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Irish man suspected of killing US nurse arrested in Hungary - @SimCityAT
Oh no. I just read the link.
Disgusting and sad.
Too bad she did not tell her friends what was going on before she went off with a nutter stranger.
People sometimes drop their guard when on holiday and really it is the time to be on guard.
Hope he serves time in a Hungarian prison, he will be so very sorry, and sore! - @Marilyn Tassy

They seem quite lenient here. I bet he'll only get 10 years for it if found to be the perp.  And he won't get life. Or hard labour. Or the death sentence. I guess they'll eventually transfer him to Ireland to finish his sentence.

BTW, interestingly Norway has "life" sentences but the maximum is 21 years.  I read about it when there was an appeal for Brevik who killed 69 people and injured many more. I think they are changing the law there because such a dangerous person should not be let out - ever.

Hungary is in the newsI
Irish man suspected of killing US nurse arrested in Hungary - @SimCityAT
Oh no. I just read the link.
Disgusting and sad.
Too bad she did not tell her friends what was going on before she went off with a nutter stranger.
People sometimes drop their guard when on holiday and really it is the time to be on guard.
Hope he serves time in a Hungarian prison, he will be so very sorry, and sore! - @Marilyn Tassy
Well the crime happened in Hungary so he will serve his time there.
- @SimCityAT

  OH boy, he is in for a good time!

Hungary is in the newsI
Irish man suspected of killing US nurse arrested in Hungary - @SimCityAT
Oh no. I just read the link.
Disgusting and sad.
Too bad she did not tell her friends what was going on before she went off with a nutter stranger.
People sometimes drop their guard when on holiday and really it is the time to be on guard.
Hope he serves time in a Hungarian prison, he will be so very sorry, and sore! - @Marilyn Tassy
They seem quite lenient here. I bet he'll only get 10 years for it if found to be the perp. And he won't get life. Or hard labour. Or the death sentence. I guess they'll eventually transfer him to Ireland to finish his sentence.

BTW, interestingly Norway has "life" sentences but the maximum is 21 years. I read about it when there was an appeal for Brevik who killed 69 people and injured many more. I think they are changing the law there because such a dangerous person should not be let out - ever.
- @fluffy2560

Brevik, I think he is the crazy guy who killed all those young people on an Island when they were there for some sort of political camp? Politics and crazy people, just like the melt downs people are having in the US over Trump.

I know Hungarian prisons are not party, he might not make it 10 years.

Lots of wild Gypsy gangs inside.

My husband and his friend were picked up at work one day because some loose chick said they took advantage of her.

No, my husband was passed out drunk and never said two words to her.

She willingly went off with his friend and later had buyers remorse.

Made up stories.

She broke down in court and spilled the beans, told the truth.

Too late really, they had been locked up for about 2 months. My poor MIL was losing her mind, hired a lawyer and husband was told after that he could sue her and the gov.

He had enough of it all and let it slide although his friend had to be restrained from not doing her in outside the courthouse.

It was just holding for 2 months, not a real prison and it was bad.

No luxury at all,had to sit for hours each and every day and listen over and over again about the rules.

Had to use the WC in front of several other people.

prisons in countries like Norway look nicer then many flats do.

Soft on crime.

Japan, wow, the are super strict with inmates. You have to sit of the floor in one of two approved postures and not move for hours.

No talking with each other even when getting meals.

Jail only an idiot would find themselves locked up; My husband admits he was young and foolish, thought girls were nice back then but afterwards thought many were not what they appeared to be.Again is was innocent but in commie days you were guilty until proven so.

@fluffy2560

No one in the EU can have the death sentence anyway. It's banned 🚫

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No one in the EU can have the death sentence anyway. It's banned 🚫 - @SimCityAT

Sometimes living is worst then death.

The daily pressure of being locked up, not knowing who is going to try and get you every day and eating terrible food will shorten their lives.

Terrible to anyone innocent but in this case it is pretty open and shut.

@fluffy2560
No one in the EU can have the death sentence anyway. It's banned 🚫  - @SimCityAT
Sometimes living is worst then death.
The daily pressure of being locked up, not knowing who is going to try and get you every day and eating terrible food will shorten their lives.
Terrible to anyone innocent but in this case it is pretty open and shut. - @Marilyn Tassy

I don't agree with the death penalty anyway, mistakes happen. I'd rather have the person suffering locked up.

@fluffy2560
No one in the EU can have the death sentence anyway. It's banned 🚫 - @SimCityAT

Yes indeed, it's EU wide but I think UK used to have death sentences for treason and sabotage but that may be apocryphal.

I don't agree with the death penalty anyway, mistakes happen. I'd rather have the person suffering locked up. - @SimCityAT

I don't either because of the chances of miscarriages of justice.

Btw, Trump's mentor Cohn was a prosecutor for the Rosenberg spies and he demanded the death sentence.  And they were indeed executed. It might have some bearing on justice downstream of Trump's win.

Brevik, I think he is the crazy guy who killed all those young people on an Island when they were there for some sort of political camp? Politics and crazy people, just like the melt downs people are having in the US over Trump.
I know Hungarian prisons are not party, he might not make it 10 years.
Lots of wild Gypsy gangs inside.
My husband and his friend were picked up at work one day because some loose chick said they took advantage of her.
No, my husband was passed out drunk and never said two words to her.
She willingly went off with his friend and later had buyers remorse.
Made up stories.
She broke down in court and spilled the beans, told the truth.
Too late really, they had been locked up for about 2 months. My poor MIL was losing her mind, hired a lawyer and husband was told after that he could sue her and the gov.
He had enough of it all and let it slide although his friend had to be restrained from not doing her in outside the courthouse.
It was just holding for 2 months, not a real prison and it was bad.
No luxury at all,had to sit for hours each and every day and listen over and over again about the rules.
Had to use the WC in front of several other people.
prisons in countries like Norway look nicer then many flats do.
Soft on crime.
Japan, wow, the are super strict with inmates. You have to sit of the floor in one of two approved postures and not move for hours.
No talking with each other even when getting meals.
Jail only an idiot would find themselves locked up; My husband admits he was young and foolish, thought girls were nice back then but afterwards thought many were not what they appeared to be.Again is was innocent but in commie days you were guilty until proven so. - @Marilyn Tassy

Yup, Brevik is the guy who killed all those people.  Norwegian prisons look quite nice compared to other countries.  I expect people could survive there quite well for some time. There's no abuse as they don't torture prisoners.  But of course Brevik, could end up being murdered by another inmate seeking revenge so I believe they keep him in solitary.  No-one would be crying over his demise as he's quite clearly a very dangerous person with extreme and deadly beliefs.   Norway is civilised.

Talking of justice, I wonder what they are going to do with Trump.  Looks like he's going to escape justice for many of his cases.  But I want to know what will happen on his civil case for assault.  He owes buckets of money for that.  If I was the plaintiff, I'd want my money before he gets into office and his acolytes can twist it up. Trump could loses Mar-a-Lago or Trump Tower.   That'd be an interesting diversion.

BTW:

My MIL is once again in the hospital.  It looks like we're in the final phases.  She can no longer eat or open her mouth.  Her breathing may be erratic Cheyne-Stokes breathing.

I've not seen this myself, I only know 2nd hand info from Mrs F as I'm not going to the hospital.   

The docs scanned her brain and while there's no stroke, half of it is no longer working.  They say they cannot do anything and the diagnosis is end-stage Parkinson's disease.

I don't see her lasting more than a few days to a couple of weeks.

BTW:
My MIL is once again in the hospital. It looks like we're in the final phases. She can no longer eat or open her mouth. Her breathing may be erratic Cheyne-Stokes breathing.

I've not seen this myself, I only know 2nd hand info from Mrs F as I'm not going to the hospital.

The docs scanned her brain and while there's no stroke, half of it is no longer working. They say they cannot do anything and the diagnosis is end-stage Parkinson's disease.

I don't see her lasting more than a few days to a couple of weeks. - @fluffy2560

Sorry to hear this, my thoughts are with you and your family.

Sorry to hear this, my thoughts are with you and your family. - @Cynic

Thanks.

The local nurse says she won't go past the end of the month.  Sad but really, she needs to go asap.  There's no quality of life. Kind of relevant due to the assisted dying bill discussions going on in the UK.  Nothing like that here.

I am very surprised that the decline has been so fast.  Only about 4 months ago, she could walk but now she's completely rigid and cannot do anything.  Not even open her eyes.  Completely unresponsive.  The others in the ward say she doesn't move, doesn't speak and is not engaged at all.  I think she's gone into the hospital and isn't coming back.  When it happens, it will still be a shock.

If I had my marbles and was in that state, and could give consent,  I'd be thinking about getting someone to drive me to Switzerland.

I am so sorry.

Mrs Fluffy must be very stressed and upset.

Not fun to see your mother looking helpless but I do believe she is not in  pain and might be like my brother was while in his medical coma. He thought he was dreaming and not afraid.

Make sure Mrs Fluffy is staying hydrated and not letting herself get run down because of stress.

I am so sorry.Mrs Fluffy must be very stressed and upset.Not fun to see your mother looking helpless but I do believe she is not in pain and might be like my brother was while in his medical coma. He thought he was dreaming and not afraid.Make sure Mrs Fluffy is staying hydrated and not letting herself get run down because of stress. - @Marilyn Tassy

Thanks for those kind thoughts.

Mrs F is indeed very stressed.  She cannot see the point in prolonging her Mum's suffering further.  Yet of course, here, they'll be trying to keep her alive rather than making her comfortable. 

With my Mum, she was in pain (heart failure) so they drugged her so that her passing wasn't painful.  They didn't try to keep her alive as they knew she'd pass fairly soon. Took about a week.

The MIL is not getting any sleep inducing medication, she's just stuck in a rigid/frozen state.  With her brain half gone, I expect she's not sure what is going on at all.  With patience apparently they can get her to say some words but it seems a tremendous effort from both sides.

Maybe she'll be gone by the weekend.  However, knowing life, it really lingers.  It wants to continue, even if it's pointless. 

Now Mrs F thinks she's shutting down and the dying process is underway. Whatever is happening now is a change from before.

They might discharge her back to her home as there's nothing to be done but she needs a drip to keep her going and the only one who can do that is the GP.  We're sensing reluctance to come and visit each day to put a new drip on.  The GP has a bit of a reputation amongst the gossipers in the village.

Anyway, we'll see.  Once it's over, there's no rush to do anything.  The pressure will be off.   Just a funeral to arrange.  When she's gone, I reckon she'll be buried within a few days in typical HU style.

So utterly sad.

When these life changing events happen in our lives we change as well.

Not a fear but more of a overall inner sadness that never goes away.

This is an issue we all must face sooner or later but of course we all want it to happen never or at least not today or anytime soon.

If she is that far gone with no hope of getting better, you would hope they would make sure she is not in any pain at all.

Not sure how hard it is to change an IV drip but it seems best for Mrs; Fluffy mental health that a medical person does those sorts of details

My cousin took care of her bed ridden mother for over 2 years, maybe it was 3 years?

My aunt was mentally fine, just had advanced breast cancer that went to her bones.

I used to chat with her every so often on the phone but even that got to me.

She had allot of faith and her church people visited her often. She excepted she was going out.

My step father spoke with us when we visited him towards his last few months.*He knew he was leaving soon and it is not a subject most of us want to hear. Hard to know what to say in this sort of situation. Hate to say, yes we know your leaving and it is rude to brush it off too.

My auntie and step dad were given heavy pain meds which were given at home by their caregivers, my cousin and mother.

Many times I fine here in HU they hate to give out pain meds. Not sure that is. I was never even asked by my radiation oncologist if I need any or not!

My GP asked and said she would give me some if needed; I never asked but most people need something.

Even an anxiety pill is good.

Please make sure Mrs Fluffy is not over stressed by home issues and outside problems right now; I am sure she is very confused inside and may not want to show it.

I know when I was ill I tried to never let on to my husband how freaked out I was. I could see he was so upset and sad that I did not need to upset him more. I swear, there are a few months that are totally a blank to me.

The human mind has ways of shutting out bad thoughts if needed.

ATM, my friend in now Vegas is going into the hospital today to find out why she has not been able to eat for a week and has stomach pain;

I know it is because they just moved back to Vegas from the high desert home in AZ.

2 long months of packing giving things away and dealing with a stupid rude buyer.

They are still staying in a hotel till Friday Vegas time.

She has worked herself up sick.

I am hoping she is just dehydrated and needs some sleep.

Not worth upsetting yourself over things you can not change.

I pray your MIL has a smooth passing if this is the only curse left for her life.

Well of course it had to happen, done my back in again. I have no idea what I did.

I was only fixing a key safe to the wall.

I was buying one for the FIL ( he isn't in great health, so if anyone needs to get in, we don't have to piss about who has the spare key, or if the emergency services need to get in) and as it was only €4 so I got myself one, as I have a friend who often stays over if he is working late. He only works 20 mins from me, but lives a good hour away.

Also we often lock ourselves out.

I never did complete the job. Damn screws they gave, were shit. So tried to find some from our vast selection, must have pulled it bending down. Oh well.

I should have gone to the hospital yesterday, but I insisted I just need rest, a hot water bottle and I will be fine. Well it did take effort getting up this morning with a lot of pain. The hospital would have just given me an IV. Which is great for the first day, but then wears off.

I guess it's a sign of old age 😂 I'm only 50, but forget that Ive got a weak back.

Has anyone bout anything from Temu? They have a load of cheap stuff, so thought I'd give them a try. Free shipping and returns so I didn't have anything to loose. Surprisingly the stuff I ordered was pretty good.

Got some boxers shorts. Some razors, a stand for my tablet, and a mobile phone holder for the car.

Well of course it had to happen, done my back in again. I have no idea what I did.
I was only fixing a key safe to the wall.

I was buying one for the FIL ( he isn't in great health, so if anyone needs to get in, we don't have to piss about who has the spare key, or if the emergency services need to get in) and as it was only €4 so I got myself one, as I have a friend who often stays over if he is working late. He only works 20 mins from me, but lives a good hour away.
Also we often lock ourselves out.
I never did complete the job. Damn screws they gave, were shit. So tried to find some from our vast selection, must have pulled it bending down. Oh well.
I should have gone to the hospital yesterday, but I insisted I just need rest, a hot water bottle and I will be fine. Well it did take effort getting up this morning with a lot of pain. The hospital would have just given me an IV. Which is great for the first day, but then wears off.

I guess it's a sign of old age 😂 I'm only 50, but forget that Ive got a weak back. - @SimCityAT

We've got one of those boxes but in true Fluffy Family style, we've forgotten the code.  So now I wonder how to get in it.  We could go through all 10,000 codes but no-one's got the patience and we cannot get it off the wall. It's got a key in it but I don't know what the key is for.   I could chisel it out and then sit at my desk going through every code one by one.  I could hand over to each member of the family and any visitors and they could do 100 each.

It seems to me if you do your back in, it never recovers.  Mrs Fluffy is now complaining too.  I was complaining already for some years.  I think I've got sciatica due to dodgy spine muscles.  It's no fun.

It's always bad for me at night.  I cannot sleep well sometimes.  I was moving some plant pots around this afternoon and even with precautions I know I'm going to pay for it tomorrow.   Usually I can get sleep until about 3.30-4am, then I have to sit up and do something else like read for an hour or move around a bit.   Eventually I nod off again but then I cannot get up.  Really I should get up and just get on with some jobs and snooze after lunch.  But if I'm doing stuff, I'll wake everyone else up.

My MIL is really not good. The nurses tell all visitors to come each day. It could be the end any day now.   I was there yesterday.  She sleeps all day in her hospital bed. Mrs F was there today and she didn't wake up at all.  She's got high blood pressure now which seems unusual for someone going.  She's gone very white but I did not see her looking mottled - sign of the end.  Urine is looking only slightly dark (catheter is in) - often an indicator of failing kidneys/organs (only one kidney works anyway).   

I looked at the others in the ward. It was clear the woman next to the MIL is really on the way out.  Intermittent breathing going on.  Others look more reasonable if mostly comatose. 

The MIL has two cats living in the garden and have been there years.  I say one of them (the nicer looking one) should come here to join the existing cat and dog.   The other one seems to have a part time home somewhere else and is as ugly as sin with flat ears.

I've said we can take the transplanted cat for a vet check - chipping, neutering, vaccinations, fleas and general sorting out.  The other cat isn't seen enough to consider adoption.  It looks like we have to do something about them as no-one is there now.  It's all a bit of the final actions as the MIL isn't coming home.  I don't know how the "nice" cat will like living somewhere else - it might run away.

Has anyone bout anything from Temu? They have a load of cheap stuff, so thought I'd give them a try. Free shipping and returns so I didn't have anything to loose. Surprisingly the stuff I ordered was pretty good.
Got some boxers shorts. Some razors, a stand for my tablet, and a mobile phone holder for the car. - @SimCityAT

I'm getting stuff on AliExpress as I'm usually buying equipment rather than clothes etc.  I have also been buying stuff on US Amazon.  Their global shipping programme is a game changer for bringing in US only stuff to Hungary - I'm buying car parts for my hobby car.  Schein is also big here and there are some other shops that have cheapie stuff.