I need honest answers pls,thnks

I personally think that if a person has to ask on an International forum if she should marry a man who is old enough to be her father or grandfather then she seriously has doubts, and if you have such doubts why enter into such a marriage?.

However in 2104 we live in a cynical age where 'Love' is not why the majority or people are marrying. We live in a work of conflict and poverty and lack of opportunity and if you are happy to enter into such an arrangement of 'convenience' why bother to ask people their opinion when you already know the answer yourself.

you can but think enough , what will be after 5 years from now ???
and how your life will be look like ??
will you find the joy of your youth ?
or will you live full time youth with a father age ??
you think and decide , just opinion

Exactly Muhammed, well said, my thoughts entirely.

#GotMeThinking.....Well Karnak,pls keep thinking nd pour out ur mind,its accepted...Thnks Muhammed

well then,,

as egyptian guy i would like to tell that it depends on how educated is that guy, if he is well educated and open minded i would believe that he is really in love with you, other wise if he is not well educated and cultured then he might be just love to take you bed, coz really black girls drive egyptians crazy, any way , if its just abt beeing safe or not, dont worry its safe, egyptians dont act with violance because of culor or any of that c** . looking forward to know from you if every things is going okey.


thanks
Elwan

as you dnt say much else except age and racial differences, or if you love him and get on with him , I personnaly feel its such a huge gap will you be happy in ten years time when you at your peak and he is much older then you.

then again life is short and happiness is more important to live in the now .nothing in life is easy but if two people click then its easy

you right there is no norm in this life left. I tthink deep down we all want the get married to the only love of your ife and have children and live happy ever after, with granny and granpa cousins ect ect, largely in Egypt still excist strong family connections but yes world is changing and I think Egypt is also changing in this way.

mohhamed ...you say about older man younger women and maybe its not okay !
what about older women younger man ...it seems very popular in Egypt and many other countries ...Just saying ..what is the difference ???

Elwan ... I have to agree with you about educated and open minded Egyptian men ..I have met Educated and none educated and im sorry to say the none educated seem to think all women are rich and easy to get into bed ,which in some cases its true..
Educated men are much wiser and as I have said in other post they would never expect a women to pay for anything and respect the women more if they don't want to get into bed ...
I am only going with my own experiences with my Egyptian friends ...

I know some women who have gone on holiday for 2 weeks and they say there in love ! they get this ufri marriage paper and go back after  6 month and then find out he has many different women ... time and time again I have spoken to women about this ...do they listen ..NO

I honestly think if a man / women loves a each other they need to take time to get to know each other ,most of these relationships are over Skype or text .. In there own country it would be more face to face ....Wait wait wait until you can honestly say you know who you are talking to ... and if it is love or lust ...

Hi I would just like to add that I met my husband via the Internet and we married eventually.  We are still together and are very happy 7 years later.  I am also older than my husband but he supports me  in every way, he is my best friend as well as my husband. Yes I do know that there are a lot of bad marriages which take place between different cultures but take the time to get to know each other and then you will know if it's right for you. I know people who married and it did not work out but I know many also that have worked and are strong. It all depends on the individuals involved, everyone is different. I hope everyone who is looking for a good husband finds their soul mate.

Hi,

I would recommend you to stay the hell out of his way since Egyptian men are ass wipes. I am an egyptian man and my conscious is telling me to give you this advice. STAY AWAY, STAY ALERT, or you will regret it your entire life. 85% of egyptian men are a$$ holes, they like to take a severe advantage of you, and they are not smart in dealing with women.

Regards,

Wise point of view .. for me, age never matters !! whatever , whenever or wherever the situation is !!

Hello My Dear

I can only tell you of my own experience.  I have been married 16 years to a wonderful Egyptian man 18 years my junior but...............it took him 3 years to convince me of his true feelings as I was very sceptical.  I have seen Egyptian men marry for the wrong resons and I know of some women who have had very miserable outcomes but, if you take your time and get to know him, and his family, well before making any commitment I am sure all will turn out well.  I am Muslim so the culture was not a big issue for me but an Islamic culture is very different from modern western culture.  There are expectations on both fronts and both partners have duties within the union.  If you have any doubts about this then do not go any further.  I had to give up all my "mod cons" when I moved to Egypt.  No microwave, no hair straighteners, no fancy electric cooker, and things taken for granted are luxuries in Egypt.  Many girls cannot live without the freedom of buying what they want either.  You marry and Egyptian and you also marry his family as family are everything here.  There are many things to take into consideration.  I must admit though, I have the best husband in the world and I love him to bits and I would not change my life for all th money in the world.

Best Wishes to you and may Allah lead you to the right path.

Assalam allaikum Alex Scott
I am so happy to hear another positive post about marrying a younger Egyptian man. I too am married to an Egyptian man who is younger than me and we have been married 7 years now and I would not swap him for.any other man. As you said if you get to know him and his family you can then make a proper decision on marriage. All the negative comments on this post about Egyptian men sadden me as I know they are not all the same and is the same everywhere, there is good and bad in every culture. You have given KWEENDIOR sound advice, as did I. We neither told her to marry the man or to leave the man, as we do not know him so.how can we judge? The only advice that can be given is to take the time to get to know ALL.about him and his family.

Mydream and Alexscot ... I am so happy for the both of you ,its great to here success stories ...

Every ones story is different and it also saddens me when people say all Egyptian men are bad ,I do believe these women have had bad experiences otherwise how do they know !
Im not saying there are not good and bad as in any country 

For crying out load we only have to look in are own country to see how some men behave ..

Good luck to you all who have found a good genuine man ... x

Best of luck to you Elimay x

Hi there,

Yeah , know that finding a soul mate can be very challenging, and when found/if found, opens the doors to dilemma. as well as the question, am I making the right choice?! I would say you need to ask yourself these questions as I ask myself: 1. what are my expectations in a marriage? 2. What things are important to me now, and would like to continue it even when married? Does this person want children? 3. Do I respect this person? 4. Am I attracted to this person? 5. Do we share a common mission in life? 6. which country would we live in? and if not in my home country, will he allow me to visit my family? 7. what is this person like with their family and friends?

Hope that helps a bit?!...Aaand yes you are right, it is very rare I see light skin Egyptians marrying darker skinned women. here, they would be Nubians! I have seen a couple of times, a light skinned man from Cairo marry a Nubian 2 times before. They seemed to share something different. Not just romance and sensuality, but respect and mutual understanding.

Take Care!!

I think you need to spent a long time with him before marriage in order to know him well, and the time will answer all of your questions. believe me no one could judge on this man feeling or menatlity, you are the only one that able for that through a deep contact with him .

Hi Boules that is exactly what I have been saying too.
KWEENDIOR:
No one on this forum can judge this man as we don't know him. Take time to get to know ALL.about him and his family then you can decide. I wish you a happy life what ever you choose

I totally agree.  Nobody here can, nor has the right to, sit in judgement of anyone else, especially when they neither know the people involved nor the facts.  At the end of the day it is your life and only you can make these kind of decisions based on what you know, have seen and have experienced. 

Marriage to someone from another culture is a huge step.  Can you embrace the culture?  Can he embrace yours? When my husband visits the UK he still has problems understanding the attitudes of people there.

What you have to remember is that everyone is different.  We all have different needs and expectations and I know we all read the horror stories on the net and are frightened by what we read but there are also some very happy endings out there too.  These are not usually told on th net.  There are good and bad, women as well as men, everywhere so just bear that in mind and get to know this man.  Are you attracted to him?  Do you have feelings for him?  If not then you have answered your own question.  I have found in my own case that the hub of our relationship is honest and open communication between us.  We trust each other totally, are best friends and we tell each other everything.  For us it has worked and Alhamdullilah for that

Alhamdulillah for a message from a woman in a happy marriage to an Egyptian man there are too many scary stories on the net and not enough to show how many happy marriages exist. Maybe if more women posted the balance would swing in favour of happy marriages and dispel this myth that ALL Egyptian men are bad
I thank God for my husband every day ALHAMDULILLAH!!!