How to forgive someone who hurt u alot '',

fresh pain take a lot of time to heal, but forgiving someone will help to heal fast.

when you still can writte this status meant  you not really hurt

by thinking that he or she has their reasons doing that
u see fire burns , it's how fire is . don't get mad at fire for burning you . just avoid it

Don't get mad at fire.  Get even with fire.

if some one heart me a lot without any reasons , i will not forgive him;because it's not easy to be hearted, because pain of heart still a long time so after passing time i will forget this person to forget my pain forever ,but we can forgive and still souesstimate that person .

be strong

the weak can never forgive!
cuz forgiveness is only the attribute of the strong
(Gandhi)

move on and overcome! bcoz jerks are everywhere!

You have to learn to first forgive yourself for LETTING the other person hurt you. See, nobody does anything to us that we, ourselves, don't ALLOW them to do. We get hurt because we let ourselves feel that way, if you choose not to be hurt or feel hurt then you build up defenses.

Unless you want to be a victim, you need to understand that we are ALL responsible for our own happiness. It doesn't come from somebody else.

Forgive and forget the person. Time heals

Time doesn't heal gangrene.

LIKE, NIKE AD. JUST DO IT, IT`S EASIER, BAD KARMA STINKS YOU UP.

If you knew the person very well, think about the ways he/she handle things. Sometimes they hurt without knowing they are hurting. Learning about that other person will help you understand the reason he/she acted the way she/he did. Example, a person that was abuse as a kid most of the time will do the same. (just an example) meaning that some people can't deal with their own feelings so they do what they know to handle them.
After you understand that person then you will realized that it was not your fault.(there is a lot of things to consider) I don't know your whole story.
When you realized that it was not your fault and that he reacted the way he did because is the way he handle things then it will make it easier to forgive. But remember if it something that you don't want to deal with again, you can forgive, because you are forgiving for yourself and not for that other person. But if it was that bad for you then don't forget. Forgive for you but don't forget that way you will remember how you got there in the first place and will be able to avoid this situation if it comes to it again.
revenge will only get you more twisted and angrier. The only best revenge you can do is "REVENGE IT SELF". when you don't have to do anything but comes for that person. KARMA.
AND LIKE SOPHIE SAID. TIME WILL HELP YOU HEAL.
good luck. keep talking to me if you need to.

never contact that person anymore, still a lot of billion people in this world....

englishmasterking1 wrote:

LIKE, NIKE AD. JUST DO IT, IT`S EASIER, BAD KARMA STINKS YOU UP.

i agreed! KARMA !!

princess sandra wrote:

never contact that person anymore, still a lot of billion people in this world....

that's not the way "forgive" should works

understand the question first,,,then answer!

my husband has fell in an adultery situation and turned out with a kid that is 2 years by now. i have never not even in my dreams had the idea that he will flip 180 degree destroy our newly married couple life and turn to become abusive and destroy even himself, lost all the his heritage in gambling, smoking drinking and with that hore ! this story has tortured me in every way, depleted my energy but at the end as you said i realized after a lot of carefull attempt to understand and reestablish the damage that it is his bad judgment capacities and irresponsability in handling situation and dealing with life and its decision making consequences that led him to where he is today. this has helped me becoming more forgiving and doing my best to move on with my life in a different path. i am not going to lie to say that the scar is not deep there, i still feel the pain once in while while while the scar is always there i can't totally forget but again to answer the fellow that said we responsible to allow things to happen to us, in this situation, you can't be in a relationship and be always tense watching out. people look for partners for confort and you kind feel in the position to give the benefit of the doubt and trust at first till proven the opposite, but then you certainly will feel hurt and very disappointed. i don't see other way unless being that cautious and not trusting anybody and staying by itself and again who can bear lonliness ! at this point i feel really confused not sure which way to go.
any feedback are appreciated.

I find silence has worked very well in the past.

aabie ryan wrote:

princess sandra wrote:

never contact that person anymore, still a lot of billion people in this world....

that's not the way "forgive" should works

understand the question first,,,then answer!

You're right.

You can forgive them for your own well being and then forget them completely.

it's very hard situation, and very sad story but like such situation unfortunately  still happen in everywhere and you are not responsable ;in that case you can not trust to anyone but with time you will forget if you you want that;;;;

you forgive him because you are good person inside and you have pitey of him because he dstroy himself perhaps he feel doing a big mistake so ,,,i don't konw if you still thinking about living again with him only if he tell you that he was wrong and he really love you and do not want to let you living alone ;if not you could forgive him and forget him;;

i hope you like my answer


naima

Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.

Forgiveness is the greatest power we have over other people.

he certaimly reliazed the loss of where he got himself but unfortunately with his big ego and selfishness all he is thinking is about himself how to get back on his feet and not even considering me in the picture thinking i will be his super magic saver and when he realized that i have no longeranything to give he disappeared since feb 25. not even a message or email. i feel realy drained and myself i really need to feel secure and as any woman there times where you feel the need of a man boost and care. this has caused me to realize how he is kind of absent in my life and try to do on my own and move on or sometimes think about getting a new partner but believe me there a still a string when i think of him. even the more i think i get confused not sure which direction to think. all i can say i am having a real dilema and especially as a muslim woman that tries to stay on her grounds and keep her faith, when i feel temptations as any human being i feel the gilt and remorsed but all i can say it is really hard however last night my refuge was to the coran !

I am afraid that some injuries are simply unforgivable

i will say that just forget that person exist