3rd month and still no friends

Hi Stephanie, I agree, I've been here 3 years and it hasn't been easy.

Why don't you organise a get together, and see who turns up. They will prolly make better friends.

Hi Steph welcome to Expat.com and the Philippines. I met several expats and they seems very nice thou some has an issues.

Resuri Ann open up a forum for a Christmas Party for expats, you may join.Everyone is welcome!

Cheer up Steph and enjoy your stay!


JP
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stephyr5000 wrote:

Hi,im stephanie and ive been here for 3 months.I love the Philippines,its a beautiful country but its not been easy making friends.
I am studying to have a 2nd degree (cos i dont like what i studied earlier)online and i dont have a job,but i have business i conduct online.To me it seems the people i meet dont wanna be friends with an african or a black person.
My kids are having a blast though cos they get along real well with their school mates.I envy them cos the kids are much,more friendly than the adults.Not much fun for me.

Hericles wrote:

Hey cheer up! It's only 3 months. I've been here 3 years and i don't have local friends. I'm not surprised because they are not the most outgoing people and just socialize among themselves. Even not ALL expats would want to befriend us. Hang in there i'm sure there's something good waiting down the line for us.

Hey,so you are Namibian,never met one before.It's nice to meet you and thanks

deltamikelima wrote:

Hi Steph, count me as one of your friends...

thanks

jobprovider wrote:

Hi Steph welcome to Expat.com and the Philippines. I met several expats and they seems very nice thou some has an issues.

Resuri Ann open up a forum for a Christmas Party for expats, you may join.Everyone is welcome!

Cheer up Steph and enjoy your stay!


JP
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that's awesome,thanks JP

stephyr5000 wrote:

Hi,im stephanie and ive been here for 3 months.I love the Philippines,its a beautiful country but its not been easy making friends.
I am studying to have a 2nd degree (cos i dont like what i studied earlier)online and i dont have a job,but i have business i conduct online.To me it seems the people i meet dont wanna be friends with an african or a black person.
My kids are having a blast though cos they get along real well with their school mates.I envy them cos the kids are much,more friendly than the adults.Not much fun for me.

There are no excuses Your black.! In America there is the  black president in his second term Good or bad he and his family did Whatever it took to get there ! DO IT . NO EXCUSES . IF YOU DONT HAVE THE RESULTS YOU WANT.    PLEASE CHANGE AND ASK AND LISTEN TO GOOD ADVICE .DONT BE CAPONS !!!! Give your power a chance Ps while i was living in america , i happen to be in the white catagory my as. Was saved by two wonderful human beings who were well tanned! i will Never forget them .HOWEVER I HAD TO DO WHATEVER IT TOOK TO MAKE IT HAPPEN ! so DO IT !Font waste your life with poor results because you do the same mediocre things ! Give your life a extreme chance !!!! Its not them its you not going all the way to be with them  in. Such a way They cant Refuse you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wimbleton wrote:

There are no excuses Your black.! In America there is the  black president in his second term Good or bad he and his family did Whatever it took to get there ! DO IT . NO EXCUSES . IF YOU DONT HAVE THE RESULTS YOU WANT.    PLEASE CHANGE AND ASK AND LISTEN TO GOOD ADVICE .DONT BE CAPONS !!!! Give your power a chance Ps while i was living in america , i happen to be in the white catagory my as. Was saved by two wonderful human beings who were well tanned! i will Never forget them .HOWEVER I HAD TO DO WHATEVER IT TOOK TO MAKE IT HAPPEN ! so DO IT !Font waste your life with poor results because you do the same mediocre things ! Give your life a extreme chance !!!! Its not them its you not going all the way to be with them  in. Such a way They cant Refuse you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

stephyr5000 wrote:

Hi,im stephanie and ive been here for 3 months.I love the Philippines,its a beautiful country but its not been easy making friends.
I am studying to have a 2nd degree (cos i dont like what i studied earlier)online and i dont have a job,but i have business i conduct online.To me it seems the people i meet dont wanna be friends with an african or a black person.
My kids are having a blast though cos they get along real well with their school mates.I envy them cos the kids are much,more friendly than the adults.Not much fun for me.

Hi Steph,

Filipinos are usually friendly. So, I'm sure you'll find people to get along with soon. By the way, what things interest you? I think it would be easier to find people with the same interests as yours

arknoshe wrote:

Don't worry Steph. You'll make a lot of friends soon!

Thanks

Erwin Catalan wrote:

Hey steph, Filipinos are very friendly ( not being bias ), many factors actually made them hesitant to get involved to foreign individuals, Never consider the reason of being black and you are being isolated by this friendliness. Their language proficiency might be very limited, or your just not in the same interest. I hope you can find friends back there.. chill up and be positive. i would diffidently meet you if i'm home.


Justine

That's so sweet of you,thanks

borilove wrote:

hi,i think you should try defferent appoches,you shold visit defferent people and start communications with them until you find someone of trust,then you will see a line of other people follow.Philippinos are mostly friendly,besides they also have a small dark skin population,its not about color its about opening your self to others.i Envy you because i wish i were there,im Puerto Rican and never had a problem with no one there,besides ive seen lots of dark skined people married to Philipinos,you really have to break the ice at some point,good luck and enjoy your stay,im hoping to be there next year for an extended stay.

Thanks a lot and hope to meet you whenever you are here.

sgrddy wrote:

hello Stephanie , from everything i have read about the philippine culture , they can not resist a good party , speacialy a hog roast ... so buy a pig , and invite your neighbors , and your childrens friends , and you will be very surprised at how many friends you will have ... i know you can but the hogs all ready cooked , and delivered ... or if you have your own yard , you can hire someone to cook it right at your home ..... it would be great if you can enlist the help of a filipina neighbor , so she can help you with all the details , of a great lechon party ... this will help you , do a search for  PHILIPPINE LECHON PARTY   hope you have a great time ..

Thanks a lot,i will definitely try that.Good plan,

alltojah wrote:

Hey Steph,

It can be somewhat difficult to make true friends here, especially in Makati (or Manila), being that it is a large city. In my experience, large metropolitan cities tend to have people that are less friendly. But that does not mean that you cannot make friends. I am an African-American and I have traveled throughout Asia and other nations in the world. The primary factor for me was trying to speak and learn a little of the host nation's language and put myself out there to make friends and/or acquaintances.

The primary factor in your dilemma is the language barrier, as so many people here have posted. I think it would be best as you continue your studies to also begin learning a little of the Tagalog language. If possible, learn some of the history and cultures of the Philippines. As you put yourself out there, the tension between you and other Filipinos will be lessened and they will be more open to communicate with you.

I have lived in the Philippines for about 9-yrs. My friendships have come and gone, as most Filipinos aspire to go abroad or are so busy trying to make a living. But I do meet expats and get together with them from time to time. But my main commune time is spent in the ministry of varying churches and spending time with my family.

Hope things become more enlightening for you. Ingat (take care) and God bless...

I'm already looking for a tutor,thanks though,i appreciate it.

Wimbleton wrote:

There are no excuses Your black.! In America there is the  black president in his second term Good or bad he and his family did Whatever it took to get there ! DO IT . NO EXCUSES . IF YOU DONT HAVE THE RESULTS YOU WANT.    PLEASE CHANGE AND ASK AND LISTEN TO GOOD ADVICE .DONT BE CAPONS !!!! Give your power a chance Ps while i was living in america , i happen to be in the white catagory my as. Was saved by two wonderful human beings who were well tanned! i will Never forget them .HOWEVER I HAD TO DO WHATEVER IT TOOK TO MAKE IT HAPPEN ! so DO IT !Font waste your life with poor results because you do the same mediocre things ! Give your life a extreme chance !!!! Its not them its you not going all the way to be with them  in. Such a way They cant Refuse you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If i didnt want other people's advice i wouldnt be here and if i didnt wanna make friends,i would not be here either,so i dont really know what you are talking about.

stephyr5000 wrote:

Wimbleton wrote:

There are no excuses Your black.! In America there is the  black president in his second term Good or bad he and his family did Whatever it took to get there ! DO IT . NO EXCUSES . IF YOU DONT HAVE THE RESULTS YOU WANT.    PLEASE CHANGE AND ASK AND LISTEN TO GOOD ADVICE .DONT BE CAPONS !!!! Give your power a chance Ps while i was living in america , i happen to be in the white catagory my as. Was saved by two wonderful human beings who were well tanned! i will Never forget them .HOWEVER I HAD TO DO WHATEVER IT TOOK TO MAKE IT HAPPEN ! so DO IT !Font waste your life with poor results because you do the same mediocre things ! Give your life a extreme chance !!!! Its not them its you not going all the way to be with them  in. Such a way They cant Refuse you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If i didnt want other people's advice i wouldnt be here and if i didnt wanna make friends,i would not be here either,so i dont really know what you are talking about.

Yes i agree with stephyr5000,what exactly is Wimbleton talking about?

Hi JUST SUGGESTING YOU HAVE TO BE MORE AGRESSIVE AND BE OPEN TO CHANGE TACTICS ... JUST HOPING TO STIR UP THE WATERS A LITTLE . ...    MY PREVIOUS MESSAGE OBVIOUSLY MISSED ITS MARK , OR UNDERSTANDING  TO SOME. BUT THAT IS WHAT I MEANT ... JUST DO YOUR BEST TO TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT AND BE MORE FORWARD .......

@Wimbleton -> Lower your caps lock please when writing on the forum!

Thank you,
Auréie

Wimbleton wrote:

Hi JUST SUGGESTING YOU HAVE TO BE MORE AGRESSIVE AND BE OPEN TO CHANGE TACTICS ... JUST HOPING TO STIR UP THE WATERS A LITTLE . ...    MY PREVIOUS MESSAGE OBVIOUSLY MISSED ITS MARK , OR UNDERSTANDING  TO SOME. BUT THAT IS WHAT I MEANT ... JUST DO YOUR BEST TO TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT AND BE MORE FORWARD .......

Thanks as now you are making more sense,however remember that to be friends you have to share the same interests and values in life.You cant come across as being aggresive,as you cant force people to be your friends.
Also please try and remember to lower your caps,as now the second time you been told off.

hi steph, i'm dory and i am a filipina, maybe we could be friends since i am looking for friends also who are an expats.. hope to meet you and get to know you...

dkcape wrote:

Wimbleton wrote:

Hi JUST SUGGESTING YOU HAVE TO BE MORE AGRESSIVE AND BE OPEN TO CHANGE TACTICS ... JUST HOPING TO STIR UP THE WATERS A LITTLE . ...    MY PREVIOUS MESSAGE OBVIOUSLY MISSED ITS MARK , OR UNDERSTANDING  TO SOME. BUT THAT IS WHAT I MEANT ... JUST DO YOUR BEST TO TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT AND BE MORE FORWARD .......

Thanks as now you are making more sense,however remember that to be friends you have to share the same interests and values in life.You cant come across as being aggresive,as you cant force people to be your friends.
Also please try and remember to lower your caps,as now the second time you been told off.

Way to go dkcape:D