Bullies and what to do about them, do u know KARATE?

Hello peacelovelight.

Concerning the karate lessons, have you tried to post an advert in the Classes section in Jordan classifieds? It should help.

Thank you,
Aurélie

Hi peacelovelight,

As a Jordanian who has lived in Jordan for so long,
I used to get bullied too, in Aqaba there are many assholes, as it is a place that many poor people live in , poor educated also.

We all got bullied here at some point in life, if that really bothers you, try getting your childs here to Amman, they wont face these people, Who only exist in Aqaba and a little places in Amman.

Karatee isint really usefull, Just teach your kids to not fear anything and always fight back no matter what, this is how it should go if you are living in a place full of idiot bulliers.

Or you can tell them call the police ( even though police here is not really competent).

they are still too young for playing body building



So the best thing is to raise your kids with having a strong heart!
because if they played karatee and were not confident, all of it will be useless.

hi, r u still in Aqaba?

Hi...I wished I was still in Aqaba...now I'm in a village. Trying my best to get back to Aqaba though!! What do you do there?

where u from originally?

Kristina-
I find your questions curious and the photo you have posted for yourself even more, considering where you are living. Have you encountered bullies in Aqaba?

Everyone else-
Thanks for all of your suggestions and comments..I'd have to say I agree with all of them. Tai Chi would be a nice compliment to the Karate I suppose. My kids are the ones who have asked me specifically about karate.

Tai Chi-that's in Aqaba? where exactly is it located?

That’s hard, if you can’t depend on safety in numbers from the other children in your husband’s family to protect your two wee sons. Does your husband’s family not have plenty of male cousins their age or older to accompany them when they are on the street? Even by Jordanian standards 6 and  9 years old seems to be a bit young to be out running errands on their own. I don’t mean their mothers or fathers should be there, just that usually there is a tribe of their other family members around and about, especially in a village.
What about boxing rather than karate? For most western women, sending their children to boxing classes would go against the grain. I fear though, that being in a village, these kinds of sports wouldn’t be available. Do they have anyone kind in their father’s family, someone who could show them the rudiments of street fighting, so at least if someone does attack them they can defend themselves?
For me, I hope my son will grow into a sensitive new age guy, lol. But I am coming to realise that this isn’t what Arab fathers want, not at all. They want their sons to man up, be independent from a very young age,  to not be afraid, which they seem to associate with cowardice (not the same thing imho) learn to street fight, stand on their own two feet. I’m glad, whenever we have been in Amman, that the cousins have definitely, 100%, been at my children’s side, ready to fight at the slightest insult, let alone physical violence.  The fact that they are all ready to fight at the drop of a hat probably prevents a lot of the violence that could occur from happening. It can’t be nice being married into a family where one or more of the other members of the family are the aggressors against your sons. But bringing up my children in that environment, where fighting, literally, for your right to walk the earth without harassment is the norm and the order of the day, where parents never get involved, and mothers especially, because to do so would make their sons and husband lose face? I don’t think I could it. While I appreciate that boys do need to “man up” and be prepared to fight to survive the wild west society one encounters in Jordan, and nowhere more than in the school ground or out on the street where they typically play/run errands, at the same time having to encounter that violence from a cousin would be a step too far, imho.
Have you ever done any self defence courses when living back the West? Maybe your son, next time the cousin tries to twist his arm behind his back, should try stamping on his opponent’s foot. Bringing his heel down sharply on his opponent’s instep should have the desired effect of releasing the hold. Like I say, not my first choice of a course of action in bringing up children, but they are stuck there and it wasn’t their choice to be there.