looking for love

Perhaps it is because you never really knew what love is in the first place?

Time to re-evaluate your concepts.

i was love my wife before but after sometimes she was busy with children

botamena wrote:

i was love my wife before but after sometimes she was busy with children

Yes! Busy with YOUR children.

If you weren't prepared for that to happen then why did you have children anyway????

botamena wrote:

why after marriage and have children you feel that you miss love

Dear botamena,

Because basically you are searching phisical needs not love otherwise love is still there thats the reason your wife is taking care of your children and you feel she dont love you because she is busy with your children...join her in taking care your children and you will feel love is there...

Regards,
anil

wjwoodward wrote:

botamena wrote:

i was love my wife before but after sometimes she was busy with children

Yes! Busy with YOUR children.

If you weren't prepared for that to happen then why did you have children anyway????

Very well said Sir...

First need to achieve your dream and find your soul-mate then have another dream to marry then to have kids then no more dreams so must be bored , lol

mostafa zaghlol wrote:

First need to achieve your dream and find your soul-mate then have another dream to marry then to have kids then no more dreams so must be bored , lol

After Kids next dream will be to grow them up then next dream their settlement in life then their marriage then their kids then their settlement and then their marriage...but life doesn't give much time to see all these....The day death bell rung all dreams finished....

Regards,
Anil

anil kumar tiwari wrote:

mostafa zaghlol wrote:

First need to achieve your dream and find your soul-mate then have another dream to marry then to have kids then no more dreams so must be bored , lol

After Kids next dream will be to grow them up then next dream their settlement in life then their marriage then their kids then their settlement and then their marriage...but life doesn't give much time to see all these....The day death bell rung all dreams finished....

Regards,
Anil

I think you repeat my opinion by another way , sure will have dreams but that time will be with kids future and no thinking much in wife and love as before !!

Love is just lust and that biochemical lust thing you had and a desire to mate and be with someone. That isn't love.

Love develops over time out of respect and deep friendship of a special kind.

Just my take on it after being in "love" so many times. If your wife spends time with the children HELLO WAKE UP SMELL THE COFFEE, That is called a family. Spend time with them as well.

i think it always happen...
after some time the love graph comes down from the peak to a stable average level

moreover, you should try to find love some where else... not necessarily another woman, but in your family, friends, children, ur mission or goal of life.

going to say something very surprising...!!!
some times it is very motivating not to able to find love ... bcz it drives u to put all ur efforts to appear on the map of the world as some one grand and great... on the other hand if u have love in ur family u will be totally indulged in them only and only striving to bring them as much relief and luxuries as u can...
got it??? and this is what evrybody is doing ... in love of their children specially...

After having children there comes responsibility and you will not have time like before when you use to hang out with each other. Now, both of you have to take care of children, so have less time for each other which you think is a sign of diminishing love but in actual terms what you are feeling is wrong.

If we look for love might be we cannot get it because love is always there if it is love and if it is not then definetly we will not find it....one can feel the love but cant able to say why he/she is in love.....