In a relationship, married or not... YOU SHOULD READ THIS
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An amazing story narrated by a man .............
MARRIAGE
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outsidethe door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Okay.. and what has this long, long 'cut n paste' got to do with expats in KSA?
No offense, but I think it's posting this kind of thing that's bringing down the quality of the forum.
no time to read... i m happy the way i m... sometimes single, sometimes in a relationship, sometimes...uhmmm..
I felt sharing such stories, jokes will rejunevate our lifes, if you think this is offense and against the blog policies, I will delete, but what is the difference between this thread and long threads like the below where all of us participated and enjoy????
https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=50074https://www.expat.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=52079
How the confessions of everybody is to do with expat life at KSA and some of the jokes shared in the above threads are to do with the life at KSA and we all participated and enjoyed? If one dont like the topic, one can simply ignore it.
Julien and team,
No offense, but only some can not dictate what can be posted and what can not be posted here. So now it's time to define the laws of the blog and stick to what the laws says and moderate accordingly.
If only some want to be here and doesnt want others to be part of the blog, be it, all others will exit........
I actually found the post most interesting and refreshing! I've been married (2nd time) for 28 years and if just one of our bloggers could take away an ounce of insight from that post they could be in a better place.
Relationships (married or otherwise) are fragile and if you don't work at them and pay attention to whats happening, you will slowly destroy that relationship over time. Life is not a bed of roses and all relationships have difficulties... And its how you handle those hard times that defines you as a person!
Having said that, there are many relationships that have to end due to abuse.
Thanks for sharing!
Salman Omrani wrote:..................................
probably be back to comment. .. maybe..
if you were thinking, I walked out, you were wrong.
Some how I was not impressed and may be may be may be little hurt by the way this thread has been flagged by taking the job of the MODERATOR into their own hand when we have very very similar threads in the past with most of us actively partcipating in it and enjoyed.
My feeling was we should let the moderator team do their own job,and if some one offended by a post or think it's irrelevant, we have a button called "REPORT" , use it effectively and let the moderator team decide on it................
People can have different opinions (even my post had mixed responses which can exists anywhere in this world......), but at the end of the day,this blog is my all time favourite and has been my second home after I left my home back in India.
I might forgot to talk to my wife and family back home even one day considering that one of us can be busy on any given day, but can not remian without partcipating in this blog. its just that I am out of office/away to internet these few days, have not seen me. . Cheeers............
I found this an "eye opener". How many times do we rush around to our jobs, and don't pay attention to our spouse, and we lose the intimacy and specialty of a relationship. I think even more so with expatriates when some are here by themselves, and even when they bring their spouses, many find it a strain on the marriage. So, I enjoyed this post. Cheers, Cynthia
uvnpsaradhi, I've read this story before and I may have even posted it on another thread here before...can't recall...Great post though, I enjoyed reading it once more.
I wish people would keep their comments to positive ones or keep them to themselves. I asked a question once, and the answer was to look back at older threads, 10 maybe 15 pages back! Of TOPIC! This was enough to discourage me to ask questions all together. My point is, this is a free forum by expats for expats whether the person wants to post a joke, a story or a previously asked question. All a fellow reader has to do is answer, or move the little cursor way up to where it says "back" and click!
the Story has done just way too many rounds on my forwards lists. But yeah its a nice story.
I have opened this post many times now but still not able to read the story....
It's way too long, can't you just summarize into 1,2 lines and post it
the summary has been highlighted in the story it self, re-posting again.
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
I have a short attention span. I cannot read long stories, however interesting they might be. My limit is 250 words. But then, my attention or lack of it, is my problem, not the forum's!
Nice Fairy tale..
sadly in such a money based world, it is hard to find sm1 who is ready to sacrifice that much....
We might find it in poor families, where feelings and emotions are still more important over how much u have in the bank...
Merry christmas to all
RedGoblin wrote:the Story has done just way too many rounds on my forwards lists.
I totally agree.
Alliecat wrote:RedGoblin wrote:the Story has done just way too many rounds on my forwards lists.
I totally agree.
Of course, like every nice story, this also made many rounds on the forward lists and thats how it reached me and a new one who doenst received so far will C today.
amegy wrote:I asked a question once, and the answer was to look back at older threads, 10 maybe 15 pages back! Of TOPIC! This was enough to discourage me to ask questions all together.
agree with you. Have seen a lot harsh messages saying we dont want to repeat the answer literally yelling at a repeated Q. One thing people should understand is sometimes people have very little time to search and require a quick help, one can help by providing the references to the past forums instead of yelling and say go back and C.
amegy wrote:My point is, this is a free forum by expats for expats whether the person wants to post a joke, a story or a previously asked question. All a fellow reader has to do is answer, or move the little cursor way up to where it says "back" and click!
I absolutely agree, if one dont like, use the appropriate method or let the moderator team do their job...... cheers.
uvnpsaradhi wrote:I absolutely agree, if one dont like, use the appropriate method or let the moderator team do their job...... cheers.
And I absolutely agree--if one doesn't like the answer somebody has given them, they should just ignore it and move on
Alliecat wrote:uvnpsaradhi wrote:I absolutely agree, if one dont like, use the appropriate method or let the moderator team do their job...... cheers.
And I absolutely agree--if one doesn't like the answer somebody has given them, they should just ignore it and move on
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