Indeed, not all expat men like that but most of the expat men I know on the internet always speak with sex and ultimately I do not ever want to meet with them in the real world even though they asked to see. There are some male expat friends that I know on the internet and I want to meet with them in the real world because when I chat with them, they chat with politely, they share stories about their lives like their family, hobbies, work and etc.


Nice to meet you here

well...


i'm not that easy to share my direct contact

aabie ryan :

although I am new to their virtual world but I'm willing to meet them in the real world because during our chat we always sharing about positive things, we share about jakarta and inform each other. And I want to see them as long as we meet in a public place but if the invite to meet in a hotel room I would never want to come because he's definitely evil intentions to me.

you are mature enough to decide what you wanna do

also mature enough to decide what TO SHARE or not to share in public forum

do you think by telling people that the men invite you to a hotel room gonna be a nice discussion to grab some attentions?

aabie ryan wrote:

you are mature enough to decide what you wanna do

also mature enough to decide what TO SHARE or not to share in public forum

do you think by telling people that the men invite you to a hotel room gonna be a nice discussion to grab some attentions?

Shhhhhh you are letting the cat out of the bag....

Two strategies to get laid for men.

1.be upfront about what you want (sexy fun) and as one college guy I remember reckoned for every 9 girls that slap you in the fave for "fancy a shag" in a club the tenth will appreciate your honesty and go home with you. Never tried it in person or online but hey it must work for some. Obviously can be toned down a bit but basic strategy is "hey babe I am hot in bed"

2.avoid all mention of sex as it puts mosy women off. Be nice as pie. Be the sweet boy. Girl lowers defences. Move in to seal the deal

No 1 strategy works on good time girls, those with personality disorders who sleep around for attention and married women. Works better with western women (especially Americans)

no.2 if applied properly can bed a nun (hey some of them are quite cute). Generally works best in asia especially as innocence levels are higher.

No 2 works better if used by intelligent men and no 1 works better used by beefcakes.

lamb to slaughter me thinks....

nemodot....

believe me, she won't understand...

aabie ryan :

I mean, if there was a man who asked to meet in the hotel room I never want to meet him because I am the kind of woman is a coward.

yeaaaa...whatever you said,thamia

if you think you were a coward by refusing to meet a man in a hotel room...
well...
let other people give their comments

were the words from Fred not enough?

Because they cannot look beyond the filth and the flesh.
they have lust we must renouce this filth.
PRAY TO GOD!

ScotsGaurd wrote:

Because they cannot look beyond the filth and the flesh.
they have lust we must renouce this filth.
PRAY TO GOD!

I look beyond the filth and the flesh, usually directly to depravity.
Lust is fun and we should have so much more disgusting filthy and experimental fornication in this world.

As my hero, Donatien Alphonse François said, "To judge from the notions expounded by theologians, one must conclude that God created most men simply with a view to crowding hell".

Yep - that covers me.

ScotsGaurd wrote:

Because they cannot look beyond the filth and the flesh.
they have lust we must renouce this filth.
PRAY TO GOD!

Do you mean,she is less praying?
Oh noooooooo

u are rite about that we can share about other stuff

aabie ryan wrote:

ScotsGaurd wrote:

Because they cannot look beyond the filth and the flesh.
they have lust we must renouce this filth.
PRAY TO GOD!

Do you mean,she is less praying?
Oh noooooooo

I pray to Allah but I prey on women.

@mas fred then you worship an ancient arabic moon god haha.
even if you fail to acknowledge basic facts/history then this "allan" you pray to is the devil.

ScotsGaurd wrote:

@mas fred then you worship an ancient arabic moon god haha.
even if you fail to acknowledge basic facts/history then this "allan" you pray to is the devil.

CONGRATULATIONS (or not)

If you weren't so busy being indoctrinated and trying to be a bible basher; you'd know Islam and Christianity are both Abrahamic religions, thus the same entity you know as God but I use the Arabic word, Allah.

Now, if you were really clever, you'd know many bibles use the Arabic word as well.

Insulting other religions is a way to cause trouble but never comes to any good.

Learn that and you'll be a better person.

mas fred wrote:

I look beyond the filth and the flesh, usually directly to depravity.
Lust is fun and we should have so much more disgusting filthy and experimental fornication in this world.

I actually agree with Fred.  This must be a sign that bad things are going to happen.

ScotsGaurd wrote:

@mas fred then you worship an ancient arabic moon god haha.
even if you fail to acknowledge basic facts/history then this "allan" you pray to is the devil.

I would imagine the Arabic moon is just as ancient as the European moon.

ScotsGaurd wrote:

@mas fred then you worship an ancient arabic moon god haha.
even if you fail to acknowledge basic facts/history then this "allan" you pray to is the devil.

Arabic moon god?
So when it comes a crescent..they called it HalfGod?

Be careful to talk about beliefs here!

Don't lead this thread to be off topic,ScotGaurd of Aberdeen..

Halfgod?  If I ever get a dog, that will be its name.

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

Halfgod?  If I ever get a dog, that will be its name.

or a sheep

My building doesn't allow sheep.

wjwoodward wrote:

All men are confusing, it's our JOB.

Well admitted Woodward !!

Sue, your such a polite person for accepting mistakes done. But anyway men and women are differ in any way that is why we have unending reconciliation process.

did anybody said halfgoat?

oedipus71 wrote:

Sue, your such a polite person for accepting mistakes done. But anyway men and women are differ in any way that is why we have unending reconciliation process.

They do indeed but, in your case, mummy knows best.
What a cracking username.

Thanks for noting that ma fred. Just like you said mummy knows best, likewise as the father who named me. And may I say you are thinking how did he get my name and what are the names of my siblings...

Awesomy written, high five!!!

Nemodot wrote:

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

mas fred wrote:

Honestly - sending PMs to strange men (and they come no stranger than I), probably doesn't help.
More so when you stop sending them after I mention my wife.

Just saying.

Caught and called out.  Well done.

Yes exactly

But don't forget in Asia four marital states for a man.

Single
Married
Married but available
Married and looking for another wife (2nd-4th or more!)

Many are Married but available, quite a few married men (locals) in Asia have 2nd or more wives. About 10% of Muslims in Malaysia and 5% of non-Muslims have more than one wife. Many Malaysian men also have wives in Indonesia on top of the ones in Malaysia and so the stats are prob higher.

Expat men tend to be Married and available after a while . Although I know a few guys who specialised in "assisting bored expat wives with their boredom" as most can't work and husband away a lot. That was a duty they did with some enthusiasm at after many a drunken expat do

Expat life is very bad for marriages!

mas fred wrote:

nadji22uk wrote:

thamia wrote:

Hi Bang Fred
How are you?...
Hope you and your family is fine

I am the kind of woman who does not like to ruin other people's home so if I know a guy and it turns out he already had a wife, so I chose to stay away from them because I do not want any misunderstanding.
thank you.

totaly right Mia,
world is full with people called "mr thinks he knows it all" if you know what i mean:lol:

If that's a dig, don't bother.

You have no idea of the number of gold diggers that send PM, catch me in the street (wanting to learn English - yep, I'll believe that) or even come out and offer me sex in exchange for a mobile phone.
No, I'm not kidding - One did it in Glodok electronics a couple of months ago and she wasn't the first.

I have to be honest - if someone sends PMs to expats, fishing for relationships, she can't be expected to be taken seriously.
To then complain on open forum, she's being seen as a sex object is probably a little silly.
I sometimes have a little fun but always show my wife the PMs.
In fact, she commonly suggests the answers.
In this case, I did show my wife but didn't play around with suggestions.

My favourite 'daft slapper looking for cash' moment was while I was still in Wonosobo.
Some stupid woman was offering me sex for cash (Prostitution)
We were in bed at the time so I showed my wife who suggested stringing her alone.
Eventually, we arranged a price so she sent a text insisting on cash up front.
What? said I, you must pay me as I'm an expensive import.

Gadzooks

this is a fact

and i dont know why some women do that.

Nemodot wrote:

Expat life is very bad for marriages!

I completely agree with the opposite of that.

As for my opinion, you only get confused once you take things seriously...Working and staying in Abu Dhabi, i have encountered those men as well but I just accepted the fact that some men are really like that and as much as i want to live in a world of fairy tale, i just cant do anything to change that...

still talking about this?

No.  This died out a long time ago.

Hi Mia, I am new to this Expat.com, an expat from India. I am sure i want to share more about culture, likes, family values & many more with you. If you wish i am there to share! - Krishna

Western and eastern culture is very different.. In the west we don't really care about what people think about us, we just do what makes us comfortable and happy.. one of the greatest joys of life is sex.. so we are open about it and want to discuss it and experiment with it.. share our experiences openly to discover something new and exciting.. in eastern culture they care about what other think, this keeps them from exploring their truest most inner instinctual needs and desires.. Most asians see themselves as little and small.. where as a westerner will see themselves as big and important..
also, many of the men who come to asia, are not of class.. they are usually failed individuals in the west, they don't have any attention in the west, no success with women and 80% are low class , uneducated and basically losers..
so when they come to asia, the women give them attention because they simply do not know the difference.. and think that there is opportunity, or it is a status symbol to be with a westerner.
Then they end up being treated badly, not respected and made pregnant and then the low life asshole westerners just leave, because they are too low class and uneducated and assholes to adjust to a different culture..
BE VERY CAREFUL with western men.. they are dangerous and the 80% majority of them are assholes.. I am personally embarrassed by them.. I suggest for you to be very choosy as to which ones you give your time and certainly share your body with..
I have seen this over and over here in Indonesia and it saddens me..
Find a noble Bule and you will find what you are seeking.. AN honest, loving respectful, progressive and mutually considerate partner that will love and honor you the way you deserve it..
That said, many indo gals are in it for status or the money and not for love or nobility, so they also get what they deserve..
Most men do not respect a hooker and a woman who wants a westerner for his money or for her status is nothing more than a hooker, so she will be treated as such and the relationship will eventually hit the wall.. in the west, the same is true..

good luck!

See,Hailey?? They are still talking about this...

just saw it for the first time today as she just contacted me.. its not a big issue.. it just takes a little insight and understanding

Who is "she" ?

who is she who?

agent007 wrote:

just saw it for the first time today as she just contacted me.. its not a big issue.. it just takes a little insight and understanding

That "she"
The one that just contacted you...