I have a tunisian boyfriend

23 July 2019 00:41:10

Hammamet, Nabul

I'm a single mother and I am currently in a relationship with a tunisian for a few months. And i had a bad relationship experience with an Arab guy before. That as said, i have been a little sensitive with the relationship i have right now and i feel like i have been seeing some red flags but it is unfair for me to judge my partner easily. He felt bad everytime i talk or compare him about my past relationship. And I have been reading things about tunisians since its my first time to meet one, most comments are not good. I wouldn't like to compare but are they almost same as egyptians?

First of all we are colleagues, that's how we met each other. I didn't imagine to have a relationship with him. We were just good friends for awhile until he keeps sending me messages and we went out. I am 27 and he is 3 years younger than me. I saw his interest in female from his phone, not that he is a womanizer (which i dont know) so i thought that maybe this would only be for fun. Until then he started to change his behavior towards me, he cared and told me he loves me. Before he lets me pay and do everything. He changed to making some food for me and paying when we go out. Stopped checking on other girls. It becomes more deeper as we go along. He introduced me to his family via video call, and they even invited me there and he agreed he told me to stay with his mother when I go tunisia. I admire his patience whenever i get mad at him. He had been giving me all his time to me. But one thing has changed the way I see him when we had a conversation of me, trying to immigrate in Canada. I talked about my papers. He said he would try to get a job so he can follow me there. Then he suddenly talked about marriage. Which he never mentioned from the time being we are together. I suddenly doubt his sincerity on me.

I have no clue regarding tunisians or their culture all I know is their religion and they are still arab. Can I please have some of your advice?

B.Bebemaranee

23 July 2019 05:19:44

here is my advice for you girl.

i should let you know at first that i have no negative / bad attention for you as we both are female.
and i'm married so i do understand what's married women aware of living life.

it bad to accept the truth that Everyone is dreaming to living a better condition for them life. no matter they are white or black or brown. for example. i'm Thai and i'm living in Thailand. I've seen a white guy/white girl seeking the way to live in Asia. cause they think it's a better condition for them as much as how is Arab guys/girls dream to marry someone from Europe. so thing thinking is not about Arab , Tunisian , Filipino , Syrian , British. it's just about someone is trying to have better condition for living. and as you know Canada is refugee-friendly.

but as a female giving advice for each other , i think first you should know how truly he is. you know him. Do you think you know him the most ? if yes so i think you can decide rather he wants to marry you cause of visa or not. Let's say it's yes he wants to marry you cause of visa but is he love you ? do you believe he will be able to take a good care of you and your kid ? if he is kind enough and you see a happiness of married life with him so why not ? but if as you know him, he is a gold-digger. so it's better to cut this relationship from now. it's better to save your time and feeling for a right person one.

as a married women i would like to tell you that ..

you know no one could love you better than yourself , no one can do you better that yourself. sometime finding love can be just a time-waste. Maybe the time you spend to talk with him you could learn to do , to build , to increase something you are interesting with. and waiting if there are the right man he will come on the right time. love yourself first. i believe you are a good girl and good mom. even without a man.

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