Who wants to get married? Is it better be married or not married?

Well, there are good reasons for both (married and being single).
I would say some benefits of being single are: (1) Your money is really YOUR money!  (2) You are free. Free like a bird. You answer to no one, except yourself, for any bad decisions. (3) Fights over money, quarrels over other things.  Won't happen if you're single.
Good points of marriage:(1) SOmeone to share your feelings, secrets, fears, and bad day with, as well as your good day with. (2) You don't sleep alone  (3) A helping hand and/or a good ear sometimes. (4) SOmeone to take care of you as you age.  (5) Having children (someone to care care of you as you age). (6) SOmeone to love (7) SOmeone who loves you
My opinion is that when you are young (teens to 40's) you should be single for all the reasons listed aobve. Then as you "mature," you can settle into a different kind of life (marriage). Just my humble opinion. Have a nice weekend.
I think many marriages fail because one partner or the other or both got married rally young, and they still had a restless heart.

Re-hello Danchella!

This is quite a perplex question!

Hope that other members will share their opinions!

Harmonie.

Dear Danchella, You can discuss this for years but still will not come to a conclusion.   

One way to look at marriage is , one looses freedom after getting married and the other could be, one enjoys the freedom with someone he/she loves. Marriage is all about understanding between the partners.

thanks guys for sharing your thoughts with me..
i was curious how it is in the rest of the world..for example in Kazakhstan if you are 28 and still not married it is considered not good, like you are old..but i didn't feel like it..now i kinda started to think about it..but it should take a lot of time to know person, he should become the part of your life, the one that always makes you happy..one fortune teller told me that this is my last year single life..this or next year I will get married..you know what happened to me..I kinda started to appreciate my single life and enjoy it everyday!

Thanks Harmonie by the way..i learnt new word - Herplex today!!!
Even though I speak English since I was 6

oops I meant Perplex instead of Herplex

If you will marry soon, but are already "missing" your single status, then that should be a warning sign that you are not ready. Jump into when your heart tells you. Never marry just because of local social stigma. One culture's social stigma is another culture's normal behavior.  Take those with a grain of salt. Just marry because you want to spend your life with someone. Not because you are 28, and the relatives are starting to gossip.  I'm just using that for an example. I'm not saying that is your situation.

Hey Dave-KSA, I like your logic!
Thanks and again I learned one other new word stigma!
My vocabulary is improving everyday now thank you, thank you, thank you!

No problem, any time. I have nothing else to do on my weekends, anyway. I'd die if I didn't have my internet and laptop.  I think back in a normal world I wouldn't frequent or post stuff on websites. But here,it's a social outlet that enables me to connect with people, in a place where interaction isn't otherwise possible.

your question is logical,but it's answering depends on our culture , habits & tradition so i'm trying to share with recording to my own culture.my view is it wuold be better to have a marriage that because we need to make our relationships ) & of course i mean sexual relation) ligally and to protect our selves. to form our own family to make our live stable.
in my culture if i stay without marriage so long time my society will see me as bad person & do taboo and shamful things and perhaps they look me as gay so in my my culture if some one becomes adult that means has to get a marriage .

i'm single but i support marriage 100% and having kids and making a family, just make sure u find the right person...i never met my half yet but hope sp oneday wish u the best..life with no lover and no marriage is  meaningless in my opinion.

marriage is something very nice of course when you meet the right person who has the same convictions and thinks in the same way you're thinking  .you share everything with him/her good or bad .we need to be married for different things in life because we're created like this .i'm married and i have 2 nice childre.

Thank you, you sound very nice!
I also want to have kids..why girls that don't want to have them, have them and I really want to have them but I don't have them:)yet..

i wish you'll have them soon since you love them.

like the old saying goes...marriage is like this magical ring...those in wants to get off it and those off it wants to get in ahem...but then again marriage is honourable...and 2 is better than 1 :)by the way am not married

say hi to everyone here. I am newwww member .....

Wow, it's good to join Expat.com and all of u. Ya, I like the thoughts of Dave and Rose. Like Danchella, I learned English from Dave too, an English instructor .....

I think life will be more meaningfull, if we get married with our loved one. But, never get married because of age 28 or 38 ...... if no love or no feeling, why married ?

Danchella wrote:

Give me some advises please..smart people of the world=)

Hi everyone,
Like mahgoub fahmi,in my country, vietnam, when the girl over 30 years old, not marry yet, people will think that girl have a problem....

However,the successful people will marry very late because they have to spent a lot of time for thier job, no time for chasing , dating,,,,  but i think, married is necessary, if you have a stable income, housing, and specially 2 you love each other and want to live together forever

I usually go to meet the fortune tellers every beginning of the year, then they said I will married this year, so I still wait for my mr.Right....)

Danchella, don't worry much about that, you will meet the good man someday, I believe that the God always born of a pair, don't let anybody alone...

if one who have decided to marriage, pl. go ahead. As a human being marriage is a must... It has to sides good as well as bad...ok..

main factor is understanding .. both of them should have, then only life will sucessful.

and one more is married should be done early don't be delay otherwise age will go up.

hi

Hi everyone!

Dear Danchella,

I never  was married,
but
I met man who I loved, and I believe that it was mutual, I became ill,and it madeomission in our attitudes,I left him,and nothing said during leaving.
Marry with man you met if this is mutual Love-nobody so smile to you like he, only his eyes will draw you to him. Check your-self,check him-is it really Love,is he your second part who understand you from half-word? Das he feel you,do you feel,that when you stand so, that cannot see who entered in the room, with all your body you feel that this is he entered,standing and look at you,then when you turn, you see with your eyes,that it was truth-your feelings-this is he.

Respecting,
Mery.

Hi there,

I agree with a previous comment or two.

Firstly it does depend a lot of culture in many countries. But really it also depends on what you want in life. I am 42 and not married, never have been. Some would say, well what is wrong with him? It's because I choose this way of life. I am not lonely or needy or scared of committment it's purely that I like my life. Perhaps this is a spoiled attitude, but the way I see it, you only get one life, you should do how you see fit. Someone told me I was selfish and should think of my parents re having grandchildren. My parents couldn't care less, anyway I wouldn't burden them with that even if it did happen.

As commented previously there are many good things about being single as there are being married. I don't believe one is better than another, it's just choice really. As long as you are happy what does it matter?