Hi folks,
I am from Germany and there is a certain reason I am looking for pinoy-connection in a neighbouring country as Netherlands or Belgium.
The story is about my love who is a filipina and it's very long, sad and full of failures.
We met few years ago during my vacation in the Philippines, ...a few visits later we married in a church on Mindanao. That was 2 years ago. We could not live without each other and it was easier for me to go to the Philippines than for her to come to Europe. So we decided to have a small business there, but as insiders know - when a foreigner in the Philippines is involved, prices for rental, light and water and everything else will be raised - at least doubled.
The income never could cover the expenses and business went down the hill straightforward without any brakes...
Unluckily the priest who married us also passed away few days after our wedding only and no one was able to find the documents we signed. Nothing was ever forwarded to NSO/PSA... We found out about this when the estimated processing time was up and we asked for our international marriage certificate. We tried to inquire at the church - but result see above.
In the meantime we tried to survive somehow, we placed tables on the market and sold breakfast - pancit, champorado, spaghetti, palabok, sopas - that we prepared and cooked every night starting at 2 a.m. so we could sell around 5 a.m. until noon. The income for that effort only few hundred php a day if all servings sold but when it was bad weather we had to give the food to the beggars for free before we throw it into the garbage. The ingredients were paid, the gasul was used... It did not pay off in the end and just to survive we had to sell our equipment bit by bit...
Filipinos know, every filipino has family so why didn't we seek help from relatives of my wife?
Simple: Her parents passed away many years ago. Her eldest brother, a known politician -but addicted to gambling, keeps titles of all the inheritance, fakes signature of my wife to sell all land and the houses and brings the money into casinos.
Impossible to go against him, no lawyer will take the case... he's too powerful.
In March my love got pregnant. No choice, no future in the Philippines for us with a baby. I had to go ahead and returned to Germany this summer, started working in my old job again and the authorities told us I had to give prenatal consent of paternity, my wife just has to agree with the fact I will be the father and no waiting time nor additional requirements (as knowledge of german language), my wife could instantly follow to Germany because our child will be a german passport-holder. The embassy knew since June 2018 that she's pregnant. They used up all the time until now to clarify our family-state: we're both not married! And now they gave my wife an appointment to file residence permit 2 days before the 8th month. From the 8th month it's no more advisable for pregnant women to fly in an airplane anyway but when I asked how long it will take until a visa will be granted they told us: a few months, no preferred treatment.
My love was shattered down by that news. Me too.
She's waiting there since many months already, hoping to come to Europe soon, always new promises just to wait a few more days, weeks na lang... no job and only has what I can send her to support for a living, our baby shall be born in the Philippines now and I can not see them both until when?
That was too much na for my loved one who was crying night and day already since I had to leave her almost four months ago. She could not stand the news and broke down, we will not become parents any more.
The requirements for my love to come to Europe through family-reunion are no longer fulfilled.
The only - legal - way now will be a marriage visa, required for that is the A1-test. Means additional few months to wait until language lessons and test are succesfully absolved plus the regular processing time of estimated 1 year until she could finally come to Europe.
I pity her a lot and I wish I knew someone who could help us to speed this up because it's very very painful to know how much she suffers.
Looking for pinoy friends w/ permanent residence in Europe (except Germany)
I'm from Almere too 
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