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alinawasim29

haye
assalamwalekum
i want to know people living in riyadh and want to make friends m gonna shift most probably in an year to riyadh,i am from india and i want to know how ladies  spending thier time n enjoying after having so many restrictions on them

alina:)

Alliecat

You can pretty much forget about making friends with Saudi women.  They're too busy with their families, plus I think they may be discouraged from having foreign friends by the the men in their lives.

You'll be okay, though, because there are plenty of expat women here who have been uprooted and are looking for friends.

Good lucky.

saimans

I agree with Cat's comment. It would be really difficult to have friends with local saudi women.....

alinawasim29

no no saudi women i mean u guys living in saudi nt the local one i dnt want to make friends with them either i know how they r i think i have used wrong word saudi i mean people recently moved in saudi from different countries n thnx for replying me

saimans

Yeh you can easily make friends from different expats. But it would be mostly of the same gender. And this (friendship) is the best form of entertainment here. You can know people and their cultures.

Good Luck !!

m.Caty

your welcome :P

TheLegendLeads

Pretty strong networks of expat ladies exist especially after the boom of the social networking technology. You'll not get bored I bet.

saimans

wellcome alina to riyadh, hope that u will find couple of good freiends here :)

Alliecat

TheLegendLeads wrote:

Pretty strong networks of expat ladies exist especially after the boom of the social networking technology. You'll not get bored I bet.


Well now, I have to add that it depends on if the expat woman is here to work or as a trailing spouse.  It's difficult for the two groups  to inter-mix since the trailing spouses do most of their socializing during the weekdays and are home at night and weekends with hubby.

On the other hand, the working woman is working all day and available at night and weekends, precisely when the trailing spouses aren't available!

I might add, for the record, that depending on your nationality (ie. if you're western), there are many more trailing spouses than working women.

RedGoblin

Alinawasim29, Welcome to the forum. and yes this is a great place to find ppl to mingle around with. And depending on where you will be in Riyadh, I am sure that you will manage to find more people.. :)

Cheers!

Popolocroix

Alliecat wrote:

I might add, for the record, that depending on your nationality (ie. if you're western), there are many more trailing spouses than working women.


:lol: 'was really laughing hard on this...allie...:lol:

As for Alina...there's a huge community of indians here...and i'm pretty sure you'll find more than a crowd to it in (I'm not restricting the possibilities of mingling with other nationalities, of course! esp. if you're coming for work)...

all the best, and advance "welcome to Riyadh"!<*hugs*>:proud

Birdlike

I'm not Saudi, I'm Palestinian, but most of my friends are Saudi females and they're very nice people. Why the negativity? I met too many non-Saudis who refuse to socialise with Saudis, which I find kind of racist, especially since they live in their country. They just watch them from a distance and allow themselves to cast judgments on people they don't even know. You'd be surprised to know how friendly they are. Don't put people in a box. All countries have both good and bad people.

The best places to make friends are obviously schools, universities, and work places. Or you can go to the gym or join courses and make friends there. You can also try to get to know your neighbours and build relations with them. People here like to send each other food. That's how my mother got to know most of her neighbours. She'd cook something delicious and head to her next door neighbours and introduce herself and tell them where her house is. Most people are warm and welcoming and they respond by sending food back in your plate instead of giving it back empty. You could also invite your female neighbours for a small get-together. You could also meet women online and then decide to meet in person in a mall or a restaurant. The possibilities are endless, just have an open mind, be creative and don't have any preconceptions about people you haven't met.

Alliecat

Birdlike wrote:

I'm not Saudi, I'm Palestinian, but most of my friends are Saudi females and they're very nice people. Why the negativity? I met too many non-Saudis who refuse to socialise with Saudis, which I find kind of racist, especially since they live in their country. They just watch them from a distance and allow themselves to cast judgments on people they don't even know. You'd be surprised to know how friendly they are. Don't put people in a box. All countries have both good and bad people.

The best places to make friends are obviously schools, universities, and work places. Or you can go to the gym or join courses and make friends there. You can also try to get to know your neighbours and build relations with them. People here like to send each other food. That's how my mother got to know most of her neighbours. She'd cook something delicious and head to her next door neighbours and introduce herself and tell them where her house is. Most people are warm and welcoming and they respond by sending food back in your plate instead of giving it back empty. You could also invite your female neighbours for a small get-together. You could also meet women online and then decide to meet in person in a mall or a restaurant. The possibilities are endless, just have an open mind, be creative and don't have any preconceptions about people you haven't met.


I'm just trying to decide WHERE you decided there was any negativity here.  I said they are busy with their families.  THIS is negativity?  If anybody is being negative, it's YOU accusing us of being negative (and 'kind of' racist, to boot!!).

As for preconceptions, you seem to have assumed that none of us have any Saudi friends or that none of us have been friendly.  I suggest you get to know US first before assuming anything.

saimans

Alliecat wrote:
Birdlike wrote:

I'm not Saudi, I'm Palestinian, but most of my friends are Saudi females and they're very nice people. Why the negativity? I met too many non-Saudis who refuse to socialise with Saudis, which I find kind of racist, especially since they live in their country. They just watch them from a distance and allow themselves to cast judgments on people they don't even know. You'd be surprised to know how friendly they are. Don't put people in a box. All countries have both good and bad people.

The best places to make friends are obviously schools, universities, and work places. Or you can go to the gym or join courses and make friends there. You can also try to get to know your neighbours and build relations with them. People here like to send each other food. That's how my mother got to know most of her neighbours. She'd cook something delicious and head to her next door neighbours and introduce herself and tell them where her house is. Most people are warm and welcoming and they respond by sending food back in your plate instead of giving it back empty. You could also invite your female neighbours for a small get-together. You could also meet women online and then decide to meet in person in a mall or a restaurant. The possibilities are endless, just have an open mind, be creative and don't have any preconceptions about people you haven't met.


I'm just trying to decide WHERE you decided there was any negativity here.  I said they are busy with their families.  THIS is negativity?  If anybody is being negative, it's YOU accusing us of being negative (and 'kind of' racist, to boot!!).

As for preconceptions, you seem to have assumed that none of us have any Saudi friends or that none of us have been friendly.  I suggest you get to know US first before assuming anything.


Hey even i was thinking where was the negativity ???? I dont think being a family oriented thing makes any one negative, but surely different.... in simple words.....:rolleyes:

Birdlike

Alliecat wrote:
Birdlike wrote:

I'm not Saudi, I'm Palestinian, but most of my friends are Saudi females and they're very nice people. Why the negativity? I met too many non-Saudis who refuse to socialise with Saudis, which I find kind of racist, especially since they live in their country. They just watch them from a distance and allow themselves to cast judgments on people they don't even know. You'd be surprised to know how friendly they are. Don't put people in a box. All countries have both good and bad people.

The best places to make friends are obviously schools, universities, and work places. Or you can go to the gym or join courses and make friends there. You can also try to get to know your neighbours and build relations with them. People here like to send each other food. That's how my mother got to know most of her neighbours. She'd cook something delicious and head to her next door neighbours and introduce herself and tell them where her house is. Most people are warm and welcoming and they respond by sending food back in your plate instead of giving it back empty. You could also invite your female neighbours for a small get-together. You could also meet women online and then decide to meet in person in a mall or a restaurant. The possibilities are endless, just have an open mind, be creative and don't have any preconceptions about people you haven't met.


I'm just trying to decide WHERE you decided there was any negativity here.  I said they are busy with their families.  THIS is negativity?  If anybody is being negative, it's YOU accusing us of being negative (and 'kind of' racist, to boot!!).

As for preconceptions, you seem to have assumed that none of us have any Saudi friends or that none of us have been friendly.  I suggest you get to know US first before assuming anything.


Hey, take it easy. I wasn't even talking about you. What mostly bothered me was this part: "i dnt want to make friends with them either i know how they r." That sounds pretty negative and racist to me. I was talking about the non-Saudi people that I personally know. I'm not here to pick a fight.

saimans

OK Agreed "no one is here to pick up fights" !! Let the peace prevails !!

Cheers....

Alliecat

Birdlike wrote:

Hey, take it easy. I wasn't even talking about you. What mostly bothered me was this part: "i dnt want to make friends with them either i know how they r." That sounds pretty negative and racist to me. I was talking about the non-Saudi people that I personally know. I'm not here to pick a fight.


Then maybe you should have addressed your comments to her, instead of making a general accusation of negativity and racism. I find it very difficult to 'take it easy' under those circumstances.

Birdlike

Alliecat wrote:
Birdlike wrote:

Hey, take it easy. I wasn't even talking about you. What mostly bothered me was this part: "i dnt want to make friends with them either i know how they r." That sounds pretty negative and racist to me. I was talking about the non-Saudi people that I personally know. I'm not here to pick a fight.


Then maybe you should have addressed your comments to her, instead of making a general accusation of negativity and racism. I find it very difficult to 'take it easy' under those circumstances.


I just explained myself even though your tone was aggressive. If you still wish to take it to heart, there isn't much I can do about that.

Have a good night.

Alliecat

Birdlike wrote:

I just explained myself even though your tone was aggressive. If you still wish to take it to heart, there isn't much I can do about that.

Have a good night.


You made an explanation but never apologized for offending. If my tone was aggressive, it was in response to yours, which was accusatory and condescending.

And you have a good night.

Birdlike

Alliecat wrote:
Birdlike wrote:

I just explained myself even though your tone was aggressive. If you still wish to take it to heart, there isn't much I can do about that.

Have a good night.


You made an explanation but never apologized for offending. If my tone was aggressive, it was in response to yours, which was accusatory and condescending.

And you have a good night.


I did not "offend" you in any way, so I don't need to apologise. Geez!

ghanshyampdave

i'm sure we all need more good friends.. Even though we have loads of them.. Good luck to all:-)

alinawasim29

guys guys i am sorry for my statement but we are here to make friends nt to fight so take a chill pill n dnt fight bcoz of my statemnt i am taking my words back n i dnt mean to be raciest here m sorryyyy please everyone be happy n chill

Birdlike

alinawasim29 wrote:

guys guys i am sorry for my statement but we are here to make friends nt to fight so take a chill pill n dnt fight bcoz of my statemnt i am taking my words back n i dnt mean to be raciest here m sorryyyy please everyone be happy n chill


I admire your attitude, alinawasim29.

Again, have a good night.

ghanshyampdave

you guys shud watch Russell peters's shows.. Nice comedian ..

saimans

alinawasim29 wrote:

guys guys i am sorry for my statement but we are here to make friends nt to fight so take a chill pill n dnt fight bcoz of my statemnt i am taking my words back n i dnt mean to be raciest here m sorryyyy please everyone be happy n chill


Good luck for finding Good friends here !!!

Ssuperman

No! No! YOU have a good night. hahahahahahaha

JK i just found that really funny. :lol:

saimans

Ssuperman wrote:

No! No! YOU have a good night. hahahahahahaha

JK i just found that really funny. :lol:


Sleeping ??? :mad:

Alliecat

Ssuperman wrote:

No! No! YOU have a good night. hahahahahahaha

JK i just found that really funny. :lol:


Well it's like somebody stayed up all night in order to have the last word.  Blah! :P

RedGoblin

:rolleyes:

Egad! where all have this discussion wandered off to.. :P
@alina : this is all part of the entertainment.. ;)

alihassan2010

u suys make it huge discussion about friends. wow . A fight on friends.

alihassan2010

i need all your details , kindly please email me so that i could arrange an event.

BAK

@ birdlike

The main problem for non Arab ladies to mingle with saudi ladies is the language barrier.You being a palestine might not have faced the problem but most of these women can't communicate in English.

@Alliecat

"And you have a good night" was cute :p.

Popolocroix

BAK wrote:

@ birdlike
The main problem for non Arab ladies to mingle with saudi ladies is the language barrier.You being a palestine might not have faced the problem but most of these women can't communicate in English.


Agree with you here, BAK...:one

@ Birdlike can you share some similar experiences you spoke of, like, for an Arab girl or family reaching out to her expat neighbors?

Alliecat

I literally know hundreds of Saudi women through my work and most of them speak pretty decent English so it's not necessarily that.

Alliecat

BAK wrote:

Alliecat  was cute


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BAK

@ Alliecat .. those hundreds of women you have come across or those who can speak English constitute less than 10 % of Saudi Female population.

The rest have a vocablary of not more than ten english words :).

Alliecat

So you're not disputing the quote I attributed to you?? :lol:

But you're right about the less than 10 percent.  However my point was that even though they know English, there is still no socializing outside of working hours between us.

For example, I once had a wonderful work relationship with a lovely Saudi girl who was a PA in my department.  We really enjoyed each other's company, spoke everyday, shared jokes, much laughter and she even emailed me while I was on holiday saying how much she missed me.  One day I asked her if she'd come to my party (all female) if I had one and she was very reluctant, saying she'd need to think about it.  Needless to say it was a big pin in MY balloon and I took the hint:  we were work friends.

Popolocroix

Alliecat wrote:

"...We were work friends."


;) exactly...!

BAK

" .. lovely saudi girl" .... now that seems rare :p.

Alliecat

BAK wrote:

" .. lovely saudi girl" .... now that seems rare :p.


There are many lovely Saudi girls and women.  Unfortunately, as a male, you'll never get to know how smart and funny and charming they are.

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