How to cope Up with a broken relationship

I think if the relationship was working and there were some problems then you both should be fighting its not a one way system many people chose to break up and just make up the resons to why its going to end rather than just telling the truth. Only you know if that is the real reason and if so then yeah i would fight for what i wanted but shouldn't it be a discussion on options for you both? If both parties are truely inlove neither would let the other one walk away.

Hi DJ Chelony,
    You should not be worry anymore but be thankful b'coz your relationship did'nt end up in a husband and wife relationship, it will be more painful and wasted if you 2 got married. Your BF wants you to love not only him but everything and all about his country, thus your BF doing the same thing that he wants you to do. Relationship is not all about the 2 person but its a give and take relationship. Anyway your a big girl lots of fish in the ocean, he is not for you. Someone else out their are chosen to be yours forever just keep your doors and heart and eyes open. Lots of people end up broken, from married couple, frome sweethearts and even oldies. Remember if it is not yours it won't be yours hihii.Your beautiful anyway. chow...

thanks dear but sometimes its difficult when its only one person in a relationship is open for discussion and for the other side it was a closed book , even you still wants to fight for it one wants his way. But its indeed a very difficult situation that one must give way and one must accept , you are right that both must work for this but sometimes one has a close mind that does't want to talk about and its too difficult for the other person though he or she wants it to work.

Hi jasfur ,

what a nice words direct to me hehehe well its quite difficult , im 1 and 4 months here , i was the one giving advice to people though most of the time i also follows my heart and what my mind is saying , you are right and i always believe that everything happens for a reason , yes it is more difficult when you are already married and you tried your best but still doesnt work , kids will suffer and it is more painful for you when it takes the vows then suddenly you will broke apart. Sometimes its just hard to accept in our lives that the one who gave you strength in your life was also the one who puts you down.Well I also used the word theres many fishes in the ocean because  when i was in the radio there was someone who asked for my advice , i said the exact word , there many fishes in the ocean. Its just that sometimes when our heart is filled with love for the person you love for a long time ,its not easy to move on , even there is someone willing to heal you broken heart , its still difficult to tell yourself just love this another person. Sometimes our hearts is not really listening to our minds though we know that the person was just tired and pushing you away, even the person hurts you so much , you still believes in yourself that you could fix it ... well honestly i tried to fix my relationship but we cant and all i did was crying crying crying. You are right that I should also open my heart and mind for the right one, there is someone knocking at my door now but i guess Im not that ready yet . Im just sharing my feelings with you guys coz its hard to keep it myself , I almost got hospitalized for too much stress , well thank you for the advice , sometimes i know already what to do but i still want to hear the reactions of others because its like i feel im not alone and feels better aside from crying

If someone you love hurts you cry a river, build
a bridge, and get over it.

Hi hericles,

Thank you , i guess i already cried like an ocean thanks i feel better when i read nice words from you guys even i dont know u

Just always think that your not the only one having situation like this if all those people can move on and accepted the reality so can you and some people chose to end their life because of so much depress losing their love ones well sorry for them, life is good and full of adventure. Remember its their lost not yours hahaha infairness to the guy hahaha . good luck to the new adventure of your life.

thanks kabayan jasfur , musta dyan sa saudi , me isishare ako sa u ito na lang pinagkakalibangan ko minsan http://www.ustream.tv/channel/iskulbukol-ifm try mo live ako batiin kita

I don't know why they call it heartbreak. It feels
like every other part of my body is broken too, but you don't die from a broken heart ... You only wish you did.

Dj Chelony wrote:

thanks kabayan jasfur , musta dyan sa saudi , me isishare ako sa u ito na lang pinagkakalibangan ko minsan http://www.ustream.tv/channel/iskulbukol-ifm try mo live ako batiin kita

hahaha Mr. Julien will be mad if we speak our tagalog language cause lots of people viewing and reading this. Anyway thanks I will when I get home I'm still at work. Smile always and remember problem will always be around till your around hahaha.Love and respect yourself, God 1st and then your mom and then yourself

Dj Chelony wrote:

thanks kabayan jasfur , musta dyan sa saudi , me isishare ako sa u ito na lang pinagkakalibangan ko minsan http://www.ustream.tv/channel/iskulbukol-ifm try mo live ako batiin kita

Hello Dj Chelony.

It is better to write in english on this English speaking forum so that everybody can understand and participate.

Thank you,
Aurélie

Aurelei ,

Sorry I just saw a fellow countrymen , thanks for the reminder
I just invite him to listen to me in my online radio so i can greet him

-dj chelony

Dj Chelony wrote:

Aurelei ,

Sorry I just saw a fellow countrymen , thanks for the reminder
I just invite him to listen to me in my online radio so i can greet him

-dj chelony

my computer at work is weak at view and slow need to check it at home. Best regards thanks.

Hi DjChelony,

When a relationship 'goes south' it's never easy. The only thing worse is a one sided relationship where one does all the giving and building and the other just reaps all the benefits.

You might find my comments in response to a posting by princess sandra "how to forget someone" helpful in your situation too. They are quite lengthy so it's easier if you follow the link below to that topic than for me to try and retype all of it.

Best of luck in your situation, the only thing I can say is keep your chin up, forget him and move on with your life. Us men are just like buses, you miss one and you're upset for a while, but another one will come along soon. You know what? He'll probably be better than the first one too..... it's always that way.

see link

https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=206239

If nothing else reading all of the comments will show you that you're not alone. Lots of women are going through the same thing. Many of us men have gone through it too.

Cheers,
William James Woodward - Brazil Animator, Expat-blog Team

Thanks Sir William,

Im greatful everytime i receive a message from any person in this website. Its also nice to read all those positive things . I also read the one for princess sandra , well I can feel here that im not really alone and all your words are heart warming , thank you so much and hope that we all here will have a good friendship and one day i want to make another nice post without this kind of thing , but i want to thank all of you that you are all helping me to move on .

dj chelony

Hi Dj,

I'm really happy to hear that what I've said has helped make a difference. You are certainly a wonderful person and everyone deserves to be happy and loved. I'm sure you will find someone who understands that and will make you forget all of the past sadness. It takes time, but it's worth the wait. Keep your chin up, smile and when you least expect it love will come along.

Cheers,
William James Woodward - Brazil Animator, Expat-blog Team

Thank you so much Sir:)

Hi dj Chelony. I can see you are getting better and better each day.
Love is like a puzzle. When you're in love, all the
pieces fit but when your heart gets broken, it
takes a while to get everything back together.

As a woman, I will tell you that most of our life as women we build our lives around that one person and when that bond is broken we are so bruised and broken sometimes we just want to die, hope fades and words become useless even our jobs.

My advice is that as women we must try to find things that can define us, things we can depend on and count on, somehow it worked for me, I started writing academic articles and books, its something my own and somehoe I got little independance. I will go the gym even whn  my heart and mind screams no, I will force me to write even where the thing called hope seemed fading, even when the mountains seemed far to reach and little by little contentment visited my heart and mind.

It is not easy I know, but little steps eventaully become gaint leaps..

have faithfull faith...start taking care of you..

Thanks Hericle,  I feel better and better everyday.
@ Zouen , yes , it was difficult but its ok im making myself busylike u did , im painting more and more into photography and started to learn sculpture and its like hitting 2 birds in one stone , I leaned sculpture at the same time I recover myself into a painful experience by being busy and forgetting things

Hope you good today, was just checking on you,