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Last activity 30 September 2021 by GuestPoster1412

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aishahm

I'm an Australian citizen, I'm recently divorced from my Moroccan/ British husband
We lived in Morocco since 2014
He never made my visa or residency here
Since our divorce I have been informed I must leave since I'm here illegally.

I have custody and child support issued by Moroccan court system with my divorce paper.
He refuses to consent to passports ( Australian) I believe I can get British ones for them without his consent but I have to register them as British citizens first.
Even if I make their passports which seems very difficult, I can't legally travel with them without his consent.

The Australian Embassy informed me of this and currently the British Embassy has totally ignored me.

I have spoken to a few lawyers and they have told me to contact the embassy. Told me to ask their father again... I mean I'm at my wit's end. My children can't even attend school and we are struggling in every sense of the word.

How do I get out of Morocco !!!
Their father isn't even resident in Morocco, he was born and raised in England, he lives in England and I was forced to remain here since coming for a 3 week holiday in 2014.
This abuse, phycological and emotional continues, his ability to control my life and he's living it up in England! Our divorce ended the physical abuse but how do I ever repair myself alone, without my family and friends !!!
How can we be forced to stay here and he isn't even here?
Lawyers seem to know nothing
Embassy doesn't get involved in legal matters and parental consent is a legal matter !

Please help

Littlebunny

I feel really sorry for you ..I was married to an algerian there buy lost everything and had to walk away with 0 .I lost my house my garden my possessions everything I had paid for..i did not have children.  Anyone reading this take it as a warning 99 per cent of them end in divorce as mostly scam men .. whatever they say .. I had a lucky escape again from a moroccan asking me for money ... never have anything to do with passports papers or money..
The embassy still have a duty to advise you whatever they do not wish to be involved... but it is not like in films where they are interested.. I found free legal advice in Algiers so when I realised I had no right ever to my own paid for house etc I left with nothing and to this day still have nothing.  Please do not worry in the end you still have your children... many do not .. Please return to embassy to request info for free legal advice.  Ladies please heed my warnings..  They are all so kind and charming in the beginning and then suddenly change ... They say they are not all like it but so many are .. you are just business for them...

touritox

Hey i am sorry for you , but 8 years and you didnt apply for residency thats huge mistake but we dont blame you you need to stay strong and go to ask the australian emassy if there is any solution they can give you .
you can discuss with your ex husband for a solution if may that help .
if you had a work on morocco you can apply a work contract to stay .
where do you live now in morocco maybe an expat here can give some help even by give you a good lawyer or any help .
not all moroccan man are bad , there is bad and good everywhere .

touritox

about ( little bunny ) comment :
If you have a bad experiance with men means all moroccan man are scam !!!
where you get this point of view ?
lets say you was blame of enjoying your times and forget to know exactly the man who you are with before marriage .
if you marry a man with no job of course he will ask you to give him .
If you marry someone have a job and a live why he would want your money ?? Ok he want it so why you dont explain at first that you will not give him as rules better than have problems after marriage life .
women are smart they can find out about lies and every liar made a mistake ...
Ah i forget i told some a foreign friend at his first time to be careful about some fake guide that he will lie to her to get money , she said yes of course . then she meet one and he look old in age of her dad and they talking about lot of things and she was fun then he take her to a tour and said that tomorrow is our king birthday you must buy this and this and this and this ... Then boom after days she find that that all was a big lie .
Do i need to say a ( country ) women are stupid better than said moroccan man are scam !!!

aishahm

I was kept here against my wanting to reside here.
I could not apply for residency as a married woman. The husband is responsible for that. He also didn't register our 4 children born here. I had to do that myself after the birth of my last child. I had to pay the courts and make the shahada tasjeel and everything while still in nifas after birth of my 7th child.

You can say what you want about Moroccan men, yes there is good and bad everywhere. I don't think anyone is saying all Moroccan men are bad! But even living here and I sit in the masjid I have women asking me if I have friends who aren't married. I say yes I know this and that woman. They say no no we want foreigner like you.
When I go places people try to make friends with me just for money.
I'm sorry but in all my experience being married to a Moroccan, living in Morocco and being part of the society, hearing other Moroccan women's marriage problems etc I see that there is a general issue that applies to Moroccan men.
Just as a general issue applies to English men or American men.

Even though my ex husband was born in England. He used the law of Morocco which isn't even pure Islamic law it also has alot of old cultural laws and some modern ( internationally accepted law) to his advantage.
This is common practice ' rishwa' is loved by Moroccan men who have all the rights and no one is above that if they have something to benefit.
So I say, in regards to your comment about ' Moroccan men'
You can feel and believe what you want. But this tradition of misuse of women isn't only to foreign women but to women in general and stems from the twisted culture that has polluted the Islamic values and serves the male ego and self!

Sorry but I warn any woman from being with a man and living in Morocco if he is Moroccan you are lower than a dog!

I called police for domestic abuse while I was 5 months pregnant after being hit in my stomach by my ex husband Infront of my children!!!! I was told to return home with him since he is my husband !!!
It wasn't until I annoyed the police so much that they contacted the family court on my behalf as my ex husband would take, my passport, my documents etc my phone ( Moroccan men love that) and they told him to take me to complain to the court.
They sent me home with him.
I wasn't legally allowed to leave the marital ( rented) home with my kids without his consent and he wouldn't consent. This is the law!
I finally got him to agree by harassing the local police and then rented on my own name and informed the court to which he then fled the country..
Since I couldn't prove he wasn't in Morocco I couldn't get a divorce!!!

Absolutely rediculous!
Sorry ladies but don't sell yourself a slave and lack of human rights for a man who is raised and witness the lack of respect to the rights of a woman and believes she is a slave to his sexual desires, a vessel to carry his children and a servant in the house.

I'm a Muslim woman and Islam does not lower the women like that!

touritox

I am sorry for what happened to you but you make us think of 90's , now is different . man can't do this because law and familly organisations are with women side to change the bad past .
you can look in youtube and listen to stories to know .
if the husband punsh you and went to the police with evidance ( even without he will be arrest ) and he will get arrest and until you said i forgive him and sign a paper then he will go out .
if your husband makes you as slave then divorce him you have all right .
here woman too trying to control man in name of law like , makes him punch you then the police time and then made him sign a paper to forgive him and he will listen to you and you can have freedom when he get angry show the paper .
You want divorce a man then you get pleasure and expense and if he cant pay then arrest .
and my dad is in age of 50 now , i never seen him punch my mom and he never try to makes her as a slave even he lived with  the old mentaliy .
If i have a wife i cant punch her and never makes her as a slave because she is a human and she is my wife and will be my kids mom and our propher mohamed told us to takes care of and we grow up this way .
With my respect you are full of angry about your husband so its show in talking about moroccan man .
some man treat woman in bad ways and that is not only in morocco but in the whole world so you need to know your partner before marriage .

aishahm

The law you speak of is not the law that is experienced.
I called the police and they wouldn't take me to the hospital for a police report.
My ex husband wouldn't take me either..once he experienced this freedom to do what he wants with me, it made my situation worse!
He wasn't ever arrested, I was told everytime to return to his house and obey him as I was his wife by law. This was the police!
Don't tell me that is the 90s no, this was 2020
It took me 5 years to get divorced and I was raped from my husband, witheld from medical attention while pregnant and to avoid pregnancy. Forced to carry his children and my requests for divorce ignored by masjids and my ex husband. After approaching the courts and him leaving the country, I had to wait a year and forgo my rights to alimony for him to accept the divorce.
My child support doesn't cover our costs and I have no rights.
No woman's rights in Morocco helped me
Even a jamiya told me they have more important issues for Moroccan women and that I should ask my embassy for help
So being a foreigner made me unimportant!
You can say what you want, but your probably here to look good hoping some woman will become your wife !

Change won't occur without admittance to the severity of the problem!

touritox

it must be horrible and hard for you to been in this situation and lonely in foreign country , i wish you to be fine and find out a solution for your situation .
this man is a monster and he will pay for all his evil someday don't worry .
I am probably here to meet some friends and give some help .

GuestPoster1412

Unfortunately many are narcissistic. The U.S. Embassy gives many warnings about these tyoe of marriages and warn about people looking to just get a free pass out. It's not just Algeria, it's all over the world. The problem with "Muslim" countries is that there isn't a single one that is Muslim following real sharia law. They follow their culture and own desires, starting with Saudi Arabia. Everyone is human and humans all over the world have good and bad, but some cultures just raise their males and females very different. Potential marriagws have to be tested to see if they are legit. Put your partner in a test and see how they react when they get angry, jealous, do they care or don't, do they genuinely apologize, do they care about you, your children and family, do they care to have you meet theirs without any drawbacks, etc.? If Muslims learned their deen straight from it's source, they would be a lot different in their practice.

I lost my flat in Egypt for the same reasons as yours. But we didn't lose anything. Remember the day of judgment is coming and we'll get it back at that point what we lost. True justice is there, not here.

Finding a good spouse is difficult today, for both men and women. may Allah guide and protect us. may He grant us all spouses that are the coolness of each other's eyes. āmīn

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