Mother-in-law going beyond her boundaries

you can change things in your way when she leave!

sit down and have a sweet talk with her,,,and explain to her,at the end of the day,, you and your bf will be staying there,its your house,,,,dont wait till she leaves,and then change it,,its like doing things behind her back ,,,stand up to it

It remind me the joke goes like this;
The accused has been charged throwing his mother in low out of the 24the floor condo where they live.
judge gave the warning to the accused saying; next time you have to be careful when you do things like that you might injure passing innocent people.

i agree with raz...you can change things in your way when she leave!....i am sure she has good intention, as both of you are her kids

raz_rian wrote:

you can change things in your way when she leave!

Totally agreed with you   Change it back as normal as you want after she left. What if she comes very often? keep on playing with the games moving furnitures in the condo? ?

you have to talk to a counselor, the one who has an office and sits behind a desk with a diploma on the wall, and not getting an advice from public, as they say "two captains sink the ship"... how about if you get many advices and each one contradict with the other?
you have to act by your own. as you said that you are turning 25 years old. you are not a kid. but you are over-reacting to the new life you are into it. this is also goes with the previous posts that you posted them here about this-new-life matter.
it is not good if your partner walks and tells your mother things about what she done to the apartment. you and him are not officially husband and wife.
besides, i believe your partner complained about this matter, otherwise, you would not say "Mother-in-law" but say "Mother". it is like you don't have a strong bond with her. that is not good. i know you will deny that but it is between the lines.
in my knowledge, your Mother has the experience and skill to do her duty to you (both), she didn't born yesterday. the only thing that she did this behind your back that you probably would reject her suggestion to rearrange the furniture. she knows what is the best for both of you (example: dragged the sofa when you and him can get enough sunlight, or hiding the messy wires... etc). Never and ever tell her that is not good and be ungrateful towards her. remember that you are not married to your "partner" yet. that is mean both of you can leave each other in any time (and it happened to lots of couples). your Mother is your Mother until the end of days. when you and your "partner" officially "husband and wife". then you can use the old nugget "my roof, my rule".
my advice as i said at the beginning; "see a counselor". it is the best advice of all advices that you will ever get. the counselor will advice you with few steps to deal with this situation. and this is supposed to be a private matter.
good luck and all the best.

Please understand that at whatever stage OR age we are at, we would be still projected as CHILD from our PARENT's perspective.
Hence they TREAT us as a kid even IF we are a mother of another CHILD.

whatever she does it's something like temporary and not last long so let her enjoy the old days (do not take me wrong).
parents will NEVER agree that they are wrong in front of their children nor they listen to us this is due to age and generation.

IN this situation itself we have to behave wisely to avoid future/further complications.

My suggestion IS TREAT LIKE "this is your home n you have all rights but in-front of your parents try TO EXPLAIN this house is your future husband’s house and we dont have any rights TO CHANGE THE things "

these are ALL silly things AND you have stepped INTO THE NEW era enjoy THE fruit OF it AND live happily.