Beauty Is About Being Comfortable In Our Own Skin

Beautifully written and it applies to us men too

No disrespect, Jan, but you would be more beautiful if you weren't bald! So would I! I wouldn't insult you without insulting myself. Dear Heart is obviously (?) young, and perhaps beautiful. (Hard to tell from the photo, but she has nice hands...)

But Dear Heart, old age is not beautiful. We have pains and aches where we don't want them and used not have them; "our own skin" tends to be uncomfortable, and wrinkles occupy too much of it. And don't even ask what's going on inside us - nothing pretty, I assure you. We're not even unique, you know. I'll bet Jan has much the same pains as most others of his age

Age changes the beauty of the body into the beauty of the mind.

Well, at least it does in some people. Apparently not Gordon, if there really is "nothing pretty" in his mind. But maybe he meant something else ...

@Gordon, Happiness is a state of mind, and Age.. if you still got your health age is just a number i've seen "old" people having fun, traveling alone or as couples and they never lose that smile everytime i see them i say to myself this is how i want to be when i grow old with my wife.

Alcastive wrote:

Happiness is a state of mind, and Age.. if you still got your health age is just a number i've seen old people having fun, traveling alone or as couples and they never lose that smile everytime i see them i say to myself this is how i want to be when i grow old with my wife.

We put on a good act, Al. And I'm sure you will too, when you're old. But you skipped lightly over the substance of "if you [have] still got your health..." I think my wife and I are fairly typical of oldies (both of us pushing on the door of eighty) who have been healthy all their lives until recently. Yes, we all adjust. I see people in wheelchairs coming off the cruise-ships every day here on our tourist-island, and they seem cheerful enough, but... wheelchairs?? Cripes. I dunno.
Are they all really feeling beautiful and comfortable in their own skins, to use Dear Heart's title?  Maybe, maybe not. It depends on how well they coped with their aches and pains this morning, and what memories they have stored away from their earlier lives. As a general statement, old folk envy young ones their youth, but young folk don't envy the old their age. This blog-post of mine from six years ago sums up the situation accurately, for most of us. It's called "A Young Man's car".
https://barlowscayman.blogspot.com/2013 … s-car.html

@ Gordon, i read your article and it's seems you traveled a lot back in those days where maybe travelling was not much easy as today, cheers for taking all those journeys an adventurous mind as mine, but mine is a foolish one because adventures cannot make wealth only good memories and i spent most of my time making memories now im in my early 30's and have to start everything again, what happened in Malaga was sad but it should not hold you up from chasing your dreams. i say between you and yourself looking back on memories spent well with your wife having some laughs on ridiculous things during trips and cheering wonderful moments is better than being in your 80's but all you remember with your wife is just some family gathering because you both had a 10hrs working job. i wish you all the health but these memories can be good in reducing stress and maybe some pains.

Alcastive wrote:

@ Gordon, i read your article and it's seems you traveled a lot back in those days where maybe travelling was not much easy as today, cheers for taking all those journeys an adventurous mind as mine, but mine is a foolish one because adventures cannot make wealth only good memories and i spent most of my time making memories now im in my early 30's and have to start everything again, what happened in Malaga was sad but it should not hold you up from chasing your dreams. i say between you and yourself looking back on memories spent well with your wife having some laughs on ridiculous things during trips and cheering wonderful moments is better than being in your 80's but all you remember with your wife is just some family gathering because you both had a 10hrs working job. i wish you all the health but these memories can be good in reducing stress and maybe some pains.

Al - thanks for the kind words, but even the fondest of memories don't help overcome the physical problems of old age!

You implied that making memories left you somewhat adrift in your 30s, but even if you do have to start everything again it's not the end of the world. At the age of 31 I lost something like a third of our savings playing the stockmarket without a paying job. But I was able to use my experience from the jobs I had, to get a new one and to save enough for my (our) next temporary "retirement". And after Malaga I found another job, after being unemployed for almost two years. Trust to luck and your own capabilities and you'll find that "starting again" isn't all that hard.

My son (the baby in the Kombi in Malaga) became a hippy for many years, in Latin America and Norway, but at the age of 41 found that his experience in foreign countries got him a reasonably responsible job here in Cayman - and he has hopes of doing similar work in England later. So don't give up on yourself!

FeminineHeart wrote:

We are amazing, unique, and beautiful. There is nothing more we need to be, do, or have in order to be happy. We are perfect just as we are. Yes, really. So smile, give love, and enjoy every moment of this precious life. You don't really know how beautiful a woman is until you meet her, all her beauty is in her personality. Pretty is not enough. Pretty is nice. It's fine. Pretty can turn heads, but beauty? Beauty can change the whole world. Pretty is what we are, but beauty is what we do with it. Pretty lifts spirits, beauty makes them soar. So smile. Be bold. Let's show our beauty. Because when we put pretty into action, there's no limit to what we can do.

What makes us beautiful is what shines from within us, and what makes us wonderful is the things we do. Even the shiniest wrapping paper can conceal the most disappointing present. It's what's inside that counts. Beauty is about being comfortable in our own skin. It's about knowing and accepting who we are.

Actually this is very nicely written but I have to say that I disagree with it. No, beauty is not accepting who we are on the contrary to do everything that we can, not to accept who we are. We should grow. We should know that we have to grow and we will grow. That is the beauty of beautifulness, older you get more beautiful you become. If we accept as who we are we would not do anything to grow but we only getting older.
Ok let me explain. If I dive deep into the ocean with someone, what will I see there in the dept of the deep? I will se another fascinating world that everything are new to me in that depth. Do I care if the person who I dive with is a hot sexy miss universe or do I more care about those fascinating things I experience together with her? The equivalent of the beauty made of three words together wisdom, knowledge and discernment. The beauty is not within us but it is out there all over the world. Our job is grab it as much as we can and getting more and more beautiful. 
Unfortunately this hot sexy mentality has taken over the world. The real meaning of the word beautiful has been corrupted and long gone. So now everyone has his/her own meaning to that beautiful word and this is my own meaning.