Finding love on the world wide web

I know many many people who met their significant others online and are in wonderful relationships to this day. 

While I didnt meet my husband online, we did have a four year relationship online/over the phone (meeting up only every 10-12 weeks) and I actually think that forming the foundation of a relationship is actually better done online/over the phone than in person in many respects.  When you are not physically with eachother, you have nothing to do but talk and this conversation can really lead to a deep understanding of eachother.


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Amen to that Kentishbird

i watched this show once, a woman with a disease from the US (or UK) met, fell in love with and subsequently married a guy she met online from the UK (or US), lo and behold, he turns out to be a match ( i think she needed a kidney transplant),

and there u have it.

Hi!

I met my boyfriend online and now we are living together and are planning a future together as well. So, if you can find your other half in a pub, store then you can find it online to as well..

I know too some people that met their half on-line on different sites(I'm not talking about "dating sites")...
Whether that relationship evolves or not it depends on those two people : when they meet for the first time in reality,if they want to see and to recognize in the person standing in front of them what they've seen and felt on-line ,in that case ,their relationship might work ...but if they see only what the other doesn't have/posses according with their own image about "the other-one" ,the relationship doesn't exist,because , for them ,the one in front of them is just a stranger,at most a friend, certainly not an "half"...
Is very sad when something like that happens.

so true anubyus, is that derived from the Egyptian god Anubis?

but now lets add a different spin on things, lets say you met someone online and they love you, you dont feel the same way, what do you do?

I too met someone online and now I need help from someone living in Accra.  The task is fairly simple; to call Koral Bu or Koral Bu Teaching hospital and confirm she is a patient there.  I tried calling many times via SKYPE, but the number(s) I have from the internet don't go through.  Do I have a willing volunteer?

I think the old cliche is true - do things you enjoy and you'll meet people who enjoy the same things.

hope u find someone to help u Zarcon

touche Hailey, beautifully put

In this fast growing world the internet plays an important role for making online friendship..i have many online friends, and i am so happy with the world of friendship.....

a virtual world without borders, whats not to love?

im not sure it is the best place to meet love

it is a world without borders, a platform to interact with the masses across the world, to bridge geography, transcend culture etc.

why not?

I think Love can be found anywhere, be it online or on a plane. The Universe will bring two together if they were meant for eachother I'm still waiting for my true love

i like that spirit!

may your true love come into your life soon Narveen

Hi yes Narveen you sound like a true romantic. I didn't think many of us left lol

Legacy, I personally think internet dating is a poor idea. I have tried some in London after splitting up with a long term ex, met some interesting and weird people, ended up having wild flings with some and behind the Tate modern with one (it was all that modern art – a great aphrodisiac lol), but I think the intensity of it all really isn't the best way of meeting people. It really isn't that different to chatting up someone in a bar in terms of success rates – well at least for more than a ONS. The worst way of meeting a real partner.  I remember someone I knew in London ten years ago saying that a certain phone dating service (in the Guardian newspaper) was a great place to get one night stands. I thought he was joking and I tried their online service a couple of years ago. Crikey what a meat market!!

I then tried social events for singles, and some not for singles. Several were just meat markets where drunken single paired off – sometimes on the bar itself at times (!) and again no way of meeting a real partner. Even worse really as it was a “meat parade” with no depth of getting to know someone. All looks and posing. London is full of singles though, many seem desperate (!) and maybe due to the high pressured lifestyle.  But events designed not for singles were far more relaxed and you actually get to talk to someone properly over time.

When I was in KL before I much preferred to network via groups of like minded people, not a single group. OK social groups will attract singles more, but the point isn’t to find someone but to share an interest and make new friends. For me it makes more sense to meet people that way as one if they are a nut it is soon obvious, there is no “dating” tension and I am not single minded, I want to make friends especially when somewhere new. And married/single female friends are sometimes the best introducers of single friends as potential partners and often they are better judges than ourselves as men. Maybe men shouldn’t be allowed to choose their own dates lol. Crikey I sound very Asian all of a sudden. “Please Auntie find me a bride!”

Well I still have my horse and shining armour ready for the right girl!

thank you Nemo, change the stories to match the culture i live in at the moment, and we're singing the same song!

true, alot of people use the internet to pick up women, for all the wrong reasons. some of us, romantics as u so eloquently put it, are in for the right reasons.

i think the internet facilitates a boundary on relationships of sorts, it allows u to get to know someone better, verify their stories etc. altho, some people can just tell u what u want to hear to reach their own nefarious purpose. so its a tad difficult in that respect too.

but, i agree wholeheartedly that a recommendation from a "paired" friend is much more useful at landing "the one". i second that opinion.

keep that armor shining and the horse well fed, im sure shes just around the corner or up the nearest tower

I like.... do things you enjoy and you'll meet people who enjoy the same things....HaileyinHongKong

Nice Brainstorming Topic, Legacy...
I'd agree that the Internet is just adding another dimension for our lives, that I'd call it "Internet Connecting People" rather than a "virtual society", as the first gives a space for setting your own rules in a wide open world...Getting to meet up with new people, would always depend on how honest both parties are, cuz that's what'd show how far they can go together/altogether, from this prospective, I'd say it's the same as other ways of human beings' interpersonal connections...and for me, I believe that finding a soul mate, or a partner in life, is always all about how honest i can be with myself first...so if I go to a strip club, i should not have any expectations of finding someone for longer than a 1 night stand...and so on...

when online, do you share the person you are, or the person you wish to be? what you have done, or what you hope to achieve?

u do get out what u put in, true, and im sure if people are looking for one night stands, they will find them, and if they're looking for a soul mate, well, it will just take longer.

i also realised taht u cannot see what you are not looking for, make sense?

PS dont go to strip clubs they're degrading and demeaning, but if u want a true (filthy) fantasy world, visit pattaya in thailand, u'll find 100-year old guys hanging out with 20 something year old girls, and realyl believing thy like them for them :S very sad

Hi All!
Sometimes it brinngs suffering only, I tell you people

Like 'isn't that nice meeting a nice girl on the Web, chatting, getting know her better, blahblahblah..'

No it is not! How then can I live calmly if I know I'm here and she's there - over the ocean in Peru. Going to clubs, having fun..
But I cant do the same. I cant do without her! We must be together. not only virtually!
Nonono, people, LOVE is not what should be sought over the WEB!

the web merely facilitates the initial meeting, lighting the spark, what u do next with the girl over the ocean in Peru is entirely up to u.

Love is born, the nurturing part requires physical contact, that is true.

Huh!

I can bet it does!
I wish I could not be hesitating that much
I would already be there!
But what I am an Who I am
Need to forget about it.

Date some of thelocal girls.

LOL !! That would be so much easier ..

Hi, I have been invited to go over and visit my girlfriend in Cheraga, Algeria in the next few months and we met online.
From what I hear quite a few people do nowadays.

I will be traveling solo, and we have decided that we both want to start a life over there. I just wish I knew more information about the area and town but I am sure I will find out.

I didn't believe that I would find my 'other half' as you say on the 'world wide web', but here I find myself thinking on taking a trip out to Algeria

Even though I have never met her friends and they have never met or spoken to me of course and neither have her parents. She has assured me everything is ok, and after I talk to her father I will be welcome when I arrive, or at least we are hopeful. And I think you have to be hopeful in these situations, and not let fear or uncertainty stop you from possibly meeting the person who you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. Life has its risks in any place you find yourself in anyway.

We have talked for a couple of hours every day for the past 3 or more months now (and it will have been about 6 months when I get out there) and are positive that we want to be together but the only way for this is for me to go to Algeria as I said.

I will admit I am a bit apprehensive but I want to go see her. If someone can give me some advice regarding taking the trip over there,  thats great, if not , I will probably end up going anyway

I say life is for living, so go out and enjoy it. Gain some experiences and take what you learn from them on board. And who knows, maybe you too will meet that special someone.

I greet you Verdandi, and I am definitely agree with you !

Mery

DeMarco83, listen to your heart,people can say many things,but we are just people,and mistakes are always with us,but your Heart ,it is always inside of you,into Heart are Soul and your Intellect,listen to you,reply is into you,you will come to the truth!

Hug,
Mery

Thank you for your advice Mery
But I am still undecided about the situation.
I hope we will still be ok in a month or so and then I will go see her because I want and hope to be with her, but I have too often followed my heart and ended up having it discarded. My head doesn't help matters either, just confuses things sometimes. But I remain ever hopeful that this time it will all be worth while.

life is about taking risks; the constant give-and-take between the heart and the mind. there is a saying that he who gets scalded from soup blows tentatively on yoghurt, i hope it makes sense to u

its ok to be apprehensive about it, but its not ok to not take risks. life does not come to your doorstep, u need to go out and embrace it. and yes, u can get ur heart broken, it happens, but ur better for that heartbreak, because u gain experience, u learn what not to do, who not to want, and the next time it will be better.

Love is a beautiful thing, always strive towards it, no matter the cost.

Thank you legacy for you advice.
This proved very useful and I will go and see her.
I agree, life is about taking risks and meeting your fears head on because only when we know what bad experiences we have had can we then truly understand ourselves and cherish the good moments we have
I was a little apprehensive as I said but I think you have managed to help me make my decision to go.

Im happy for your decision DeMarco83, she must be one lucky girl

Love can be found anywhere. You can even meet your future husband/wife in weird places so online relationship may work. However, people should still be careful

When you know he is the one, then you just know. The feeling is just so true
I met my husband online, on one of those social networking websites.
I was in a country in South East Asia and he was somewhere in Europe. That was 3 years ago, we had long distance relationship with routine visit to each other few times in a year, and we got married 8 months ago.
Love is everywhere and one is waiting for you out there, No matter where, No matter how

Congratulations Summera  a very beautiful story ^^
very inspirational

Very interesting subject.

Part of me wants to think that meeting someone online is similar to what I heard they did in the old frontier days with letters. Writing seems to give a good indication of where someone is at as far as their thinking.

Then I have heard about absolute horror stories of stalker and other nightmare situations.

Anyone can lie about who they are and their intentions.

Also human communication is hard enough in person. With online communication is is easy to misinterpret what someone says.
You could try to say one thing and they interpret it entirely differently.

If you throw in a global mix you have cultural difference that could cause complications. Also most of the time humor does not translate well. I could say something to someone in the USA and they would start laughing. Then I could say the same thing in Spanish to someone in Latin America and they would give me a blank stair and ask what did I mean.

It is amazing we communicate at all.

As for me I am silly enough to try both online and real world for meeting someone.

Will I ever learn?....No.

ur absolutely right Eric, there are plenty of obstacles to genuine emotion over the internet, in just as many ways as it makes life easier, it also serves to make it more difficult.

i guess when i wrote this, i had in mind like-minded people to myself, not the "others",, stalkers, weirdos etc.

heck, as a child online i used to pretend i was someone im not in chatrooms

heres what i think; meet in real life, use online to keep in touch.

it worked for me

That is neat legacy. Everyone should have someone to be with,

The truth is I have met some fine people online. And yes I do think it is possible to meet good people online and then have it develop into a relationship.

Anything is possible...

I'm living proof that you can meet someone amazing online.  I met my fiance online, actually.  It took a LOT of patience.  I went on a ton of really awful first dates.  But I did manage to meet the love of my life online.  Never would have met him if it hadn't been for the internet, since he's European and I'm American.

and it is success stories such as urs TGSO that give the rest of the world hope

i met my significant other in real life, but we enhanced our relationship online, given that we're in different countries. so yes, the internet does facilitate the love process

all the best of luck to u lass