Expat With Kids From Previous Marriage

moonunit0103 wrote:

A) I do not believe in supporting adult children so they can live beyond their means, but I guess that makes me an exception these days. 
B) men have their own issues to deal with.
C) thinks I am somehow a walking ATM.

Omho to A), B) & C)
A) Neither do I....I was a sole bread winner & provided for the best education possible (for all 3 of my now adult kids wif college degrees) something I myself never fully received when I was younger + I still support them in my own way by paying for some private insurance policies which I took up when they were abt 3yrs old & that will be passed on to them when the time comes...of course thats on top of my very own life insurance payouts.
B) Hell yeah...we do have a hell of a lot making sure all is well/safe at home for all family members all of the time. (Thats an inbuilt characteristic which I was brought up with & never to spend/ live a life beyond ones means)
C) The thought of me being a Walking ATM does not happen at HOME base as my kids all know how their dad had to fend for them through their growing up years & ensure all loose ends were taken care of....however HERE it was a whole different story & I have taken some steps to ensure that I do NOT appear in any shape or form as a walking/talking ATM machine...thats still work in progress here. (I'll start a seperate topic on this  )

moonunit0103 wrote:

it seems after a FB exchange with my oldest daughter, 33, I am now estranged from all 3 of my kids. This is after buying her a PortoCrib two days ago for her second baby due in April.  She seems really miffed that I have not sent her money, despite her husband making 6 figures as an IT Manager.

Sad to hear     
No chance/risk    I would support any grown up child behaving like that...
Does she behave like that when not pregnant too?
It's allowed though to behave some odd and bad when pregnant and soon after birth, because of the hormons can make pregnant women crazy - and their men too by actions   

((My parents have offered me money some times, but I have allways said "No thanks" whole my life, wanting to manage myself.  Among the first I learned to say was "Can myself!"    During college too. I  borrowed instead to the semester I went there before I skiped it because I found them teaching to slow     and to unmodern - they hadn't even included the best method in the course, which I had learned many years earlier. But I accepted to get the heritage from my father rather recently, then I wanted my share.
I expect my kids will have similar oppinion as I had. Oterwice I will "force" them to by not giving them money      But perhaps I can think of supporting College/Univercity by it's harder for kids in Phils to finance their education themselves. (There are "Working students" program where poor Filipinos get a combination of education and paid work so they can finance themselves, but better if my kids don't occupy such spot, and concentrate at finnish the edication fast. )  But if they don't need exam to be allowed to work with what they want, then I prefer they do as I did and skip college and do self studies. They can get work in the family business or start own business as I did. No need of exam to get work in own business   

too many external influence ruin kids today

culture is what used to make kids strong

now there only one culture world over and that is pop culture aka crap culture

I have an update.  My entitled daughter has blocked me and my wife on FB.  Maybe it is for the best.

I would rather give money to deserving kids here than to my uncaring and ungrateful offspring.

Jesse777 wrote:

too many external influence ruin kids today
culture is what used to make kids strong
now there only one culture world over and that is pop culture aka crap culture

Yes. Here parents drive kids to sport exersises!!!

((Back when I were kid some of  my days during High school were:
school > basketball until they got tired > fast dinner  > football until they got tired > tracking field until janitor threw us out, they didn't got tired, big part of them were national elite in long distance running >home and did homework when normal people slept... These exersices where in different places and I did run between them. 
Result - I got super stamina. 33 per minute rest pulse still 2 years after I stoped exersising (by injury).