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crisanta

i am very jealous and we always argue... until he decided to broke up with me, it really hurts because i really love him, i can't forget him,, he doesn't want to have any communication with me,, i can't forget him , i still love him,, i don't know what to do....

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Naval Rungta

If you are responsible for it then ask for pardon but it will make you weak and loose respectas you are part of a dominant male society. If it is not your fault ( as almost all couple argue but don't break up in fit of rage ) forget him and move on with life.

MYLYN PEREZ

sounds like my story :) but girl onece a man ended the relationship and they gave you a word "its over" then its really over.. its sucks but you have no choice just to accept it.. it happened to me 4 months ago just like you i also post it on thios site because i was really devastated a lot had told me to forget him and move on, at first it was really painful and hard to do but days and months had passed he never talk to me again.. untill one day i found out he is already in a new relationship again that was really suck.. but i made up myself.. i keep telling to myself that im not making myself any better i should stand up and fix myself alone because no body can fix it but just me.. there are a lot of ways to forget someone no matter how we love them.. just think about it.. they broke up with us because they dont feel love and care anymore.. so why keep insisting our self? its just a waste of time to wait and begg.. life has a lot more to offer, open your eyes and mind to somthing worth. you can forget him soon i guarantee :)

grace8222

Honey, Its hard when you love someone and things don't turn out the way you wish it would, here is the deal, let him go, if he is yours then he would find his way back, thinking would only make it hurt the more. you would be fine soon.

Naval Rungta

As rightly advised it is time to move on with the life and consider your ex. to be dead one. Most women get cheated the way you have been and you alone are responsible for your future ahead. So think positive and consider it to be good riddance.

James

You've already been advised to move on with your new life without your ex-boyfriend and that is exactly what you need to do, because you drove him away with your jealousy and you can't go back and change that.

That said, you must deal with your jealousy problem or you are just going to continue to destroy any further relationships that you have. This is NOT something you should just accept since excess jealousy is the sign of real serious problems.

Jealousy is not natural, but some cultures accept it as being so - this is absolutely untrue and it is the root of lots of trouble. Here in Brazil jealousy is considered natural and it is shocking how many people are murdered every year by jealous partners, ex-husbands, ex-boyfriends, ex-wives as a result of people simply accepting it as normal and doing nothing about it.

Jealousy has its roots in you, your past, your own emotional make-up and it won't just go away, you have to get counselling. Your message is quite clear that you are a very needy person emotionally. Your jealousy stems from a lack of self-image and a lack of trust in your partner. You have to learn to look at yourself differently and to come to understand that YOU are worthy of being loved. You also need to learn how to trust your partner and not suffocate him with your jealousy, watching every move constantly, demanding to know where he is every moment, what he's doing and who he's with. This is, no doubt, exactly what drove the other boyfriend away - it's a form of control. You can't control anybody but yourself and that's what you need to learn most of all. If you pick somebody who will cheat on you, they're going to do it whether or not you're hovering over them 24/7 or not. In fact, they're more likely to cheat on you because the hovering becomes an annoyance that destroys their feelings for you.

Learn to pick better partners, learn to let them have their own space and not invade it. Trust them until you have some reason not to and don't go inventing reasons. Make the pain you're going through right now a learning experience. You need to learn how not to force yourself to go through this pain again and that can only be done by changing yourself.

Good luck to you, God bless you and give you strength to do the really deep soul searching that you must do in order to correct your problems.

Jealousy is NOT love, it is not a sign of love - trust is a sign of love and respect is a sign of love. If you have those two things and you give them to your partner without hesitation you won't need jealousy.

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