Heart break in Tunis

I'm sorry this has happened to you I am just married to my husband from tunisa. In reading your story and what you say I'd walk away from this keep your head held high it's all about learning experience. The money I'd say will be gone let her go and move on.

@gillanlorraine141 Thank you for your kind words

My opinion reading your story is she used you , sorry for being blunt about it , regardless every couples have break down, arguments and fights that doesnt mean it gets to the point where it causes a whole wedding to be canceled , id say move on and sorry for what  you been through.

So so sorry for you.

unfortunately both your girlfriend and family had no intention of arranging a marriage and the chances of recuperating all monies are nil.

You need to walk away before you become heavy burdened with debt and possibly no job either.

These so called people just use and take advantage, that’s their job (Bezness)

@bttr0101 God bless you 🙏

You are from tunisa? Who you marry? Woman from where??

@Kairouan Thank you for your message.

@lainahudson I'm a Pakistani living in Canada. Girl is from Tunisa

@Doublezed I appreciate your feedback.

@bttr0101  I’m living in Tunisia with my Tunisian husband. So the weddings here are much different than Canada or America. The bride rents her dress here, well more like 5 or more dresses. (For different days) there really is no such thing as returns here in Tunisia if you place a deposit on anything and cancel, kiss your money goodbye!! When I was looking at dresses they wanted a deposit of like 100 tnd per dress but if you start to walk out they will settle for even 20 tnd. Any deposits on the hall are probably gone but that would be only a fraction of the cost of the rental hall. The gold will stay with the fiancé so don’t count on that! But everything else typically isn’t paid until a week or 2 before the wedding after you placed all the deposits. The wedding gifts you’ve “bought” would be hard to believe because most of the time the women goes out 2 weeks or so before the wedding to shop for the gifts. Basically they save ALL the money and pay for everything right before the wedding! Like the cow was paid for and bought 2 days in advance dresses a week before or at final dressing. Only because as much as you hear about these wedding scams Tunisians will also scam each other so they typically don’t pay for something until they get it. So they save every dinar up to the wedding knowing full well they’ll be paying everything right before the wedding. A Week or 2 before the wedding the money flies out the window paying for everything. That’s because They really don’t have a system here to recover any money for you or expats or even Tunisians.

But with that said, you were scammed more than likely from this girl and her family! The people here are absolutely wonderful kind and generous! But most parents don’t want their daughters marrying out of country to foreigners, they are extremely close and protective about their daughters. However, young men in their 20s are encouraged to find foreign women and marry her for papers not love. And with how wonderful the people are here, their whole family are in on the scam. I’ve seen very religious parents completely kind and accepting of an older lady who will NEVER give children to their sons treating these women like family until their sons get to these other countries and get their papers ALL knowing that their sons are planning on leaving these women immediately after receiving their papers to work leaving these women in debt (paying for the many trips and visa to get these men to their country) and completely heart broken. These men typically have family in that country or a neighboring country that they plan on going to once they have all their papers in order to do so.

I’ve 1st hand witnessed this with my own husband’s family with his cousins. Meeting the sweet older women all knowing that once his cousins get to America they will be leaving these women but knowing I can’t say anything directly to these women because this is my husbands family whom I’ll have to be a part of for many years to come. And all of his friends are also looking for an American women too. In fact most of his friends and family pressure my husband about why he isn’t moving to America! He tells me all the time but I got lucky! My American friends or expect friends have all told me of their heart breaks from the Tunisian men they’ve been hurt by. And my husband is quite direct with them about the Tunisian mindset and how they will get heart broken but doesn’t seem to stop my friends from continuing on their quest for a husband here. 🤣

Unfortunately you got caught up in a scam with your money! Be careful because it could be very possible that this woman could make up with you to see if she could get any more money from you before this wedding and cancel it right before actually never really booking or paying for anything but using this money to help her family. This is not the first story I’ve heard about tourist getting scammed by a Tunisian. If she really loves you she would not have “cancelled” your wedding because you guys got into a fight. And definitely not cancelled after you took time off your job and flew out to see her and make sure you apologized in person. If 1 person in a couple puts in more effort and love than the other person that typically means the other person isn’t in love it’s about what can I get out of this person before I walk away. I’m sorry this happened to you but it’s better it happened now than after spending thousands upon thousands going into debt.

@Christie Castro I really appreciate all these details and I'm happy to see such strong people around the world. It really gives me the power to calm my nerves and move on.

I did go see a lawyer, but I wasn't satisfied by the way I was being rushed. So it's up to God from here and I will not proceed with the financial part against her.

I just want others to know not to make the same mistake as I did. Through this experience I've met some wonderful Tunisian people who really prayed for me and went above and beyond to find a solution.

Thank you for reading.

my mate went through a similar process, trust me all the money will be in their bank account and she will move on to the next one, it’s just Bezness to them they only fall in love when they’re married and have everything they want for themselves and their family

Google Bezness and Tunisialoverats.com some sad stories.

Just read your story and I’m sorry to hear about all you’ve gone through. Just remember, you’re not her and you’re not your past either.