I'm getting nagged at

Why do both of you spend money on such crap?

Instead, invest it in lasting values like a house or education for your kids!

    Why do both of you spend money on such crap?
Instead, invest it in lasting values like a house or education for your kids!
   

    -@beppi

Education is free for my two.

We will buy a house upon retirement

I love electronic toys

@beppi

well kids are real value I agree, but house no longer as this was the good old motto, until ***

Education is free for my two.
We will buy a house upon retirement
I love electronic toys

And she loves her stuff.

Since you have the money, there is nothing to worry (and nag) about. Or is there?

    Education is free for my two. We will buy a house upon retirement I love electronic toys

And she loves her stuff.
Since you have the money, there is nothing to worry (and nag) about. Or is there?
   

    -@beppi

The point is, I'm the nagee, not a nagger.

Is this acceptable given she's spending more?

01/05/23  We have a joint account that we both have access to and fund to an agreed-upon level every month, and from which all of our household and joint expenses are paid.  I have my account that only I can access, my husband has his own account that only he can access.  As long as the joint account is fully funded, neither offers opinions on expenditures from the other's personal account unless asked.

It's not a setup that will necessarily work for everyone, but it works great for us.

@Fred

maybe she sees the jewelry as an investment and the electronics as an spent that you won't be able to sell for the same money you paid for it... I usually get the same issue unless I get an electronic that can be useful or interesting for her...

    @Fred
maybe she sees the jewelry as an investment and the electronics as an spent that you won't be able to sell for the same money you paid for it... I usually get the same issue unless I get an electronic that can be useful or interesting for her...
   

    -@isrohan

She does, but sell electronics????

I rarely sell anything, but I have part exchanged Samsung phones.

The item in question is a second hand communications receiver that was crazy cheap and will give hours and hours of pleasure for many years to come.

It's not like I have too many toys. I only have 2 hand held VHF/UHF tranmitters, one dual band car transceiver, the communications receiver, a HF transceiver, a small, hand held 500khz to1300 mhz Icom receiver, 6 laptops, only 3 tablets, and I'm down to 3 phones.

The 5 displays and other bits and bobs are hardly worth a mention as they are so obviously essential. One of the Chromebooks and one monitor is purely for work, as is the 8" Windows 11 laptop.

It's not as if I wasted money on these essential items, and I even went so far as to buy a portable hotspot so I don't have to use expensive SIM cards in each device (except the phones, of course).

The last receiver, an amazing bargain, was the nagging trigger, then she said she wanted more gold.

Of course, being an example of a perfect gentleman and terrific husband, I avoided pointing out her glaringly obvious incongruity.

However, I think my eyes gave me away because she shut up and hasn't nagged me about electronics for hours.

Win !

Sorry, I forgot to mention my recording studio and a few other things.

Understandable omissions as they are such common household items.

Fred, after reading this I think she is fully justified in buying golden faucets and decorating herself like a Christmas tree!

    @Fred
maybe she sees the jewelry as an investment and the electronics as an spent that you won't be able to sell for the same money you paid for it... I usually get the same issue unless I get an electronic that can be useful or interesting for her...
   

    -@isrohan

She wants me to 'like' this post. I refused.

    Fred, after reading this I think she is fully justified in buying golden faucets and decorating herself like a Christmas tree!
   

    -@beppi

and this one. 2nd refusal.