5 year Anniversary

This post is for my lovely wife and to provide some information on marriage to a VN woman with a man from the USA. 

First, I have to say that my VN wife is more than I could have dreamed.  We met 7 years ago and now will be married for 5 years and have a lovely daughter.  I was once single and skeptical like a lot of single men and for sure, I read, heard and experienced some partners that were looking for an ATM and not a husband.

However, I was working with VN women in the USA (married, but raised and educated in VN) and so I knew that all the negatives we hear about VN women did not apply to the general population.  I kept the faith and hoped that I would be lucky to meet a good person.  What is strange, I was at the point that I was just going to give up and settle on being single for the rest of my life.  But then, VOILA.

I met my wife and we were just casual friends, at least in my eyes LOL.  I have to say that I put her to the test on multiple occasions, but not once did she ever behave or react in a way that would raise a red flag, actually the opposite.  For example, one time I did not have enough money to pay and she paid without hesitation, actually very happy to pay.  Later that day I tried to repay her and she refused to take the money and said to me "if i take your money, I will feel farther away from you."   I was stunned!

Of course, after we became serious, she put me to the test as well to ensure I was serious.  For example, we were in Saigon and one day she just acted like she was upset with me.  I was like, what the hell?  I never got mad, upset, did not yell, but I was nice to her and trying to understand her.  Once she realized I was not going to react negatively, she looked at me and smiled and said "wow, I can't believe you did not get upset with me." 

I won the lottery, really.  You can read about traditional VN women and all their amazing characteristics.  Some do not believe it, but I am here to tell you and confirm, YES, they are alive and well.  I never imagined I would meet someone that I thought was a fairy tale.  But I was wrong.  My wife and I have never argued, never yelled, never raised our voices, nor had a fight and we are going on 5 years of marriage and a daughter.  Have we had disagreements?  Yes, but they never get out of hand.  If we get frustrated, we sit quietly for awhile until we figure out a way to resolve it.  She taught me that and it was taught to her by her parents.  It works extremely well.

My wife has never smoked or drank alcohol, not even wine!  I have tried believe me.  What amazes me more, she has never said a bad word, ever.  So you know what that means for me, it has been a challenge, LOL.  But honestly, it helps a lot and I rarely ever say a bad word these days.

Finally, I have to give her credit for the way she loves me and our family.  It is hard to express in writing, but for those in similar marriages, I am sure you understand.  She is so dedicated to our marriage, daughter and family.  Although many hear spoken words, but having those feelings inside your heart and soul and knowing how authentic and deep they are, is nothing short of perfection.  Having someone by your side that supports you in everything you do without hesitation is priceless.  For those who are not yet married, the constant texting, asking did you eat lunch at work, how was your day, telling you thank you even for the smallest things etc. does not stop after marriage.

So mates, I pray that you are as lucky as me.  Thank you for reading this long message.