Absolutely Anything Else

While I am at it, this is worth watching on Netflix.

Fool Me Once

When ex-soldier Maya sees her murdered husband on a secret nanny cam, she uncovers a deadly conspiracy that stretches deep into the past.

Trailer:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhC8AG8cwcc

-@SimCityAT

Congrats on post #9000 on this thread!  Must be one of, if not THE longest thread on the site!

    A film I really want to see, (actually my sister's husband's grandfather was part of the team that helped.)
One Life

The period drama tells the true story of Nicholas Winton and how he helped rescue hundreds of Jewish children in Czechoslovakia on the eve of the Second World War, and a lot of its filming actually took place in Prague - where many scenes are set.

Trailer:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ethollg-PI-@SimCityAT

It's an interesting story I've read up on.   But there is some criticism of Winton as a figurehead.  Winton wasn't in Prague that much but others were, even as the Nazis arrived.

The UK government was particularly awkward in allowing permits/refugees to come to the UK during those early years.  Shades of the same anti-immigrant rhetoric we hear now in the UK.  I cannot imagine the horror in selecting some kids over others which ended in those unselected kids deaths.

I am working on my family tree and i have a German ancestor.  As part of my research, I've had to read about the German and even UK nationality laws over the years. It was horrendous during the Nazi period and it wasn't even very fair until 2021 when the law changed.  Arguable if it's fair now.

UK is still unfair in many ways.  Like Windrush generation.  It should have granted those people British citizenship immediately.  Instead they gave them indefinite leave to remain.  They did their time, they deserve to be British as a thanks.

It's like no-one really learnt a thing from the past. 

I'm watching:

Mr Bates vs The Post Office

What a story of ineptitude and injustice.  Hard to convey. 

Shocking behaviour by the authorities - in this case, the normally trustworthy and much loved institution of the Post Office.  They lost the plot entirely.

And the thing is still rumbling on.

I may have to resign up for Netflix.

Sounds like I'm missing many interesting shows.

My son is chatting with my husband.

I asked him how the earthquake in Japan was.

He said,"What earthquake"?

His Island didn't feel a thing.

Thankfully.

That firey airline crash in Tokyo yesterday was really something.

RIP to the coast guard crew.

    I may have to resign up for Netflix.Sounds like I'm missing many interesting shows.My son is chatting with my husband.I asked him how the earthquake in Japan was.He said,"What earthquake"?His Island didn't feel a thing.Thankfully.That firey airline crash in Tokyo yesterday was really something.RIP to the coast guard crew.        -@Marilyn Tassy

Mrs F signed up for Netflix and it's not very good because the picture quality is very poor.  It used to be much better.  Obviously our ISP is not up to scratch and the network cannot deliver.  Our house phone hasn't worked for months - we never use it anyway as we use mobiles.  But we're thinking of swapping to Telekom who  have finally put some cabling in the street but haven't activated it yet.   

How can your son not know about the earthquake?  It's all over the news!  Japan is getting it in the neck these past few days.  What else could go wrong?  North Korea missile launch?

There's a news report (might be CNN)  that the pilot of the CG plane entered the runway because he misunderstood English spoken by the tower.

        I may have to resign up for Netflix.Sounds like I'm missing many interesting shows.My son is chatting with my husband.I asked him how the earthquake in Japan was.He said,"What earthquake"?His Island didn't feel a thing.Thankfully.That firey airline crash in Tokyo yesterday was really something.RIP to the coast guard crew.        -@Marilyn Tassy

Mrs F signed up for Netflix and it's not very good because the picture quality is very poor.  It used to be much better.  Obviously our ISP is not up to scratch and the network cannot deliver.  Our house phone hasn't worked for months - we never use it anyway as we use mobiles.  But we're thinking of swapping to Telekom who  have finally put some cabling in the street but haven't activated it yet.   

How can your son not know about the earthquake?  It's all over the news!  Japan is getting it in the neck these past few days.  What else could go wrong?  North Korea missile launch?

There's a news report (might be CNN)  that the pilot of the CG plane entered the runway because he misunderstood English spoken by the tower.
   

    -@fluffy2560

Must be the basic package then? My quality is excellent but I have the premium package. 

Must be the basic package then? My quality is excellent but I have the premium package. 
   

    -@SimCityAT

Yes, I think it is basic.  it's pixellated and fuzzy at times.  Usually in the late evening it's much better.  It's so bad on some very popular shows or movies, it was better to watch it alternative ways.  I use BBC Iplayer over a VPN to the UK (ok, I admit it, who cares?) and it's much better than what we have for Netflix for quality, even streaming more than downloads.  I think I'll ask Mrs F to cancel it as she got it on a trial I think.  It's disappointing as when we had it before it worked fine but it was a different contract. 

I think what we see now with so many competing services has to change. I'm expecting it all to consolidate over the next few years and we'll end up with 3 or 4 players only.   It's already happening with Warner Brothers discussing a merger with Paramount.  Netflix I cannot see surviving for that long unless it merges with someone.  The amount of serious quality TV is declining.  Apple TV has some of the best shows but I don't see how they can keep it up on their own.

I think my son either was just pulling my leg or he really does live in his own bubble in Japan.

That is disappointing to hear the low quailty of Netflix with a basic package.

When I had it it came directly from my sister in the US.

Always came in nice a clear.

I love documentaires, the lazy person's way of reading a book , perhaps?

Last night I went down the rabbit hole of burial traditions of the Royals dating back 600 years or longer.

It was only about the British Royals ( Seems they are the ones that count the most)

They said the Queen and Prince Phillp started having their custom coffins built over 30 years ago.

They are so heavy , over 500 lbs because they are lined in lead.

A tradition of the royals and wealthy going way back was rather gruesome sounding really.

They were treated like a Pharaoh, ( perhpas they all think they are sun gods?)

First their organs were taken out and perserved in a seaperate lead box.

Herbs were stuffed into them and their bodies wrapped in several layers of cloth dipped in perservatives and bees wax. Then a lead covered was folded over them, which took on the shape of their form, then all the silks  etc. and then placed in an ornate wooden box.

King Henery V111 th's body exploded when being shuttled around before burial and his dripping were lapped up by stray dogs.... YIKES!!

Liz I  didn't want to spend money on  his tomb and just put him under a church with his fave wife number 3. Jane Seymore?  Later Charles the 1st. was placed in the same crypt.

Tudors and Stewarts , enemies in life but crypt buddies there afterwards....

Does my brain really need all this info?

    I think my son either was just pulling my leg or he really does live in his own bubble in Japan.
That is disappointing to hear the low quailty of Netflix with a basic package.
When I had it it came directly from my sister in the US.
Always came in nice a clear.
I love documentaires, the lazy person's way of reading a book , perhaps?
Last night I went down the rabbit hole of burial traditions of the Royals dating back 600 years or longer.
It was only about the British Royals ( Seems they are the ones that count the most)
They said the Queen and Prince Phillp started having their custom coffins built over 30 years ago.
They are so heavy , over 500 lbs because they are lined in lead.
A tradition of the royals and wealthy going way back was rather gruesome sounding really.
They were treated like a Pharaoh, ( perhpas they all think they are sun gods?)
First their organs were taken out and perserved in a seaperate lead box.
Herbs were stuffed into them and their bodies wrapped in several layers of cloth dipped in perservatives and bees wax. Then a lead covered was folded over them, which took on the shape of their form, then all the silks  etc. and then placed in an ornate wooden box.
King Henery V111 th's body exploded when being shuttled around before burial and his dripping were lapped up by stray dogs.... YIKES!!
Liz I  didn't want to spend money on  his tomb and just put him under a church with his fave wife number 3. Jane Seymore?  Later Charles the 1st. was placed in the same crypt.
Tudors and Stewarts , enemies in life but crypt buddies there afterwards....
Does my brain really need all this info?
   

    -@Marilyn Tassy

I don't know, there's a lot to be said for just randomly following various threads about some subject.  I've been looking at piers (that jut out into the sea) this afternoon.  Why?  Good question.  Just went that way. I was looking at aeroplanes (I often do) and then looked at the town they were flying over, which then led me to the local pier and its collapse into the sea.

I've actually been in Tutankhamen's tomb in Egypt.  I was there in 1985.  Amazingly there's the office building and Tut was literally right outside their door. I don't think it was really him in the glass case. I think it was a replica.   I would have thought he'd have melted away long ago, much like anyone else who was buried and in contact with the ground.

It wasn't an entirely wasted day.  The dog did get 3km walkies in.  Surprisingly busy in the forest.  Some people still on holiday and definitely the kids still off school for sure.

I am constantly informed that THIS SITE IS NOT SECURE.

@skusekenneth Who cares, for me it is secure, just do not exchange private details. For the moderator to comment, but for me I am fine.

    @fluffy2560 I am constantly informed that this site is not secure.What are your comments, please?Best wishes K.S.        -@skusekenneth

Ask the moderators and the technical people, I'm just a contributor. 

I do exchange messages with a few people directly but they are known long term contributors that I am on first name terms with.

        I think my son either was just pulling my leg or he really does live in his own bubble in Japan.That is disappointing to hear the low quailty of Netflix with a basic package.When I had it it came directly from my sister in the US.Always came in nice a clear.I love documentaires, the lazy person's way of reading a book , perhaps?Last night I went down the rabbit hole of burial traditions of the Royals dating back 600 years or longer.It was only about the British Royals ( Seems they are the ones that count the most)They said the Queen and Prince Phillp started having their custom coffins built over 30 years ago.They are so heavy , over 500 lbs because they are lined in lead.A tradition of the royals and wealthy going way back was rather gruesome sounding really.They were treated like a Pharaoh, ( perhpas they all think they are sun gods?)First their organs were taken out and perserved in a seaperate lead box.Herbs were stuffed into them and their bodies wrapped in several layers of cloth dipped in perservatives and bees wax. Then a lead covered was folded over them, which took on the shape of their form, then all the silks  etc. and then placed in an ornate wooden box.King Henery V111 th's body exploded when being shuttled around before burial and his dripping were lapped up by stray dogs.... YIKES!!Liz I  didn't want to spend money on  his tomb and just put him under a church with his fave wife number 3. Jane Seymore?  Later Charles the 1st. was placed in the same crypt.Tudors and Stewarts , enemies in life but crypt buddies there afterwards....Does my brain really need all this info?        -@Marilyn Tassy


I don't know, there's a lot to be said for just randomly following various threads about some subject.  I've been looking at piers (that jut out into the sea) this afternoon.  Why?  Good question.  Just went that way. I was looking at aeroplanes (I often do) and then looked at the town they were flying over, which then led me to the local pier and its collapse into the sea.

I've actually been in Tutankhamen's tomb in Egypt.  I was there in 1985.  Amazingly there's the office building and Tut was literally right outside their door. I don't think it was really him in the glass case. I think it was a replica.   I would have thought he'd have melted away long ago, much like anyone else who was buried and in contact with the ground.

It wasn't an entirely wasted day.  The dog did get 3km walkies in.  Surprisingly busy in the forest.  Some people still on holiday and definitely the kids still off school for sure.
   

    -@fluffy2560

I always wanted to see Egypt.

Not going to happen this lifetime though, no plans for now .

My old gym friend in Ca. back in the 80's went to Egypt with her husband and a group.

She was working as a travel agent and got a great deal on a tour.

She was a Mexican/American lady who did her hair blonde.

She had a heck of time in the large market, men grabbing her even with her husband holding her hand.

She got freaked out, who wouldn't?

Then shortly after that a tour group from Japan was murdered while seeing the sights.

U tube adventures are fine with me.

    I am constantly informed that THIS SITE IS NOT SECURE.        -@skusekenneth

Nothing is really secure these days.

A couple years ago we were dealing with some crazy stuff with customs in Japan.

My son forgot to declare an item and they are beyond serious about every small detail.

Long story, worked out in the end but not before our fairly new laptop went on the blitz.

We have no clue what happened, one min. we were messaging our son in Japan and the next the laptop just fizzed out.

We wonder if big bro can control your communication or if we just bought a lemon of a laptop that decided to go down when it did?

   
    I am constantly informed that THIS SITE IS NOT SECURE.        -@skusekenneth

Nothing is really secure these days.
A couple years ago we were dealing with some crazy stuff with customs in Japan.
My son forgot to declare an item and they are beyond serious about every small detail.
Long story, worked out in the end but not before our fairly new laptop went on the blitz.
We have no clue what happened, one min. we were messaging our son in Japan and the next the laptop just fizzed out.
We wonder if big bro can control your communication or if we just bought a lemon of a laptop that decided to go down when it did?
   
    -@Marilyn Tassy

I haven't been checked by Customs anywhere for some years.  Obviously they know who I am and I do follow the rules mostly.   

I was using my mobile phone in vineyard in Central Asia and it just died on me there and then.  It had been on the fritz for a few days.  I was trying to get my coordinates on Google Maps.  Dead as a dodo with a nasty look on the screen.  I took it to the repair shop in the main city of that country and the guy said it was completely fried and would cost too much to repair.  So I walked down the street a few doors to another shop and bought another (better) one.  Within about 2h (most of which was charging the battery), I was back up and running.  I had a backup "in the cloud" and it restored itself.  I was quite surprised as I didn't remember signing up for that.  It was relatively cheap too - about $200.   

Electronics can be very reliable.  My hobby car has nearly all original parts.  The electronics are over 25 years old and still working.  And look at the Voyager spacecraft.  Many billions of km away and probably still operating to some degree but just no longer communicating with Earth now.

@Marilyn Tassy Hi Marilyn, I always enjoy reading your fascinating, amiable and interesting stories, filled with wisdom.

I also believe that travelling is one of the greatest educations in the world. We can all benefit from you.

Noroc, Ken.

    @Marilyn Tassy Hi Marilyn, I always enjoy reading your fascinating, amiable and interesting stories, filled with wisdom.
I also believe that travelling is one of the greatest educations in the world. We can all benefit from you.
Noroc, Ken.
   

    -@skusekenneth

I'd be much more up for traveling if things went like they did in the 70's or even 80's.

Nice wide seats with leg room.

I had been too ill to travel for a couple of years but sort of considering it again.

Haven't flown anywhere for over 5 yeas now.

I'm sure things are even more of a hassle now then even just 5 years ago.

It's fun to travel in your 20's, not so much fun in your nearly 70's.

I used to zonk myself out on flights, nt so sure I can handle doing that these days.

I always wanted to see Egypt.Not going to happen this lifetime though, no plans for now .My old gym friend in Ca. back in the 80's went to Egypt with her husband and a group.She was working as a travel agent and got a great deal on a tour.She was a Mexican/American lady who did her hair blonde.She had a heck of time in the large market, men grabbing her even with her husband holding her hand.She got freaked out, who wouldn't?Then shortly after that a tour group from Japan was murdered while seeing the sights.U tube adventures are fine with me.        -@Marilyn Tassy

I remember the attacks on tourists in Egypt.  I went during a very stable period. It was quite OK back then I was young, fit and health(y)(ier).  I doubt I'd go now.  Been there, done that, cannot be bothered. I've still got some souvenirs here on my desk from way back then.     

A older married woman with kids wouldn't get approached in the same way as a blonde Westerner - even if Mexican/American etc.  It's outrageous behaviour of course but their standards are rather different.  They do love their kids though. We always got positive welcomes when being out with our kid in Syria (before he war).

Maybe 20 years ago, Mrs F and I were hanging out in Abu Dhabi and as we're  a bit older, no-one gave us a second look.  I did manage to ride a camel.  Has to be one of the most uncomfortable things I've ever ridden. I rode an elephant once and that was super comfortable in comparison.

    @Marilyn Tassy Hi Marilyn, I always enjoy reading your fascinating, amiable and interesting stories, filled with wisdom. I also believe that travelling is one of the greatest educations in the world. We can all benefit from you.Noroc, Ken.       

-@skusekennethYou should post more, it would be interesting to hear the views of a younger person.

Like they say, there is no fool like an old fool.

We can get stale in our views as we age.

    I always wanted to see Egypt.Not going to happen this lifetime though, no plans for now .My old gym friend in Ca. back in the 80's went to Egypt with her husband and a group.She was working as a travel agent and got a great deal on a tour.She was a Mexican/American lady who did her hair blonde.She had a heck of time in the large market, men grabbing her even with her husband holding her hand.She got freaked out, who wouldn't?Then shortly after that a tour group from Japan was murdered while seeing the sights.U tube adventures are fine with me.        -@Marilyn Tassy

I remember the attacks on tourists in Egypt.  I went during a very stable period. It was quite OK back then I was young, fit and health(y)(ier).  I doubt I'd go now.  Been there, done that, cannot be bothered. I've still got some souvenirs here on my desk from way back then.     

A older married woman with kids wouldn't get approached in the same way as a blonde Westerner - even if Mexican/American etc.  It's outrageous behaviour of course but their standards are rather different.  They do love their kids though. We always got positive welcomes when being out with our kid in Syria (before he war).

Maybe 20 years ago, Mrs F and I were hanging out in Abu Dhabi and as we're  a bit older, no-one gave us a second look.  I did manage to ride a camel.  Has to be one of the most uncomfortable things I've ever ridden. I rode an elephant once and that was super comfortable in comparison.
   

    -@fluffy2560

My friend was in her mid to late 30's and a mother of 3 or 4 when she was ,"man handled" in Egypt.

Lately I am either given too much attention or not enough.

Sometimes we think younger people will walk right through us like we are a vapor.

Other times people can't stop starring.

No one enjoys not being noticed but in the past I had way too much attention and that is yucky too.

I also rode an elephant in some amusment park in S. Ca. Wasn't too bad.

It is a public holiday in Austria today and everything is closed, our only restaurant has gone bust and my favourite cafe has closed and moved to another town, I used to love going there with my tablet and catch up with the news.

It is a public holiday in Austria today and everything is closed, our only restaurant has gone bust and my favourite cafe has closed and moved to another town, I used to love going there with my tablet and catch up with the news.         -@SimCityAT

I don't think restaurants and cafe are profitable any more.

Might as well be a public holiday here.  It's really drizzly and cold.   One doesn't want to go outside.  I've been making mini-steak pies instead of going out. 

Last night, we were coping with my MIL who has turned arsonist.  She tried to burn down her house.  She was uninjured but the floor was damaged quite a lot.  Luckily my BIL turned up there and put a stop to it. She set fire to logs in a plastic bucket.  She thought "the children" (hallucinations) were cold and needed warming up.

Oddly she asks if these things are real. And when told, she just accepts it but she forgets a few minutes later and the cycle starts again.  She also tried to feed the cat by opening tins of cat food with a knife.  Everything has to be hidden now.  We're wondering how to turn the gas off in the kitchen.  It's becoming really dangerous for her to be alone there but all the homes nearby are full up.   Oh dear, what to do?!

Oh no Mr. Fluffy.

This is a concern.

Can anyone stay with your MIL until they find a room for her somewhere?

This sounds like this are progressing fast with her.

Poor thing.

My MIL was sort of losing it towards the end but she was around age 82.

It's difficult to witness.

Perhaps they have a place for her in Budapest?

She could be moved closer to home once an opening is available?

I know you're doing the best you can, so hard being in the middle of different age groups in ones family.

Everyone has a need and everyone's  need needs to be addressed at once.

Sometimes I wonder if my sister was the smart one after all, divorced 4 husbands that were useless to her, never had children and just takes on cats and dogs as any sort or resondsbility.

No, she sadly has missed out on the love of a child and the self respect of caring for those in need.

I'm sure Mrs. Fluffy is upset, it is very scary to see ones mother not doing well.

I honestly hope they find room for her MIL very soon in a nice place where everyone can feel at peace and safe.

Weather wise, we went out today to a outside farmers market.

All our items were a bit damp but the crowds were not there.

Got a great deal on my avacados... 800 forints for a bag of 6.

    Oh no Mr. Fluffy.This is a concern.Can anyone stay with your MIL until they find a room for her somewhere?This sounds like this are progressing fast with her.Poor thing.My MIL was sort of losing it towards the end but she was around age 82.It's difficult to witness.Perhaps they have a place for her in Budapest?She could be moved closer to home once an opening is available?I know you're doing the best you can, so hard being in the middle of different age groups in ones family.Everyone has a need and everyone's  need needs to be addressed at once.Sometimes I wonder if my sister was the smart one after all, divorced 4 husbands that were useless to her, never had children and just takes on cats and dogs as any sort or resondsbility.No, she sadly has missed out on the love of a child and the self respect of caring for those in need.I'm sure Mrs. Fluffy is upset, it is very scary to see ones mother not doing well.I honestly hope they find room for her MIL very soon in a nice place where everyone can feel at peace and safe.Weather wise, we went out today to a outside farmers market.All our items were a bit damp but the crowds were not there.Got a great deal on my avacados... 800 forints for a bag of 6.        -@Marilyn Tassy

Sounds like a good deal on the avocados. I quite fancy some now. With some strong tasting tomato, mozarella and some basil and olive oil et voila....it's Caprese!  Very tasty indeed.   I still have to finish up my mini-steak pie making.   I should be doing some work I avoided but I feel a WW2 movie coming on.  I've got one with Glenn Ford in it playing a German escapee - he was a interesting guy.  Used to do his own home maintenance apparently!  Like Harrison Ford makes furniture.

My BIL is over there looking after the MIL but he has his own things to do of course and he doesn't stay there.  I'm suggesting she goes for a "holiday" to a home but it will just become permanent.   What seems to have happened is a sudden change.  For ages she was very flat, not really getting any worse but suddenly she's declined rapidly in the past few weeks.  She's not zombie level yet as she can still talk and walk etc but her mind is very wobbly.   It's dementia or possibly delirium  or both.  Delirium is often misdiagnosed and mixed up from dementia.  Overall, it wouldn't be a surprise if she hurt herself.  It's a shame as she was a thinking person of a kind and she's only approaching 78 years old.

We're going to need some advice on how to get her into care.  But Mrs F is on the job (and many others) and busy with it but what can people do at the weekend?    I never had this problem with my parents as they were pretty much compos mentis to the end.  Have to ask my siblings as they have more experience.

I do hope a solution is found soon for your MIL.

What a way to start out the year.

My friend in N. Ca's mom had dementia.

They had to put her in a group home towards the end.

She was doing dangerous things such as leaving the gas on etc.

Shame, she was so classy and such a good mom.

She and her husband wanted to be my foster parents,they thought my mom had her hands full with all her children and I would benefit by living with them.

Super people. Her father had been a fire dept. engineer.. driivng the firetrucks in LA County and a Boy Scout Leader. Sort of super community minded type people.

They kept my friends mom at home until things got too dangerus and visited her all the time in the care home.She was in her early 90's.

IDK , my family doesn't tend to live long enough to get dementia but sometimes they do make me wonder.

It would be nice if someone could stay with her short term until a solution is found.

It's too hard to move her into your home and would be a huge change for the family to do that.

My grandmother was very ill in her mid 40's, lost her mind and had to be chained to the bed post to not get herself into trouble. It was hard for my mother and

aunt as young children to see her in that state for a few years.

My mom and aunt were from her second husband, my grandfather.

My uncle, mom's half bro was born 19 years before my mother was and not of much help.

He was too young and newly married when their mother fell so ill.

( He marreid a Hungarian lady)

I am not suggesting anyone even think of chaining up your MIL.

I know there is a nice senior home near the city park, wish I could remember the name of the place.

We met a very old couple in the park a couple years ago who sold their little farm and moved into the home. They loved it. I susspect some homes are nice, so no worries or quilt about placing her in one if needed.

There are many such places in the city, not sure exactly what level of care each place offers but a doctor may be a good place to get answers.

I think I have to go home if I ever find myself in such a pickle.

What a nightmare to be in a home in Hungary and not be able to communicate with the other residents.

At least she is in her home country and they should take decent care of her.

Some,"golden years" more like you need a pot of gold to be able to live an old age.

    I do hope a solution is found soon for your MIL.
What a way to start out the year.
My friend in N. Ca's mom had dementia.
They had to put her in a group home towards the end.
She was doing dangerous things such as leaving the gas on etc.
Shame, she was so classy and such a good mom.
She and her husband wanted to be my foster parents,they thought my mom had her hands full with all her children and I would benefit by living with them.
Super people. Her father had been a fire dept. engineer.. driivng the firetrucks in LA County and a Boy Scout Leader. Sort of super community minded type people.
They kept my friends mom at home until things got too dangerus and visited her all the time in the care home.She was in her early 90's.
IDK , my family doesn't tend to live long enough to get dementia but sometimes they do make me wonder.
It would be nice if someone could stay with her short term until a solution is found.
It's too hard to move her into your home and would be a huge change for the family to do that.
My grandmother was very ill in her mid 40's, lost her mind and had to be chained to the bed post to not get herself into trouble. It was hard for my mother and
aunt as young children to see her in that state for a few years.
My mom and aunt were from her second husband, my grandfather.
My uncle, mom's half bro was born 19 years before my mother was and not of much help.
He was too young and newly married when their mother fell so ill.
( He marreid a Hungarian lady)
I am not suggesting anyone even think of chaining up your MIL.

I know there is a nice senior home near the city park, wish I could remember the name of the place.
We met a very old couple in the park a couple years ago who sold their little farm and moved into the home. They loved it. I susspect some homes are nice, so no worries or quilt about placing her in one if needed.
There are many such places in the city, not sure exactly what level of care each place offers but a doctor may be a good place to get answers.
I think I have to go home if I ever find myself in such a pickle.
What a nightmare to be in a home in Hungary and not be able to communicate with the other residents.
At least she is in her home country and they should take decent care of her.
Some,"golden years" more like you need a pot of gold to be able to live an old age.
   

    -@Marilyn Tassy

Docs have said there's nothing they can do about her mind - no medication for it.  She had a stroke a while back and it's just affected her mind, eyesight and so on.  Then there's the kidney failure and looming heart condition. It's just death by a thousand cuts.  She's probably middle stage so I reckon not more than 3 years and probably within 1 year, she won't know anything at all - where she is, who is who, what her name is.

Mrs F was over there this morning and she's better but that's one of those things - OK one minute and mad as hatter the next.   Dementia people are good at hiding their disease. It all seems very reasonable and then suddenly they do something off the wall or in her case, really dangerous.

I've heard anecdotes that chaining them to the bed or locking them in causes all sorts of problems - in the UK anyway.  If they can get to the phone, they can call the cops who then have to intervene in a medical issue.  They usually say the son/daughter/carer/relative/whoever is preventing them leaving and has kidnapped them.  Of course when the cops arrive, the carer whoever that is has to explain the person has dementia but the sufferer can bluff their way past the cops.  So they have to be released because the cops don't get it.  And the next day the cops are involved again as the sufferer is on the bus in their pyjamas and slippers going who knows where to roam the streets lost. 

Mrs F's grandfather used to go to Budapest on the bus and would end up sitting in churches most of the night.  He tended to go to the same ones.  So if he disappeared he'd be in the church or at his old office.  He used to think he still worked there.   The people at the office were kind and knew him and would look after him, then phone to say he was there and someone would come and collect him.

Where my parents lived, a woman got trapped in the stairwell.  She went down the stairs and the fire door closed behind her and she was trapped in there and couldn't work out how to operate the door.  It was one with a pushbar used to escape in an emergency.  So she was stuck there for some hours while the entire building was searched.

Anyway, Mrs F has got on to some "helper" who will find my MIL a place.  It's a bit of a nightmare.   There's no-one to go and stay in the interim.  Everyone has their own kids and there aren't enough relatives to work on it.  Not a large enough family to have sufficient resources. We've had some contact with homes but some of them say no to dementia patients.   That's a problem, they have to go somewhere.  The State does nothing here. If she was at home on her own with no-one to check on her, she'd just die through neglect.

I'm of the opinion she has to go somewhere, anywhere even.  I cannot see that being in the same village will make any difference.  She doesn't seem to know where she is anyway.  We can sell it on the basis it's a holiday and then eventually she'll just forget about why she is there.   It's a muddle!

It's defo not easy.

My granny had to be chained up because it was just her, 2 small girls and an old lady.

Her sisters helped at bit but they didn't live with them.

This was in the 1930's when the social welfare just did not exsist.

My mother was 11 years old or there abouts when she often had to miss school to watch her mother and do the cleaning up, washing sheets by hand and drying them outside in the winter.

Like some sad 3rd world country but in the USA.

Total Grapes of Wrath times.

No care for my mother and aunt and their elderly granny and her sick mother.

It was family takes care of the ill or they go into some insitution where God only knows what they did to you.

My grandfather was not all that helpful. I think they had broken up as a couple by then.

Funny how the old stories get lost.

My granny was out of her mind but she had a STD which had no cure in the day.

Now everyone sleeps around with whoever, whatever and just pops a pill  or gets a jab if they get ill.

My mother was super strict with us after seeing how much her mother suffered and how much she suffered growing up with an ill parent.

Makes you sort of understand the,"older" generations fear during the free-love days of the 60's. They grew up in a time where getting an STD was a death sentence.

Sort of like AIDS was when it first started.

Yes, it really wouldn't matter much where your MIL found a care home, city, countryside or close by.

Perhaps they have an agency that could sit with her until a place is found?

I'm sure it will be solved very soon.

So many, many posts on Weather (even if interesting) and Brexit. But what stories about neighbours, dogs and cats, theather, clubs (football, chess, knitting, gardening), stories about restaurants, shops, public transport, ... So many interesting topics (where they are?)

Theathers by the way can be very good (and I have to say cheap), I think we went at least twice per month.

Restaurants at least a week and a home deliver once per week on top.

I sound (as usual) confused, I know, but I love to follow the forum.

    So many, many posts on Weather (even if interesting) and Brexit. But what stories about neighbours, dogs and cats, theather, clubs (football, chess, knitting, gardening), stories about restaurants, shops, public transport, ... So many interesting topics (where they are?)Theathers by the way can be very good (and I have to say cheap), I think we went at least twice per month.Restaurants at least a week and a home deliver once per week on top.I sound (as usual) confused, I know, but I love to follow the forum.        -@cdw057

There is discussion but some of it is embedded elsewhere unrelated to the topic in question.  I'm very guilty of going off-topic.

I often see sales pitches for houses in Hungary and they always talk about theatres as an attraction.    That's just rubbish unless you speak the language or it's musical theatre or opera which needs no translation (or not much).  Years ago, Mrs F and I went to the opera - we saw Carmen sung in Italian or Spanish (cannot remember).  There cannot have been more than about 50 people in the performance.  We went in the afternoon so a bit unsurprising. We didn't go after that.  You have to be dedicated to spend time doing that. I'd rather spend time on clearing up my shed.

In any case, people aren't going out as much.  The cost of living crisis has stopped people going to restaurants, pubs and cinemas.  It might improve when prices have reduced (haha, ever?) and the weather improved.  It was -3C this morning and -7C yesterday.  Sure, it's sunny but you wouldn't really want to be out there unless you really had to.  Winter is always about hibernation.

And there are just so many domestic matters to deal with. 

Today I'm going to look at a giant pile of wood from cut down dangerous trees.  They are in my MIL's garden. I'm planning to go over there when the weather is slightly warmer next week to chainsaw it, stack it for a couple of years in the future.   There must be 2 or 3 tonnes of it.   And one of the cars is having its oil and filters changed.   Windows need washing.  Xmas tree has to come down.  Something wrong with one of my outside light sensors and lights so they need replacing.  Kids are having school exams.  I'm going to assemble an Ikea cupboard but I have to collect it.   Mrs Fluffy and I have to go to the supermarket for weekend stuff.   We are running out of recipe ideas.

Oh yes, and work/the job to do and more travel for that!  I don't really have time to go to work but meh, it pays the bills (just about).  I can almost see February around the corner.  My diary is already getting full up.  Ay caramba.

    So many, many posts on Weather (even if interesting) and Brexit. But what stories about neighbours, dogs and cats, theather, clubs (football, chess, knitting, gardening), stories about restaurants, shops, public transport, ... So many interesting topics (where they are?)
Theathers by the way can be very good (and I have to say cheap), I think we went at least twice per month.
Restaurants at least a week and a home deliver once per week on top.

I sound (as usual) confused, I know, but I love to follow the forum.
   

    -@cdw057

We can't force people to post topics......

It's an open forum, so people can post what ever they like. As you you know there are only a few active members on the Hungarian forum. There is the off topic thread, that covers everything.

@fluffy2560 One thing I have to say, sometimes theater does not need language, can be a musical performance or even dance performance.

The below came to Keszthely and I really enjoyed (very, very good)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7a1jcQxJpU&t=4560s

But also normal performances from groups (one does not need a language)

Yes I left, but I miss a bit the concerts and others (cheap I have to say)

A few VERY good memories (at least 10 or 20 over the 7 years in Hungary)

Also some completely for free and can also be good.

Yes, I have been twice to Hungarian National Folk Dance concerts in Budapest. Once, with my daughter who came all the way from the UK.  Unfotgetable.

Hello everyone,

I think these posts should be moved to the Absolutely anything else thread ... what are your thoughts about that ?

Regards

Bhavna

    @fluffy2560 One thing I have to say, sometimes theater does not need language, can be a musical performance or even dance performance.       -@cdw057

I actually said that in my post. 

I've been to dance performances and it was OK. One of our kids was performing in the show so we had special interest.  Concerts, sure, they are OK but I was a bit bored when I saw Omega (before they all died of COVID and cancer).  Omega were the Hungarian "Rolling Stones". 

But ordinary plays  etc, forget it.    I was at one of those and I had ants in my pants fidgeting . Utter waste of time.

The big blockbuster shows like Les Miserables that one would see in London etc., they are few and far between here. Mrs F has told me we should go and see Cats here in Hungary.    More memorably, I saw Les Miserables and Starlight Express in London at famous London theatres.  Both were stunningly well produced shows with very high production values.  I am not sure if it'd be possible to beat that here.  If the Abba holographic show comes to Hungary, we might see that as the tunes are timeless.

What we do now if going to the cinema is to check the other films on at the same time. I might go to the film I want to see  in English and the others go to a Hungarian one. We just wait for each other until both are finished.  If there's a film we all want to see, we usually watch it in English.

Must be a fairly typical dual language family life!

    Hello everyone,
I think these posts should be moved to the Absolutely anything else thread ... what are your thoughts about that ?

Regards
Bhavna
   

    -@Bhavna

Yes, they should be there really.

Hello everyone,

Please note that posts 9029 - 9036 has been added to this thread of the Hungary forum for better interaction.

All the best

Bhavna

@Bhavna

I have written 2 long stories this week and sent them to the Forum. However, they do not seem to have arrived. Can you throw any light on this please? Its hours of work.

    @Bhavna
I have written 2 long stories this week and sent them to the Forum. However, they do not seem to have arrived. Can you throw any light on this please? Its hours of work.
   

    -@skusekenneth

Where did you send or post them?

I have notified Bhavna.

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@skusekenneth

Hello, do you have access to your timeline : https://www.expat.com/forum/profile.php … n=timeline

Is this the post you are looking for : https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.p … 35#5835971

Regards

Bhavna