Can't take it anymore

good u have stated... and my reply will bring more relieve to u... dont think its same, just look at ur pocket dude
u have other options as well, do that

i have the money , i want to leave , but i need someone to be there for me, but u already know , it's tooo damn hard to find that, and i dont want to go there , and live alone in the new culture , it feels emotionally unsafe

Hmmmmm that is really sad situation

just go there... life is worth taking risks me boy

where u want start ur new life then and what ur plan for that...u need plan for everything..i know it hard but if u think it batter for u just do it

european life style suits me the best ,  after all my french is better than my native language , and my english is out of the question , and my heart is ready to let go of many things.

it's hard for me because i never been alone in a alien place.

Xtrem wrote:

this is too much  ,  i feel like am wasting my life , going back to leb is useless , it doesnt feel like home , and here it feels like am spending my life, i always wanted to leave middle east , there is nothing more for me here.
and no i am not depressed ,  i just realised that i've been doing the same thing for over about one year , only the momentary fun stuff kept me from thinking about that.

am just stating .

Hey, ain't we all feel the same and I second your thoughts.
I think, and I could be right, that You are afraid of getting hurt.. while on the contrary you should be strong enough to handle all of such disappointments.

I found a hobby which is playing squash and when I play I forget everything else except the moment, the power of Now.. Find one passion that you can do it while you are here in saudi.

At the end, no advice will do justice to you and you would have to take the decision. Good luck with your quest to search your identity.

"As a rule, I am very careful to be shallow and conventional where depth and originality are wasted."

thanks alot for ur consolidation ,it is true that i am still searching for my identity , my personal quote " i am what i became , not what i was born with " ,  and i  think  by letting out these words i am starting to take actions.
Regarding my hobby i dont feel like practicing photography here in such a place can u find me this in saudi ?

@Xtreme:  this is how saudi is. and unfortunately this si how it will be for some time to come as well. Either adapt or quit. and then there are some who just dont have a choice.

My way of coping has been either get together with ppl you can have some fun, or to start having fun with people you can tolerate with, or start a new hobby which others are doing. somehow its been pushing me between my vacations.

RedGoblin wrote:

@Xtreme:  this is how saudi is. and unfortunately this si how it will be for some time to come as well. Either adapt or quit. and then there are some who just dont have a choice.

My way of coping has been either get together with ppl you can have some fun, or to start having fun with people you can tolerate with, or start a new hobby which others are doing. somehow its been pushing me between my vacations.

i am trying to settle down , all those delays are spending my life away, i dont want this culture or atmosphere for my children, and my interrests are doesnt exist  in saudi yet [ not alcohol or chicks]but the culture , the habits , the respect of human's life is what i am looking for , and i dont want to change my habits just for the sake of adapting , i mean doesnt adaptation come from moving around to better places ?  i am willing to adapt, it's just not here

We all felt that way xtrem, but I think there was a very good reason why you decided to go here. And keeping that reason in mind, will just keep you going and making yourself sane.

Just like the others suggested, find a good circle of friends, find a hobby, and time will fly by fast...cheers.

dynamo1131 wrote:

We all felt that way xtrem, but I think there was a very good reason why you decided to go here. And keeping that reason in mind, will just keep you going and making yourself sane.

Just like the others suggested, find a good circle of friends, find a hobby, and time will fly by fast...cheers.

i lost that reason after the second year i came here ,  after that i didnt know what to do but keep doing my job

Hi Xtrem

Sorry to hear you in this situation, but we are all in this together. Try study something which will be an opportunity for you to leave in the future. A good group of friends will help you through this. Start planning to leave now, find another country, go visit then apply for a job and maybe nationality if you dont want to go back to Lebanon.

How come no 'chick's, the leb girls I work with are beautiful, and plenty single ones.

Sparrow wrote:

Hi Xtrem

Sorry to hear you in this situation, but we are all in this together. Try study something which will be an opportunity for you to leave in the future. A good group of friends will help you through this. Start planning to leave now, find another country, go visit then apply for a job and maybe nationality if you dont want to go back to Lebanon.

How come no 'chick's, the leb girls I work with are beautiful, and plenty single ones.

what i meant , is the interest i am looking for exclude alcohol ,and chicks.

Hey. I feel a bit like you actually so can sypathise. Only so many dinners I can have by myself and work through till midnight. When people on here say that get a hobby - how actually do you get hobbies in this country? Any sites that could help?

Xtrem wrote:

Sparrow wrote:

Hi Xtrem

Sorry to hear you in this situation, but we are all in this together. Try study something which will be an opportunity for you to leave in the future. A good group of friends will help you through this. Start planning to leave now, find another country, go visit then apply for a job and maybe nationality if you dont want to go back to Lebanon.

How come no 'chick's, the leb girls I work with are beautiful, and plenty single ones.

what i meant , is the interest i am looking for exclude alcohol ,and chicks.

Dude your problem is not the place or it is your job. Your job is probably not challenging enough and you are tired of the routine. Your lack of social life probably adds on to it. This could happen to you in any country.

I would suggest giving urself new goals, new challenges, try to achieve something more than what you are doing. Look for something different probably too, learn a new language or new skill something like that. This will help you in future also.

Xtrem - so sorry to hear you sounding like this, especially as your comments will also be true for many others and this will make them sad to reflect with you.  Look, due to the restrictions we all know Saudi can become a very lonely place and due to this, it can zap the soul out of you.  However, this can be true for many expat postings or even so for a native in their own country if they have no or little human interaction.  I would ditto a few things that some of the other have said on here:

- do a list of all the things you wish to achieve by the end of 2011 (make sure it is a realistic and affordable list of things).
- reflect and weigh up the + and the - of your current job and the salary.
- consider the circle of friends you would want to meet, in this, consider the subjects you would want to chat about, the hobbies you would want to do with them and the ways you would like to spend your time with them.
- consider how many times you have made attempts to speak to other people and how many times you have been rejected.  In considering this, make a note of how many times you thought to make contact, but never did!
- consider and do a list of all the other countries in the world that you could easily enter (without visa complications or lots of money) and then note if you would like to go there and why
- contact your Embassy and ask if they can put you in touch with other Lebanese people in your age groups and work skills area.
- do a few postings on this site for meet up over coffee, there have been a few gatherings with men in groups and a few invites from people more established here to people which have been a real life saver for ones emotions and sanity

Above all, DO NOT despair - there are worst places you could be and worst situations you can be experiencing; so all is not in despair, you just need to make some distinct improvements in your life.

Your post has generated some very positive responses for you and I am sure some of the people will now consider you for some of the things they will be doing or at the very least, send you pm's now and again to make sure you are now starting to move in the right direction.

If you get really down with this, then just put it out there and send a request to people to meet up for coffee - you may be pleasantly surprised at how many good, kind and warm hearted people there are out here in Riyadh. 

gowiththeflowUK wrote:

Xtrem - so sorry to hear you sounding like this, especially as your commen....

Thank you very much , that's ... a life advice ^^

i have done my homework  ,i like to interact with people and i am very social { well , applies in lebanon , not here }  , the reject reactions i got from people here, their interests , their culture  ,their habits { not only locals} those are roadblocks i dont wont to adapt to , because i dont want to be part of ,it's really a big gap between the social/cultural life here and in lebanon {except for few}.

i'll try to work on my goals ,staying here is just a money collecting situation ,and like many of my friends who left , i have to endure through this

slyshooter wrote:

Xtrem wrote:

Sparrow wrote:

Hi Xtrem

Sorry to hear you in this situation, but we are all in this together. Try study something which will be an opportunity for you to leave in the future. A good group of friends will help you through this. Start planning to leave now, find another country, go visit then apply for a job and maybe nationality if you dont want to go back to Lebanon.

How come no 'chick's, the leb girls I work with are beautiful, and plenty single ones.

what i meant , is the interest i am looking for exclude alcohol ,and chicks.

Dude your problem is not the place or it is your job. Your job is probably not challenging enough and you are tired of the routine. Your lack of social life probably adds on to it. This could happen to you in any country.

I would suggest giving urself new goals, new challenges, try to achieve something more than what you are doing. Look for something different probably too, learn a new language or new skill something like that. This will help you in future also.

that's really hard in a non-motivating atmosphere , specially when it's solo ,  and i've seen the institutions who teach w/e i was looking for , it's not very attracting on a professional level.

Xtrem wrote:

this is too much  ,  i feel like am wasting my life , going back to leb is useless , it doesnt feel like home , and here it feels like am spending my life, i always wanted to leave middle east , there is nothing more for me here.
and no i am not depressed ,  i just realised that i've been doing the same thing for over about one year , only the momentary fun stuff kept me from thinking about that.

am just stating .

You are totally right , I feel like you too

hey.. man.. come on..calm yourself..
most of us here experience the situation you enduring now. but come on.. the day before you step into Saudi Arabia, you already decided and determined that you will be working here. So bear with it.
your most difficult enemy here is yourself..So you have to learn to endure these things you are experiencing now.. Adaptation is not a choice.. just like species of plants and animals here and different parts of the world. Plant or animals of the same species have different appearances and features to adapt their environment where they belong. So learn to adapt and remember that you always have a choice (that's to be happy but not too much that it may you look like crazy..hehehe).

learn to spend your time in some other things like going to gym, meeting and hanging out with your friends, watch anime!!!(lol) and any other stuff that will consume your time.
Like sparrow said, find some things to study so it will be beneficial for you in the long run.

So Good LucK!!!

P.S.

What anime do u watch?hehehe

seeker of truth wrote:

hey.. man.. come on..calm yourself..
most of us here experience the situation you enduring now. but come on.. the day before y.....

it wasnt my descision to come here , my dad works here , so it was easy for me to come here and collect money while waiting the visa to canada , as for being busy with stuff , i mentioned earlier , it's becoming boring to do solo activities , and am planning to start going to gym the next month.

as for animu , am following up with the new season

Good!Good!
So bear with it... while looking forward of being in CANADA soon..hehehe

Dude, does it have any title? animu??

mainly, im watching One piece and Naruto trying to complete my collections of its series.

Xtrem wrote:

thanks alot for ur consolidation ,it is true that i am still searching for my identity , my personal quote " i am what i became , not what i was born with " ,  and i  think  by letting out these words i am starting to take actions.
Regarding my hobby i dont feel like practicing photography here in such a place can u find me this in saudi ?

hey dude.  chill i have almost the same problem but different place im aiming on which is malaysia. plus the age factor im getting too old. if you wanna go to france go ahead take it as an adventure with many possibilities (just burn the boat when you get there). im also searching for some friends in malaysia so you can do just like me with france.

but as far as anime ill give you a site contact them and their asking for people like you its sakura-almamlakh.com