I met a dominican girl about 10 years ago while on a long vacation here. I never bought her things, she actually bought me a gift. She was the only girl I was with from a small town. I work internationally and there was a language barrier. We both agreed at the time to keep it casual. She learned English about 5 years ago, and we hit it off. She had wrote a love story about our past time together as one of her English projects. I spent the next two years trying to do things the right way: meeting her family, introducing her to my family, but I also paid for our trips. I was planning a big proposal when she asked me. I found it cute at the time, like she beat me to the punch type of deal. The wedding was huge for the small town, remembered fondly to this day by everyone. I entered an owner finance deal for a house there with Americans (still to this day owned by them, and I still pay monthly so hopefully not communal property). We had planned to move internationally until COVID wrecked those plans. She insisted heavily that we trash those plans and move states side. I warned her that we had procrastinated on her immigration and I would have to change careers. This would be a tough move. She had been to see my family many times, and thought next to them would be the place to move. She was crying on our porch in the DR for three days before we left. I begged her to let us stay there through COVID, but she refused. She only made it 2 months states side until she asked to head back to our house while I got everything in order. After 3 days she stopped communicating. I returned to surprise her on Valentine's day and also knowing something was wrong. She looked dead in the eyes as I talked to her. She then ran away from me, our house, and even her family and friends. Her sister was living in the house while we were states side. I come back to the house after a week to give time for things to calm, and they emptied the place. All things paid for by me. Then the Chapia rumors start flying. She is living with her boyfriend, he's been in your house, she has always chased money. I couldn't get a straight answer from anybody of course, especially her, and the town essential ran her out. There were a number of mutual home town Dominican friends that refused to talk to her. She would send messages like it just not work out and then she would beg me to talk because all the people in the town are "trying to ruin her life with talk". There are maybe 2-3 matriarchal older female types that I know are good people. They all kept saying she is a good person with a good heart. But she would not tell me where she was staying or with whom. I got so confused and then fed up, that I finally threatened an email to the state department just to get her to sit down face to face after about a month of this. To this day, I never got any of the stuff back and I'm now talking with a lawyer. The only thing she keeps saying is we have to divorce after all that happened when you come here and, we can stay friends if you want. She hasn't once asked for money after she left the states, has not tried to get citizenship before the divorce, and still has not come back to town regularly since I returned states side.
First: Can anyone help with advice on divorce? It was a civil action done there.
Second: In the opinion of the forum, did I marry a small town chapidora?