Is the vietnamcupid dating site legit

HenryJo wrote:

I joined yesterday. Today, found my inbox swamped with messages 'from girls'.

Have a slight suspicion that not all the messages may be legit. Perhaps, to temp me in to signing-up for the paid subscriptions?

Can anyone using the paid membership options confirm ?

The standard membership is pretty pointless as none of the girls on there seem to be able to message me back (as they are also on the standard membership). Only a fee paying member can message a standard membership member!

I would gladly pay for the membership, but not if the messages were of dubious origin or if the number of messages were to suddenly drop after I became a member.

I sent Zalo messages to the 11 different women I've dated at least once after connecting with them through my paid membership on Vietnam Cupid.

We agree unanimously that it's a total scam website and we definitely advise against you paying to join.

Go to Nguyen kim or dien may xanh stores, you will find a lot of real ladies to seduce for free

I think there are some scammers on every dating sites but I believe the majority are real people. If you're asking if the site is a scam, some of the message could be a way to entice you to join but that's how most of these dating sites make money along with the ad revenues. If you want a totally free site, look at {blocked content}. There are no fees to send messages and I'm not even sure if there's an upgrade option. Only thing is, there are fewer women on that site. I'm on both sites just to browse, not to date since I'm in the US and not looking for a long distance relationship that could lead to me sending money for her 3 legged dog that needs a prosthetic. Well you know what I mean.

I guess they block the site's address automatically. It's dateinasia.

A good trick is to learn Vietnamese numbers and look at some profiles, they'll often write their phone, Zalo or other numbers in Vietnamese to bypass the website's filters. It's a good way to make contact without paying.

Yes , the replys  from the 100 Victoria secret models WILL dry up as soon as u pay, scammers and the site trying to get your cash, be aware.

Canman63 wrote:

Yes , the replys  from the 100 Victoria secret models WILL dry up as soon as u pay, scammers and the site trying to get your cash, be aware.

What? But I had my wedding all planned with this Miss Vietnam woman from 2005, she says. 

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       Nah,  the (true) value of all 'dating sites' is the entertainment!

            ..I only come here for the pictures...     

        But I admit, I do read the articles too...     
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The Cupid websites are global, not just VN.  Based on my understanding, the Cupid websites are legit, but of course, there are going to be scammers as they exist on all dating sites. 

You have to work at it, just like any other dating process.  You will have to determine which ones are legit and scammers.  There are a lot of ladies on the Cupid sites looking for a serious relationship, you just have to find them. 

Good luck

This one of (and possibly original) network of xxCupid  'dating' websites managed (or owned from Gold Coast in AU).

having been a long-time user (and  since using for my VN daughter and VN SIL, and as well as myself), i was NOT inundated with 'spam/scam' emails from VN women.

almost without exception, i got messages from genuine women, albeit they all had their different backgrounds and priorities.

maybe it it depends on how upfront and open you are in your Profile details? and just how you come across?

it is certainly important to make it clear that you are not a 'rubber stamp' for an AU PV. but even when that was 'on the table' for later discussion if things worked out, that was still not a particular issue with responses i got.

(you might like to point out to them at some point that AU health system is NOT the same as 20 years ago, and my personal experience is that the VN health service is as good as, and much faster and less expensive, that AU now)

and a tip for you guys.

one, personally i would not reply to anyone who just gave me a phone or equiv without any attempt to engage in some initial discussion (and if you are too bloody cheap to invest a minuscule amount in finding a woman for a great relationship, lots of luck with that).

for VN women on the other hand, do TRY to remember that most of them are only earning 4 million dong per MONTH! and some less than that net. you try living on that, and paying the rent, and then try to pay for a VC membership. the really well paid ones would make between 8-12 million per month. my daughter was quite senior in BMT TV, and directed and organised the morning show. and she was making just $US200 per month!! although she later got a promotion and raise.

and when i am vetting for by daughter and SIl, i almost always immediately delete any man over 40 or 50 who says that they want an 18 yo GIRL!! it says a lot about a guy's attitude and priorities and purpose and personality. i also ignore anyone without a photo. and as i said, anyone who doesn't want to have some discussion.  and don't be one of those idiots who thinking just saying 'hi' is a conversation!

i have a problem with the site generally and its design and service model, but not with the women on it.

Dating sites are garbage in general. Better to find a woman in person, you know, there are millions out there...and most good ones don't bother with such sites.

wildwildwest wrote:

most good ones don't bother with such sites.

Most good ones are afraid of such sites.

wildwildwest wrote:

Dating sites are garbage in general. Better to find a woman in person, you know, there are millions out there...and most good ones don't bother with such sites.

Really, and you know this how?

HenryJo wrote:

I joined yesterday. Today, found my inbox swamped with messages 'from girls'.

Have a slight suspicion that not all the messages may be legit. Perhaps, to temp me in to signing-up for the paid subscriptions?

Can anyone using the paid membership options confirm ?

The standard membership is pretty pointless as none of the girls on there seem to be able to message me back (as they are also on the standard membership). Only a fee paying member can message a standard membership member!

I would gladly pay for the membership, but not if the messages were of dubious origin or if the number of messages were to suddenly drop after I became a member.

Don't be surprised if the women are a lot like you.

You know, how you sent me a private message, asking for the contact info for my trusted Visa on Arrival agent?

Of course, I sent you Facebook and internet information for her.

After two weeks, I never heard back from you!

When I sent you a second message, saying "You're Welcome!" you replied "Any Time!" and blocked me.

You are just afraid that the women on Vietnam Cupid will treat you the way you treat other people.

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

After two weeks, I never heard back from you!

That has happened to me many, many times.  In the last 2 years, there were 20 or so people who PMed me for help, and to everyone of them I went out of my way to assist for weeks at a time, with lengthy explanations, detail instructions, even calling in favours to bring them the result which I knew they would not be able to find on their own.  How many of those people afterwards sent me a follow up note, or brought me a coffee as a thank you when they met me in person?  Two, present company included.

It's too much to expect basic courtesy among expats anymore.  Still, I continue to help people.  I believe in karma (not the points on expat.com).  I believe that the good deeds I do today will return to me or my children tomorrow.  Not by those rotten eggs, but by the millions of good people out there. 

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

When I sent you a second message, saying "You're Welcome!" you replied "Any Time!" and blocked me.

Very classy.

I guess you get out what you put in. I used that site when I first got here. In my profile, I spoke in depth and in honesty about myself, my background, my interests and what I was looking for, and I specifically included something along these lines; "I am not an ATM, and I will never again live in either of the 2 countries in which I have citizenship, so if you are looking for a man with lots of money, or a way to get out of VN, I am not the guy." I got lots of hits and spent pretty much a year meeting women, most of whom were good decent people. I finally met the woman I have been with for the last 3+ years. And she is a jewel. 😊 A total gem. And we started with clear understandings of one another's expectations. I would not trade her for her weight in gold.

DaveTonetti wrote:

I finally met the woman I have been with for the last 3+ years. And she is a jewel. 😊 A total gem. And we started with clear understandings of one another's expectations. I would not trade her for her weight in gold.

Good story.  All the best wishes for your relationship and future. 

I found my wife on VN Cupid.  She’s the best thing that ever happened to me and have been with her for 2 years now.  When I first signed up and yes I paid, I only decided to try it for just one month. A lot of messages were in Vietnamese which I couldn’t read so I discarded them. The ones in English that messaged me I used my best judgement and filtered them. There are girls on there who are legitimately looking for real relationships, some who are not and some who are hookers. I had one girl ask to see my bank statements..I blocked her.

I was chatting with about 4 girls after about 3 weeks and took it to Viber and after some time focused in on just one who is now my wife.

On the converse side of things, there are plenty of articles on the internet about guys who use VN Cupid to lie to these girls just to Find em, Fun with em and Forget em. It’s a double edge sword. I know a couple of other guys who met their current fiancées on VN Cupid as well. Like one other poster, you will need to do your homework and takes some time to find the legit girls. The girls get to sign up and talk to you for free as long as the guy they are talking to are paid members.

My wife knows a beautiful girl on VN Cupid who has been on there for 3 years. She’s in Hanoi and she just likes to meet foreigners and have a good time if you know what I mean. So you have a mix of it all just like in any type of social setting that would attract all types.

If my wife and I didn’t work out, I would definitely use VN Cupid again .....but I’m pretty positive I’ve got a good one and won’t be signing back up anytime again.
Good luck...you can find the right one on there..

I agree

Ciambella wrote:

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

After two weeks, I never heard back from you!

That has happened to me many, many times.  In the last 2 years, there were 20 or so people who PMed me for help, and to everyone of them I went out of my way to assist for weeks at a time, with lengthy explanations, detail instructions, even calling in favours to bring them the result which I knew they would not be able to find on their own.  How many of those people afterwards sent me a follow up note, or brought me a coffee as a thank you when they met me in person?  Two, present company included.

It's too much to expect basic courtesy among expats anymore.  Still, I continue to help people.  I believe in karma (not the points on expat.com).  I believe that the good deeds I do today will return to me or my children tomorrow.  Not by those rotten eggs, but by the millions of good people out there. 

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

When I sent you a second message, saying "You're Welcome!" you replied "Any Time!" and blocked me.

Very classy.

I dont accept friend requests on here, as I find most are time wasters. I have had numerous requests for help and most of them have been very polite with their replies. I have had several that have never given a "thanks for your help" reply. I just ignore them when they contact me again.

colinoscapee wrote:

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I just ignore them when they contact me again.

Probably the best approach - rather than hounding them after two weeks with a sarcastic comment.

Same goes for dating sites. 

Like someone already said, the xxx-Cupid sites (Vietnam,Thai,Russia) are trying to be as legit as possible. But there are always scammers on every dating site.

I personally used a paid Vietnam cupid subscription and would try to weed out the gold-diggers by engaging in lots of video chats on whats-app or some such service.

I don't believe you can truly fall in love with someone until you've met them in person, so I would try and set up meetings with 2 or 3 of the most interesting ladies, book a trip to Vietnam and see if there was any spark once we met. I made three such trips in 2016 and 2017 without finding the necessary "Spark".

On my 4th trip (in 2017) I had 3 dates lined up. However on the first evening when I met the first of the three ladies the SPARK hit me like lightning! I cancelled the rest of my travels for that trip and apologized to the other 2 ladies for not coming and spent the whole 2 weeks with Lady number 1. Many visits followed (meeting the parents in a distant city, exploring parts of Vietnam that I hadn't seen together, etc.).

Now we are married and living in Canada together with the aim of moving to Vietnam once I retire.

kjkinVn wrote:

However on the first evening when I met the first of the three ladies the SPARK hit me like lightning! Many visits followed (meeting the parents in a distant city, exploring parts of Vietnam that I hadn't seen together, etc.).

Now we are married and living in Canada together with the aim of moving to Vietnam once I retire.

Wonderful story.  I wish you and your wife all the happiness in the years ahead, and may them be more years than you can remember when you both reach old age.

Ciambella wrote:

How many of those people afterwards sent me a follow up note, or brought me a coffee as a thank you when they met me in person?  Two, present company included.

I did :-), but we didn't meet for a coffee.

colinoscapee wrote:

wildwildwest wrote:

Dating sites are garbage in general. Better to find a woman in person, you know, there are millions out there...and most good ones don't bother with such sites.

Really, and you know this how?

Quality women won't lower themselves to this except out of desperation, or exceptionally, on a lark. That's been my experience, but your experience may vary.

wildwildwest wrote:

colinoscapee wrote:

wildwildwest wrote:

Dating sites are garbage in general. Better to find a woman in person, you know, there are millions out there...and most good ones don't bother with such sites.

Really, and you know this how?

Quality women won't lower themselves to this except out of desperation, or exceptionally, on a lark. That's been my experience, but your experience may vary.

I know lots of guys who have been married and in long term relationships from dating sites. Its never a good idea to generalise.

colinoscapee wrote:

wildwildwest wrote:

colinoscapee wrote:

Really, and you know this how?

Quality women won't lower themselves to this except out of desperation, or exceptionally, on a lark. That's been my experience, but your experience may vary.

I know lots of guys who have been married and in long term relationships from dating sites. Its never a good idea to generalise.

And some of those are unhappy, yet to be divorcees or broken up, or scammed... And while you could meet someone nice on one of those sites, your odds are much better off using traditional methods.

wildwildwest wrote:

colinoscapee wrote:

wildwildwest wrote:

Quality women won't lower themselves to this except out of desperation, or exceptionally, on a lark. That's been my experience, but your experience may vary.

I know lots of guys who have been married and in long term relationships from dating sites. Its never a good idea to generalise.

And some of those are unhappy, yet to be divorcees or broken up, or scammed... And while you could meet someone nice on one of those sites, your odds are much better off using traditional methods.

No to all your answers.

Your assumptions are possible in any relationship.Having lived in Viet Nam for 12 years I have known many guys that relatiinships have worked out very well. Mainly due to using the big head and not small head.

Also, most dont believe in some dude living in the sky.

wildwildwest wrote:

colinoscapee wrote:

wildwildwest wrote:

Quality women won't lower themselves to this except out of desperation, or exceptionally, on a lark. That's been my experience, but your experience may vary.

I know lots of guys who have been married and in long term relationships from dating sites. Its never a good idea to generalise.

And some of those are unhappy, yet to be divorcees or broken up, or scammed... And while you could meet someone nice on one of those sites, your odds are much better off using traditional methods.

"MY" Experience:

For years...decades...I used "traditional methods": meeting women at church(es), being introduced by family and friends, dating women I met through my jobs (healthcare and music industry), keeping my eyes open while at the library and shopping and washing my clothes at the laundromat.

I even dated a woman I met on an airplane flight.

While that wasn't working out, I created the most enduring and endearing relationships through personal ads (first the newspaper, then online) and at Country Music bars when I was out dancing or playing music/singing.

As I implied in my first (sarcastic) reply in this thread, I have met a good number of very fine women through Vietnam Cupid.

For a number of reasons (especially location and disagreement about having more children) I only moved seriously forward with one relationship that ended amicably in February.

*I think* that the greatest advantage to modern dating websites is the opportunity to meet women who INTEND to be in a relationship. 

You might think that only a minority of "Quality women" are members of dating sites, but their INTENT helps them rise to the top of search results.

"IF" I go to a religious congregation this week with a secondary purpose of meeting the love of my life, it will pretty much be a hit-and-miss endeavor.

With online dating, I get to search to see:

Does she admit wanting to get married or does she just want to "date"?

Does she want more children, and how many does she have already?

Do we have harmonious spiritual beliefs?

What are her key interests and hobbies?

Does she post photos of herself SMILING???

Does she sound desperate for a mate OR confident in taking her time meeting someone?

Is she willing to relocate?

Am I within her desirable age range?

IS SHE INTERESTED IN A *BIG* MAN WITH A BUDDHA BELLY??

With each new message, many more important questions are hopefully answered, and a LOT of time is saved as she also asks questions of me.

You could put me in a room where a church potluck is being held for unmarried adults, surrounding me with 100 "Quality women" who are single/divorced/widowed, and it would take me weeks or months to learn from them what I can learn from 100 profiles on a personals site in a day or two.

I kindly suggest rethinking your suppositions about women on internet dating sites.

You've "missed the mark" this time.

There is a word for that...

HenryJo wrote:

I joined yesterday. Today, found my inbox swamped with messages 'from girls'.

Have a slight suspicion that not all the messages may be legit. Perhaps, to temp me in to signing-up for the paid subscriptions?

Can anyone using the paid membership options confirm ?

The standard membership is pretty pointless as none of the girls on there seem to be able to message me back (as they are also on the standard membership). Only a fee paying member can message a standard membership member!

I would gladly pay for the membership, but not if the messages were of dubious origin or if the number of messages were to suddenly drop after I became a member.

A serious reply now:

That initial burst of "message" activity will turn out to be mostly some "hellos" from women who do have a paying membership and women who have indicated they are "interested".

Conceivably, one woman can generate three notifications to you:

1. If she clicks "interested"

2. If she adds you to her "favorites"

3. If she sends you a real message

I don't believe any of the notifications are cooked up by the website.

There are some websites that generate those kinds of phony messages "for entertainment purposes only" but Vietnam Cupid doesn't do that.

I recommend the paid membership.

Also, get the Zalo app and if anyone wants to contact you personally, ask them for their Zalo number.

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

wildwildwest wrote:

colinoscapee wrote:

I know lots of guys who have been married and in long term relationships from dating sites. Its never a good idea to generalise.

And some of those are unhappy, yet to be divorcees or broken up, or scammed... And while you could meet someone nice on one of those sites, your odds are much better off using traditional methods.

"MY" Experience:

For years...decades...I used "traditional methods": meeting women at church(es), being introduced by family and friends, dating women I met through my jobs (healthcare and music industry), keeping my eyes open while at the library and shopping and washing my clothes at the laundromat.

I even dated a woman I met on an airplane flight.

While that wasn't working out, I created the most enduring and endearing relationships through personal ads (first the newspaper, then online) and at Country Music bars when I was out dancing or playing music/singing.

As I implied in my first (sarcastic) reply in this thread, I have met a good number of very fine women through Vietnam Cupid.

For a number of reasons (especially location and disagreement about having more children) I only moved seriously forward with one relationship that ended amicably in February.

*I think* that the greatest advantage to modern dating websites is the opportunity to meet women who INTEND to be in a relationship. 

You might think that only a minority of "Quality women" are members of dating sites, but their INTENT helps them rise to the top of search results.

"IF" I go to a religious congregation this week with a secondary purpose of meeting the love of my life, it will pretty much be a hit-and-miss endeavor.

With online dating, I get to search to see:

Does she admit wanting to get married or does she just want to "date"?

Does she want more children, and how many does she have already?

Do we have harmonious spiritual beliefs?

What are her key interests and hobbies?

Does she post photos of herself SMILING???

Does she sound desperate for a mate OR confident in taking her time meeting someone?

Is she willing to relocate?

Am I within her desirable age range?

IS SHE INTERESTED IN A *BIG* MAN WITH A BUDDHA BELLY??

With each new message, many more important questions are hopefully answered, and a LOT of time is saved as she also asks questions of me.

You could put me in a room where a church potluck is being held for unmarried adults, surrounding me with 100 "Quality women" who are single/divorced/widowed, and it would take me weeks or months to learn from them what I can learn from 100 profiles on a personals site in a day or two.

I kindly suggest rethinking your suppositions about women on internet dating sites.

You've "missed the mark" this time.

There is a word for that...

I've had a very opposite experience, but as I said your mileage may vary. I've met hundreds and hundreds of people on such sites over the years and they were mostly shallow, lowest-common-denominator types (probably because of my foreigner status which would be a magnet to them). Such sites are like bars and speed-dating, it's hard to find substance. My best, longest and current relationship (it's been about a decade) is with a woman I met in church. If you find the selection lacking, maybe it's time to visit another meeting place, and you can get what you put into it.

Also, for the religious types, you could pray a future relationship. God knows who your match is better than any site or even you do. He's the ultimate matchmaker.

I don't think many professional woman frequent such sites. Many just wanting to practice English, and simply passing time on the Internet.

Yeah, well if your options are somewhat limited, I can see why you might try those sites, and hey, you might luck out and find somebody nice, but for most people, you would do much better to do things offline. Remember, take CoachRedPill's advice, men are marketable to women because of what they can provide (shelter/protection/security), women are marketable to men because of their feminine/womenly/motherly qualities. You don't have to be physically attractive or charming to find a good mate, being successful and a decent person are enough. Age is a factor, but on average women are most attractive to men at 21 (think college grad as an example), and men are most attractive to women at around 50 (think George Clooney/Tom Cruise as examples), because at each of those ages they are most likely capable to provide those particular qualities. That's for your average scenario, anyways. When you're a bit older you might have other reasons and have to adjust to your particular scenario.

Really I would only use them on a serious basis if I was looking for hookups, but that's against my religion.

I met my wife on there, but... You really need to be careful , many women on there just looking for an income from multiple men. They will meet up in a cafe and get advice form other women on what to say to get money and gifts.
So please use good judgement.

I met a very sweet, very well-educated lady on Vietnam Cupid. In my case, the site was legit.

Met my first Vietnsmese girlfiend via this site. Possibly the most beautiful woman to ever walk the Earth. Alas, mad as a box of frogs.

Also met my current landlady there, who is lovely in every way but a year older than me so paranoid that I will run off with a younger woman, but she's a good friend.

Still hunting...

Brick23 wrote:

Met my first Vietnsmese girlfiend via this site. Possibly the most beautiful woman to ever walk the Earth. Alas, mad as a box of frogs.

Also met my current landlady there, who is lovely in every way but a year older than me so paranoid that I will run off with a younger woman, but she's a good friend.

Still hunting...

So her fears are justified...

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

Brick23 wrote:

Met my first Vietnsmese girlfiend via this site. Possibly the most beautiful woman to ever walk the Earth. Alas, mad as a box of frogs.

Also met my current landlady there, who is lovely in every way but a year older than me so paranoid that I will run off with a younger woman, but she's a good friend.

Still hunting...

So her fears are justified...

No, we get on great as friends and agreed to keep it that way.

She's currently happily occupied trying to get me hooked up with her various single aquaintances. 

Brick23 wrote:

OceanBeach92107 wrote:

Brick23 wrote:

Met my first Vietnsmese girlfiend via this site. Possibly the most beautiful woman to ever walk the Earth. Alas, mad as a box of frogs.

Also met my current landlady there, who is lovely in every way but a year older than me so paranoid that I will run off with a younger woman, but she's a good friend.

Still hunting...

So her fears are justified...

No, we get on great as friends and agreed to keep it that way.

She's currently happily occupied trying to get me hooked up with her various single aquaintances. 

Yes she's paranoid you will run off with a younger woman?

I have a sneaky suspicion if we asked her to describe your relationship, she might differ from what you have to say.