2 Many Fish In The Sea

Choose the country first before you choose the woman. It really is a big deal.

Yes i understand but the choice is hard. I can go to the Philippines where English is spoken or Vietnam where I will have to try learn the language.

Follow adivise such as Nielsen Flute, other wise dont ask for advise, and make your own choice, which in the end in a total and a simple way it is your choice.

Be clear about what you want out of these relationships. What are you looking for when you talk about "genuine"? One can be "genuine" and still end up leveraging on you for monetary purposes.

First thing is to understand what the woman asking for money is doing! She will play you for the rest of your life! The choice should be easy! If not find others! If still only choosing from these then I would think you should have a very frank conversation with the one who has a business and see what she thinks! Whatever you choose just keep control of the money! It will take awhile for her to live that way but after a few months you will be happier! Not to mention Richer! Good Luck! By the way Vietnamese can learn English faster then you can lern Vietnamese! I have a Vietnamese daughter and she assured me of this!

Thank you for that advise. The lady in the Philippines is not rich by any means but does have a small business and some savings and seems to be a loving mother and she has told me all she wants is unconditional love, a partner for life. I chat using a translation tool to the lady in Vietnam and she also wishes to meet me although she seems a little more shy and timid so I have told her that she can bring a friend with her for the first day or two until she feels comfortable and I suggested that if she has an English speaking friend that would be better. I am having trouble with pronouncing Vietnamese words so hopefully I can learn a few words before I go and if not and if she has no English speaking friend, maybe I can hire a translator to accompany us for a day.

Cherryann01 wrote:

Thank you for that advise. The lady in the Philippines is not rich by any means but does have a small business and some savings and seems to be a loving mother and she has told me all she wants is unconditional love, a partner for life. I chat using a translation tool to the lady in Vietnam and she also wishes to meet me although she seems a little more shy and timid so I have told her that she can bring a friend with her for the first day or two until she feels comfortable and I suggested that if she has an English speaking friend that would be better. I am having trouble with pronouncing Vietnamese words so hopefully I can learn a few words before I go and if not and if she has no English speaking friend, maybe I can hire a translator to accompany us for a day.

Sounds like things could be difficult for both of you. I would think that one or both of you would need to get fluent in the others language pretty pronto unless you plan to use your phones to talk to one another in person all the time.

Yes I am doing my best to try pick up some of the Vietnamese Language but it is very difficult to pronounce the words and one thing I have noticed is that if you make the slightest mistake while using the online translator, it changes the sentence drastically. There are a lot of punctuation marks in her language and she once sent me a picture she found of my ex wife, asking who the wife was, I typed in and made one mistake and got the translation (Who is the elephant).

Dont complicate things, life is too short

I know exactly what you mean by that.

Cherryann01 wrote:

Yes i understand but the choice is hard. I can go to the Philippines where English is spoken or Vietnam where I will have to try learn the language.

Vietnamese is tonal and most westerners have some difficulty and the Govt isnt alway appreciative of foreigners. Go where you can be understood believe it will be a huge difference when thing need sorting out.
Plus the culture in the Philippines is pro-west and this makes for easy adaption. Some times a lot of women can be a lot of problems . 

Thank's for the advise although I am still pondering this. The lady in Vietnam told me yesterday that she has started to take English lessons so we can communicate and I am trying to learn some Vietnamese. Chatting to the two of them, I can see pros and cons for each but they both seem very genuine and loving people. I have read some articles and watched you tube videos on each country and although the Philippines may be more pro West, it does seem like if I needed to get a job I would have more chance in Vietnam.

Vietnamese would be paramount then, it is one of the more difficult ones to learn.

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Great advise

thewoodenpotter wrote:

Vietnamese would be paramount then, it is one of the more difficult ones to learn.

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You forget Thaï language

thats true but the guy is dealing with a Vietnamese lady. But any tonal language would be a challenge.

if she is maried but living seperated and or have kids i would not get involved as the ex can give serious problems.