Hi, my girlfriend is Dutch and we have been in a long distance relationship for 5 years already. We started the application in July and thinking that it would take maximum 3 months unless very exceptional circumstances. I resigned from my job and I was ready to move when we started the application. So far I am in a limbo situation, as I cannot really start any new job in my country because I could get the approval any time, but I can't travel and see my girlfriend because it is not allowed. The three months have passed, and they told us it could take even three more months.
I started having anxiety attacks as I feel like they are in control of my life. Since the application I am living in a hostel and I feel no matter what, I can't move on, I am at their mercy. At this point I thought I was going to be in the Netherlands with my partner, starting a new life and looking for a job. What is the deadline supposed to mean if it can really take as much time as they like? We are afraid that if we file a complaint so that they do it within two weeks, it might affect the results. Its not even guaranteed that I will get the visa, all this uncertainty is damaging my mental health as weeks pass without any news. This is very dehumanizing, I feel we are not treated with dignity. Have any of you experienced something similar? How did you go through this process?
