Violent Threats to Girlfriend from her relative

Last activity 18 April 2017 by KruChris

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poppingDurianMember05 April 2017 22:01:25

I've met a nice girl in Vietnam. Its been a long distance relationship. Recently she has been receiving threats from her relative via text. Either she gives him money or he will beat her or she may have an "accident" on the road. He actually has also physically attacked her in the past and she had to move to another city for some time. She has refused to give him money.

She has never asked me for money. When I visited, she would often offer to pay. So I don't think this is a scam. But I am very worried for her and also very angry at this relative. I really want to kick the sh*t out of him. Does anybody have any advice on what she can do to protect herself? She doesn't want to go to the police since he's family. Even if she goes to police, can/will they do anything? I was hoping she could carry mace/pepper spray, but that seems to be illegal in Vietnam.

I"m also concerned for the future also. If she does move to my country someday, what would stop this relative from threatning her parents? Given they see foreginers as ATM machine, I don't see how this could end well. Am I overreacting or is there anything we (her and I) can do?

tsshapiroActive member06 April 2017 09:53:27

You need to stay out of it. The police will do nothing, and there's nothing you can do about it either.

Even if you do catch the guy and stomp him out, everyone will be against you because:

1) You're not in the family and it's not your business.

2) You're the foriegner, and any physical violence against a VN (justified or not) will be seen as an affront to them all.

Just offer her emotional support, but not financial.

If you get married to her, then the circumstances change a bit. However, you need to know that In Vietnam you really do marry the whole family, so choose wisely.

Best of luck.

Guest2023Guest06 April 2017 10:48:20

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Long distance romance equals unknown woman. I would say its just for money as I have heard this scenario before. How much is she asking, where did you meet her.

poppingDurianMember06 April 2017 15:43:08

Yup, thanks for the perspective. I'll have to keep calm through this and look for any inconsistencies. She has never asked for any financial help. When we went out , she has even paid for some movies/meals. We first met via online dating and I spent some time in Vietnam, but yes, I understand I have to be careful/vigilant. Thanks.

KruChrisSerial expat18 April 2017 15:30:57

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My own experience with "family" in Thailand lets me fear this might be true. There are unbelievably callous people out there!

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