What will U do if U found out that your chat mate doesn't have looks?

Fall for each other has no relation at all with whether your partner has the looks or not anyway~ it's whether you're both feeling comfortable communicating with each other~~ so if you really fall for your chat mate, i don't think it won't change a thing even after you found out that he / she doesn't have the looks~

what if you found out that part of a long conversation mixed with lies and secrets....sometimes nice words attract most.

I would find it strange that you didn't know what someone looked after an extended period of time. I have a cousin who met a woman online and chatted to her for sometime. He did however have a head and shoulders photo to go on. After flying around the world to meet her, it turned out she was rather enormous, but that didn't deter him and they eventually married. They have been together for at least 5-10 years now. Like a previous post said, it doesn't always matter what people look like, it's who they are.

In Egypt there are some guys who pretend that they are women looking for friendship online. They make guys fall for them, then they say it "I'm a man not a beautiful girl." Some of them do that just for fun.

So I think the question is what would a guy do if he found out that his chatting mate girl in fact is a man?

i must agree with some of the previous comments looks will take a back seat if there is a true connection.

see, it depends on what yor are looking for and what you place value on... if you place a lot of value on looks then I guess you will be disappointed, however if you place more value on the heart and feelings then what the person looks like is secondary.

biscuta wrote:

In Egypt there are some guys who pretend that they are women looking for friendship online. They make guys fall for them, then they say it "I'm a man not a beautiful girl." Some of them do that just for fun.

So I think the question is what would a guy do if he found out that his chatting mate girl in fact is a man?

Depends on how fussy he is about gender (or species if sheep ever learn to type)

biscuta that's true now a days you can naver tell the difference between lady and transgender. sometimes they are a lot beautiful than real women. But mostly when they already fall to each other and men found out that tehy are not girl they still continue the relatioship. How do you call that? is that supidity or love is blind?

It's communication, not looks, that make or break a relationship in the long run.

Looks like EMMAN is in love

all the best mate

honestly, i checked on the attitude first then the looks.

If u fell in love with the words then u should just close ur eyes to the looks and fall in love with the person u meet eventually. It happens a lot mostly with men but these days with the help of webcam and social networks its hardly likely to travel across the world to someone u donno how they look like.

DisABLE webbie view... or Super impose World seXiest over the image.  There are times i talk to a bouncing sheep anyway! What can be worse?   

looks doen't matter , personality really matters

I guess its not a good idea to fall for a person who's just writing to you... there are some other personality traits that count, and according to me attraction is 1 of them... Also i strongly beleive "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder"

Even great looks will get ugly when they get old and beside that: you get use to it and then you don't see the beauty of it anymore.

The most important thing is there is a "click".

your right Primadonna, beauty outside get wrinkled but the beauty inside stay intact.....

Neither words nor looks matter in any relationship, online or real world. Online a person can say whatever they want, claim to be whoever they want. It's as dangerous as a mine field.

What do looks have to do with anything? I've known a lot of very good looking women and men, who for the most part know they're good looking and let it go to their heads. You wouldn't want to have any kind of relationship with people like that, it's a recipe for problems.

I am married to a woman who is not the most beautiful woman in the world by any stretch of the imagination, but to me she is and she outshines all the rest because she has inner beauty and character. We are very happy together, respect each other and treat each other very well. We agree on most things and we've never had an arguement. We now have a very beautiful, intelligent and happy five year old son filled with confidence because he has two parents and knows they both love him (something rare in this country, sadly).

For all you starstruck internauts, who believe you can find your soulmate online... don't give up. It's rare but it can happen, I found mine online and have never been happier in my life.

Cheers,
William James Woodward - Brazil Animator, Expat-blog Team

just be friends that's it. cause if she don't have looks that ur after then there no point. But he or she can be good mates or may be things will change later.

I never have online chat mate- especially the one that I know for so long and assumed have intense communication with but never know the look ,coz in my case that will be feels like talking to a machine and this goes to both male and female chat mate.

And if he or She is just a chat mate then why bother with their look coz letting yourself fall in whatever term to someone you meet online but never saw the look or meet in real, really not a good idea either.I prefer to keep them in the online friend zone till I can meet her or him in real life and see how they are in real.

but JasfurJQ, If you do fell with her words but not with her look and that's so important for you then don't push your self to go further then just being her good friend maybe coz if you go further that will be unfair for her and for you as well.

What is a chat mate?

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

What is a chat mate?

Something similar to check mate, I guess.

Then the answer is easy.  Move your bishop.

So, the looks were hidden behind the bishop?!?

Bishops hide everything.

utte86 wrote:

Fall for each other has no relation at all with whether your partner has the looks or not anyway~ it's whether you're both feeling comfortable communicating with each other~~ so if you really fall for your chat mate, i don't think it won't change a thing even after you found out that he / she doesn't have the looks~

Very well said! I agree with this!

that thing just show how shallow they are....

suggestion : just wear a mask to hide..or close your eyes during chatting

aabie ryan wrote:

that thing just show how shallow they are....
suggestion : just wear a mask to hide..or close your eyes during chatting

or learn to use a braille

before I was eager to see my chatmate on cam but I guess people were right that heart is the best thing to see than physcal...

Did you fall in like or fall in love?
If its the latter, I wouldn't think looks would matter, would it? If its the former and you just like her for the looks, (but found out she got none) then just let it go.

That's why they say "love is blind". I would never fall in love with words (as we know that most of those words are from "google"). Also its not how they look, its how they treat you with respect and understands you; matters.

Looks can only take you so far, but understanding and comproise will take you long ways down the road.

kshah wrote:

(as we know that most of those words are from "google").

You mean I've been doing it wrong all this time?

hahahahah! have you? there are words that comes directly from heart and one can catch them and feel them. If you doing that, it shouldn't be a problem.

BTW do you have an hotmail ID or skype?

I'm still wondering how we're supposed to get words from Google.  Don't you have to type in words first?

haha..so you deceived by your chatmate huh?..what did you expect??..Maybe you just do not accept that all image that you create about her is far different from the real person she is..

HaileyinHongKong wrote:

I'm still wondering how we're supposed to get words from Google.  Don't you have to type in words first?

When I said words, I meant people these days use poetry or other romantic words that someone else has already posted on google. lolz....


One must be ORIGINAL... OG

Those odds are very low in these times where technology is in the hands of everyone.
But if they decided not to exchange photos, I think of that relationship can continue as hitherto as a friend or siding appearances and give a aportunidad love.
When someone you love and makes you feel comfortable and wanted, apparently no limit you. Of course this only if you are someone who thinks that the only physical extra value to the other characteristics.

imxielo wrote:

haha..so you deceived by your chatmate huh?..what did you expect??..Maybe you just do not accept that all image that you create about her is far different from the real person she is..

I think that's the main problem here.  Tne real her couldn't live up to his fantasy of her.

kshah wrote:

When I said words, I meant people these days use poetry or other romantic words that someone else has already posted on google. lolz....


One must be ORIGINAL... OG

I don't know anybody who does that.

1st the attitude than the looks.....no expenses on changing the attitude but changing the uglyness to beauty that will cost you your fortune.