Please help! I am an American woman wanting to marry a Kuwaiti man

lovinghimQ8 · 2015-07-03T20:14:05+02:00

Hello, I an an American woman. I met a Kuwaiti man who is here in USA for school. We have spent the last 2 years together. He told me he wanted to marry me a long time ago but he was afraid of what his mother would say. About a year ago she said no simply because I am American. But that didnt stop him from continuing a relationship with me. We are the definition of soul mates. We are so good for each other. I was a Christian but I learned so much from him and from the Qu'ran that I have converted to Islam. I am now an American Muslim. Yesterday my boyfriend from Kuwait told me to be hopeful and think positively because he was going to get his older sister to understand that he loves me and for her to support him when he tells his parents that he will marry me. We planned our future. We would first get married in the USA because he has about a year of school left. We will go on winter break to Kuwait to have our wedding with his family. Then we will move the Kuwait. We were so happy talking about how great we are for each other and how our love and companionship will carry use through all troubles and of course with our faith in Allah. The next day he tells me his sister didn't disagree with him, but she told him he needs to do what is right. His mother told him no because she wants him to marry a Kuwaiti girl. Now he is telling me that no matter how he looks at it he will be disobeying his parents. I understand that a person should listen to their parents and respect their parents. But they have raised him to be a fantastic man and I think it is time he should use all he has learned to make his own decision in his own marriage. He has clearly told me that he loves me and there is nothing holding him back from our marriage except for his parents. Am I wrong to ask him to marry me without his parents permission? Does it really make him a bad son that doesn't listen to his parents if the ONLY thing he ever did against their wish was to marry someone of a different race? He loves me. I love him. We would be raising our children in Kuwait. Maybe even in his parents home if thats what they wanted. I am so accommodating to his culture and lifestyle. His parents would not be losing him. They would just be gaining me. What should I do? Is there any way I can help make his parents see that I am good for their son? Is there any way I can help my boyfriend make his own decision without feeling complete shame and guilt? PLEASE help

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jazzTRIBECACUPCAKESActive member13 August 2019 21:12:20

#41

PS I'm kinda too late to reply but nevertheless..I shall say my piece peace!!!

lnquisitorActive member15 August 2019 16:51:21

#42

This for not doing like a serious relationship.
Sounds like a boyfriend and girlfriend only.
How old is this couple?
How could his family possibly agree?
Who in her family is there for his parents to meet and agree to the marriage contact? Or is it just her alone?

You can't have a proper Islamic marriage under this circumstances what mother would agree to that?

GuestPoster288Guest29 October 2019 09:28:30

#43

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Hi all,

Like many i am late to this thread but would appreciate input from Kuwaitis :-)

I am from the UK, moved to Kuwait in 2016 and fell in love with a Kuwaiti girl, she is extremely westernized, studied and lived in the States for 10 years and we share the same values and belief system which is great. Unlike my Western, Christian upbringing, we cannot move to our next step of marriage, this is where i need some input and advice.

After almost 2 years of dating in Kuwait, we decided to live in Dubai without her family worries and social stigmas. Her family are pure Kuwaiti bloodline, passport number 1 and as such her family are extremely religious and expect their children to live in their ways. I have total respect and admiration for her family and they sound great, i know their country and cultural norms very well, however as many have said before, her family would not accept a lower ranking Kuwaiti family name, let alone a Westerner.

Rightly or wrongly, she has confirmed that she does not want to marry a Kuwaiti, for a number of reasons. My question is this, how do i begin conversations with her family? Who should i speak with first? How long do i need to persist normally before a breakthrough could happen? How much should i offer for a dowry? And is the mom the real boss when it comes to marriage? Her father is the very dominant force within their household.

Any and all real life input would be appreciated :-)

Deji-ANew member30 October 2019 03:17:12

#44

I actually think your girlfriend is in a better position to guide you on this one. She knows the culture, norms, traditions and most especially her family more than any stranger on here could.

I'd suggest you start things off with her guidance before resorting to advice from random strangers!

Good luck and hope this helps!

Beast ModeMember30 October 2019 10:12:16

#45

Hey

I'm half Kuwaiti and American. I read your biopic. I wouldn't get married to a Kuwaiti. His mother will not accept you because your not Kuwaiti. This is an uneducated family. Probably bedouins.

But good luck.

ahmed197666Contributor30 October 2019 21:19:03

#46

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just call her father , or her brother or uncle ... tell them what you want ......... it is not hard

ahmed197666Contributor30 October 2019 21:20:20

#47

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this has been posted long time ago .... is there any updates ??? did you get married now ??

Zahra086Member03 November 2019 08:25:04

#48

Your story is even more complicated lol!

honeybee3Member16 March 2020 10:48:10

#49

I need to talk to you. Can I please have your WhatsApp number? You might save a life from falling into wrong hands.

Hamza real estateMember16 March 2020 13:03:09

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A H 7Active member05 July 2024 15:24:35

#51

Did you marry him? Did all go well?

KingBobMember05 August 2024 17:17:10

#52

@lovinghimQ8

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