HELP! Advice please my son is in Danger

@RichardDad I'm not sure you can stop him but  he will need to have a return ticket home.. he will have to fill out a form on etravel.gov.ph and register all that information up to 3 days prior to flying to the Philippines.... if he doesn't then he would have to do it there and they will discover no return flight... and if he has no intention of returning and reveled that to imagination they may send him back  Not to mention that there is a limit to how much "cash" you can bring with you

You say Alex cannot look after himself so where does he live? If he does not have a return or onward flight ticket the airline may refuse him boarding and if they do let him board there is a chance he will be asked to provide details when he arrives. Do you have any idea which airline he is flying with? If you do it may be a good idea to contact them. I would also try speak to the banks you mentioned and explain the situation to them. Maybe they can cancel his cards at your request.

I would take another look at this woman's Facebook page also to try find out where she lives in the about information section. Also have a good look through all her posts and you may find clues as to which area she lives so you will be able to have a good idea of the nearest airport. Also click on the girls friend list, particularly any friends that leave regular comments or that she is pictured with because if you cannot find a location on the girls Facebook, you might find something on one of her friends pages. Do you have any idea how he sent the £2000 to  this woman, maybe through Western Union or similar? If you do I would contact them also to try see if you can block any more money transfers.

I understand you worries but the chances are he will just be fleeced and loose all his money.

One last thought - is there anybody that he does communicate with, maybe an uncle or other family member or a friend. I would also try Safeguarding again.

Good luck

@smknjoe2002

Thank you, he really is a confused young man

@Cherryann01

Thank you so much. He lives in a Council flat in York which he is clearing out. He is speaking to no one at all anymore and we do not know which Airline. We do think he's flying out from Leeds but whether that's via Amsterdam or Dublin or other, we are really not sure. Many weeks ago he had told his mother that is was going to take him around 40 hours so we assume it will have been using a cheaper flight. He had also once spoken about needing to have a return ticket even though he had no intention of using it. We are very much in the dark.

We have all been blocked from his facebook account but these were snapshots which I took a few weeks ago. Sorry the images look large.

I am still sending messages to the Safeguarding Director in York but the communication seems to have hit that wall. I won't give up though.

Once again thank you so much for your input. I can't tell you how much this all means to me. Richard

From what I can see from her Facebook Account, most of the people who have liked or commented on her posts seem to come from Mindanao. Some comment are from people in or near Davao and she does have a picture from 14 June 2022 at some place called Camp Sabros, Digos City, Davao Del Sur. Looking on Skyscanner and entering  Leeds to Davao on 10 July 20024, shows a journey leaving Leeds Bradford for Davao with 3 connecting flights in Antalya, Dubai and Manila, total travel time to Davao just shy of 37 hours. That is the cheapest option but will get more expensive once seat selection and baggage fees are added.

Richard Dad posted. . . . Thank you for allowing me to join this forum. I will call my son Alex for this message. He is a 25 year old Autistic man with the mind of a child. At one time he had been diagnosed to have the mind of an 11 year old. Alex has fallen for a Romance scam and already paid £2'000 to a Filipino girl so she can pay herself out of a work contract in Dubai. Alex has now booked what we believe to be a one way flight to the Philippines with no intention of ever returning home. We don't even think he has a Visa and if he does we cannot possibly imagine it being anything other than a tourist Visa because he has never worked, or been able to hold any kind of job down. Alex will no longer communicate with his concerned family because we have warned him of the potentially very dangerous position he is in. Alex cannot look after himself and sadly he stinks most of the time. He flies on July 10th, 2024 but we do not know to which airport. We assume he thinks this girl is meeting him at the airport. What we do know is that he has no address for her.  My concern is that Alex will be kidnapped, murdered. I don't personally care if he loses every penny to his name. We just want him safe.Having checked this girls Facebook account we have found a message "Ikakasal din ako balang araw Sa ngayon, busy muna ako sa pagpapayaman" Translated to "I'm going to get married someday, I'm busy with wealth"We are exceptionally concerned for Alex. We estimate he will be carrying his savings of anything between £14'000 to £18'000. This may well be in cash or between his bank cards, Santander and LLoyds. What we do know is that Alex has stored thousands of pounds of cash under his mattress at times so that he didn't go over the £16'000 UK benefits threshold. The Adult Safeguarding in the UK just say he is now an adult and that they are powerless to stop him travelling.We as a family are asking if anyone on here can help with any advice or direction please? We are terrified we are going to lose him. The Police are powerless, Safeguarding refuse to prevent travel

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Hello Richard Dad, I'm Jim Rockford, private eye. My fee is $500 a day plus expenses.

Just a few background questions Mr. Richard, may I call you Dick?

(1) Does your stinky 11 year old have a passport?

(2) Why call your son Alex?, Call him by his real name it would help us, but don't call me late to dinner.

(3) If Alex no longer communicates with you, how did you get his password to view his FB page?

(4) How did you find his girlfriends FB page?

(5) How did you know he flies out on July 10, but don't know the airline?

(6) How did he save all that money maybe $20,000?

(7) How did you get access to his mattress to count his money?

(8) How did he get several bankcards having never worked?

If you choose my services, meet me under Big Ben and have my $1,000 retainer fee wrapped in a three day old order of fish & chips in a plain paper bag.

@Enzyte Bob

Hello Richard Dad, I'm Jim Rockford, private eye. My fee is $500 a day plus expenses.

Just a few background questions Mr. Richard, may I call you Dick?

@Cherryann01

Thank you again this is so helpful

@RichardDad My Google translation: "I will get married one day. Right now, I'm busy trying to get rich".

When read properly I can only ask, what is the problem here? She says one day she will marry but wants to get rich first which means she is not trying to get rich earlier, i.e. from a scam marriage. This would put her above the "gold-digger" status one may assume when first reading it and unfortunately is characteristic of some women here (and everywhere).  I can see your concern that she has a lot of drive and ambition, unlike most poor province girls, and that might foster your distrust but that is unfounded and does not at all rule out at all that she strives for wealth by legitimate means.  Actually, you never met her, and you do not know if she may have an honest interest in this somewhat wealthy Brit; there is no indication that she will immediately scam him. In fact, maybe she is a caregiver type like lots of Filipinas are at heart, or maybe she is curious and/or not familiar with people on the spectrum (which is not a thing here). I wish the young lady the best in her drive to get out of the barangay and get rich and I just cannot see any obvious intent to use the guy with the public, transparent statement from her FB post.

@smknjoe2002

He doesn't need a ticket home all he needs is a fly on ticket 20 dollars.

Pray he returns safely 🙏 ❤

@RichardDad

There's images on her profile together so he seems safe.

@RichardDad

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Well it seems that he has arrived safely so now it is just a matter of time before his money runs out. The amount he had stashed will not last for long and once the Benefits Department find out he is out of the country without informing them they will stop his benefits. I imagine he was required to attend meetings to assess his situation - in person or video call, so once they find out that he is out of the country they will stop his payments and he will eventually have to return home or live on the streets in the Philippines begging for help. I cannot see this woman of his supporting him once the money runs out.

@RichardDad

Hello, your post caught my eye, I genuinely empathise with your concern for your son's safety, I probably can't help much but can provide you a few details at least. The airport your son most likely landed at would be Ninoy Aquino International Airport (NAIA) either terminals 1 or 3 as they are for international flights.

Also, there is a British embassy in Manila, if you are calling from the UK then their number is +442070085000. They might be able to help, also if you have a photocopy of your son's passport or other ID that should help them find your son too of they ask for it and give you their email.

I'm a Brit recently moved to the Philippines and currently going through my visa application stuff, UK personnel get 30 days of "visa free" travel, after that a person wishing to stay longer must submit an extension application (it's roughly like £30) 7 days prior to the 30 days running out and the application must apparently be made in person, so there's a chance to find your son if/when he applies for an extention. There's two numbers I've found for the bureau of immigration office (+632)85243769 and (+632)84652400 I hope they can help you. Alternatively their two emails are xinfo@immigration.gov.ph and immigPH@immigration.gov.ph

Hope this helps you mate,

Tony

@Enzyte Bob