Hi ecuachic54,
Your situation begs a few questions. First of all is this a up close and personal deal for you or long distance transaction? In other words are you still in Ecuador or are you conducting the transaction from back home?
Secondly, if it is a long distance transaction, do you have someone upon whom you can rely completely handling it locally?
Thirdly, exactly where is this "no turning back" attitude originating from? Is it you who insists on not changing banks or the potential buyer?
It appears that you are so focused on the problems with financing that you've lost sight of the BIG PICTURE. Which is the transaction itself and maximizing your profits while getting the transaction finalized quickly.
You're ignoring the main point of the sale, which is property value. Property values do not remain static ever! Historically they don't drop much either, generally speaking property values appreciate steadily. So unless you have a clause in the original purchase agreement your potential buyer has a vested interest in the deal getting stalled as long as possible. It's the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow for him/her. In your case since you are selling a hotel, which is also a business venture you also need to consider what has happened with the value of the business over the last 2 1/2 years. Has it increased in value too?
If the property values have increased and the value of the business has increased then you're taking a real loss, since your potential buyer is about to purchase the hotel way below it's present market value. If this were NOT the case your buyer would have walked away from the deal long ago.
At some point in time you've got to do the math and decide whether your insistance not to change banks is hurting you more than it is helping. From my point of view that should have happened long ago. Banks have no interest in land transactions outside their financial gains. The only legal necessity they have is that the transaction is legal, the transfer complies with laws and that the property is not somehow incumbered. They have no legal standing whatsoever to delay a transaction for this long. They have only two options, deny the loan and tell the prospective buyer to look elsewere for financing or to approve the loan and complete the transaction. This also must be done within a reasonable length of time, usually stipulated by law.
Finally, have you personally been in contact with the bank to seek explanations as to what the problems are that are causing this delay; or are you just taking your prospective buyer's version of things? To me it looks like your buyer is simply stalling as long as he possibly can to either tell you he simply can't qualify for financing or alternatively that he's playing you for a fool, watching the value increase by leaps and bounds while you're stuck with a deal to sell at what is now well below market value. Think about it!
Cheers,
William James Woodward - Brazil Animator, Expat-blog Team