please give me some advices

If he respect you, he shouldnt do that, even he likes you.
In my opinion, when you come to live/travel/work aboard, you should take time to study about the culture, custom, etc in such country and try to avoid some words or action that make you be rude. When in Rome, do as the Romans do, is it right

And most of people know that Asian has custom different from the western, should carefully in communicate between woman and man.

To hold and give kiss, it's normal in western countries, it's not familiar with the younger generation recently in Vietnam, special with people who studied aboard or worked in international environment. But it's still strange with other. Generally, it's not appropriate for Vietnamese and sometimes it shows that you are not respected or you are taken liberties.

As your situation, im not sure it was normal.

nên cẩn trọng vẫn hơn em ạ.

Take care

I'm American. That's not normal when it comes to being taught.

That's why I prefer places be taught in public settings like a nice, quiet cafe or a public library.

If I were you, I probably wouldn't give it another thought and just forget him.

Hi guys,

No, kissing in such a manner is not normal in any culture!!!  What you have is a buffoon, not an American.  Americans do not condone such a moronic act.  Get rid of the fool!!!

Howie

hi minh,

What happened to you is called date rape in many countries. If you report him he will be deported or jailed right away. Jail is more likely the case is vn becuase of the strict martial laws.

If you want to let the matter rest you should just ignor him. Communicating with him more will just encourage him to take advantage of you.

You should not have beeen alone in his house in the 1st place knowing that you are at an disadvantage. U can always postphone the lesson till your brother is available

TS, please dont be stupid. You know what he wants, im sure. IF you're smart, you should protect yourself.

Hello minhtram. First of all, thanks for helping to teach foreigners who are ignorant of the Viet language and are willing to learn. I'm an American and am grateful that you were not hurt by your naivete'and my hope is that you learned a valuable lesson as a Teacher about healthy boundaries. His behavior was inappropriate and should be viewed as unacceptable!!! He obviously tried to take advantage of you, disrespected you and probably has little respect or honor towards others as well as himself. NEVER put yourself in that position again...you were lucky this time. If he calls you again tell him to never call you again and tell the dip-wad "Game Over"!!!!!!!!!!. My opinion....many expats coming to Vietnam are not worth meeting. Some are....be more selective and i wish you continued success in all of your endeavors. Don't hesitate to seek out advise from forum members on this sight in the future. Thanks again.

By the way...your NOT stupid. Your pretty smart for seeking advise.

What?  You talked to that buffoon after what he had just done to you???  What did you guys talked about...  The foods?  The weather???

First, you did nothing wrong.  Stop fighting with yourself over this.  He was wrong.  If you go to see him again it will mean to him that you are interested in him.  He will keep after you.  The best thing you can do is forget about him and never see or talk with him again.  He will know that you are offended by his actions and will know he was wrong.  Do not expect him to admit this and apologize.  If you must answer the call from, just tell him you are offended by his action and for him not to call you again.

Tram,

Be very careful, young woman, you are approaching the realm of silliness.  Looking at your photograph and reading your comments, I can tell that you did a rather poor job in portraying yourself.  In other words, you might have led him on.

Please spare us the anguish.  Em khong phai la nai dau!  Dung lam lang phi thoi gian cua moi nguoi!!!

Hello Wild_1,

Good post, you are absolutely right about Tram's post.

Very sad to hear that story. I would say don't have contact with him. In person or by phone. It was just complete disrespect. Also he is African not American. Kissing like that is not appropriate under those circumstances in America, Africa or Vietnam. So, don't take any excuses from him for this behavior. Its predatorial and just plain bad form.
Good luck to you. There are good students out there. Don't be too dismayed.

Hey Tram,

I do not want to be critical of you; I just want you to be stronger, IF you are sincere about it.  But, you do have very poor habits!

How did you respond to this fool on the phone or through SMS:  "Thank you, come again?" (Hey, hey, I love my Simpsons' characters, ok). 

Do you have any feeling for him?  Was his pay worth it??  What do you think of us expats???

Cut the girl some slack Wild_1!

Tram, you have a duty to report the matter to the local police. This man is a disgrace and had he done that to any of my sister in law's he'd be in the Saigon General Hospital have his face rearranged! The police need to be told in case he does worse to the next poor unfortunate girl he encounters! There's enough of that type of garbage here already and the sooner the government and the police get rid of them the better!

Somebody please pass the popcorn.

Sorry to hear the situation. Just 1 sentence: fool or trying to be fool, It is not worthy to forgive, just forget it. Unless you don`t want to.

Tram,

That is a much better picture.  Don't get me wrong here, if you had not done so already, you are a lovely young woman.  But, in that other photograph, your pose was not very natural.  It didn't look right, especially for the subject that you wanted advice on.

I saw your comment.  Can't really response to you now.  I will have to get back later on.

Warm wishes,
Howie

Hi Trâm,
Văn hóa Việt Nam khác với văn hóa Phương Tây.Mong Trâm sáng suốt hơn và cẩn trọng vẫn tốt, Trâm nhé!

ThaiVietsang,
Cam on ban nhieu, minh cung nghi nhu the cho nen minh moi muon biet them vai dieu o cac ban phuong tay!

Hello thaivietsang!

Could you please write in English on this Anglophone forum so that other members may understand and participate.

Thank you,
Harmonie.

I kinda liked the other picture better. Very cute and easy to understand why someone would want to "steal a kiss." Hope you keep asking advice when you need it minhtram and good luck with your teaching.