Remedial Habit - Episode 2 - The Tragedy of Miss out

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sweetnovemberActive member25 August 2011 09:24:22

A father and his son went fishing on a small boat, hungry.

The father helped his son reel in his first fish, and it was a beauty. Great catch, son, the father said.

Yes, but Im worried Im missing out on better fish, the son said. What if I could catch a bigger, tastier fish?

Maybe you should try, the father said.

And the son did, catching an even bigger fish an hour later. A real beaut, the father said.

But what if there are better fish out there? the son asked.

Maybe you should try, the father said.

And the son did, catching a bigger fish, then wondering if there were better fish, catching another, and so on.

At the end of the day, the son was exhausted. The father asked, How did the fish taste?

The son hesitated. Im not sure. I was so busy looking for better fish that I didnt taste any of them.

The father smiled contentedly, patted his belly. Dont worry. They were delicious.

We are all of us like the son. We all worry, at some time or other, that were missing out on things.

Its why were so busy we take on so much because we dont want to miss out. We take on dozens of goals and aspirations, because we dont want to miss out.

But heres the bare truth: we will miss out, no matter what. Its inevitable. We cannot do or try everything in the world, even with lives twice as long. We cannot see every town and city, read every interesting book, watch every important film. We will always, always miss out.

Heres the second, more important truth: if you always worry about what youre missing out on, you will miss out on what you already have.

Dont make a reading list a mile long focus on the book in your hand. Dont pack your vacation itinerary with every highlight of the city youre visiting walk around and enjoy what you find. Dont worry about traveling the entire world be delighted with the world around you. Dont worry about what youre missing online, or in the news what youre doing is good enough.

And let go of your long to-do lists and goal lists. They are a futile attempt to keep from missing out. You will miss out, but in striving to do everything, youll miss out on the wonder of the thing you are doing right now.

What youre doing right now is all that matters. Let the rest go, and enjoy the fish youve already caught.

don moeViP25 August 2011 11:11:11

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Such a touching real life story, as from my small experience in life i already started to learn from this lessson now.

Thanks

KtyuGuest25 August 2011 16:24:04

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sweetnovember wrote:
What youre doing right now is all that matters. Let the rest go, and enjoy the fish youve already caught.

very nice sweetnovember,
all we have is what's in front of us. at any given moment that is whats real. living in the moment can at times require adjustments on our part such as relinquishing the illusion of control but it provides a peaceful state of mind and a presence to the world around us. your comments reminded me of a great book which you may well know: "the power of now" by eckhart toole. when you live with a higher level of consciousness, it demands more from you. thank you for this.
hope you have contentment in your life.
cheers,
salam

k

semsema135Serial expat26 August 2011 06:23:29

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sweetnovember wrote:
Dont make a reading list a mile long focus on the book in your hand. Dont pack your vacation itinerary with every highlight of the city youre visiting walk around and enjoy what you find. Dont worry about traveling the entire world be delighted with the world around you. Dont worry about what youre missing online, or in the news what youre doing is good enough.

I love this part the most, I agree

I think this story shows that greed has haunted people in many corners of the world for a long time.

Human being tends to be greedy & sometimes they are selfish, hoping for the best for everything, the best deal, the best wife/ husband, the best job, the best paycheck & etc, to accomplished that goal they wasted alot of time without knowing the value of this things

it is better to devote your life for a worthy cause and not to try everything in the world in order not to miss out, because I totally agree that in all cases, we will miss out.

And I believe that most of the people included me don't know what they want, so they are trying to look for the best thing and to take everything,it is like "the body is doing alot of things and the mind is thinking of something else" which makes us confused, full of thoughts, couldn't achieve our goals, and wanna take everything.

Sweet November, thank you for sharing this, u really made me think alot after reading this story, because it happens alot, hope we will be able to know what we want, to achieve our goals, and to be satisfied

Satisfaction is very important in this life, but it is not easily achieved

semsema135Serial expat26 August 2011 06:35:49

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Katyusha wrote:
living in the moment can at times require adjustments on our part such as relinquishing the illusion of control but it provides a peaceful state of mind and a presence to the world around us.

Well said Kathy.
I didn't read the book, but I will read it, I wanna know the power of now;)

KtyuGuest26 August 2011 13:31:49

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semsema135 wrote:
Katyusha wrote:
living in the moment can at times require adjustments on our part such as relinquishing the illusion of control but it provides a peaceful state of mind and a presence to the world around us.

Well said Kathy.
I didn't read the book, but I will read it, I wanna know the power of now;)

hello habibti, i will bring you the book. xo
k

semsema135Serial expat27 August 2011 05:57:16

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Katyusha wrote:
semsema135 wrote:
Katyusha wrote:
living in the moment can at times require adjustments on our part such as relinquishing the illusion of control but it provides a peaceful state of mind and a presence to the world around us.

Well said Kathy.
I didn't read the book, but I will read it, I wanna know the power of now;)

hello habibti, i will bring you the book. xo
k

You are really so sweet, kind and helpful

Thanks my sweet friend;):)xox

newdelhiMember30 August 2011 20:26:36

hi sweet november

Greetings!

I read your posts in the forum and was impressed.

can you please guide me abt what life holds for an expat Indian from New Delhi indecisive whether to take up a new assignment in Cairo.I have two children. I hv many questions in my mind.

-Where my children will study?if the education will be good enough?

-What abt social life among Indians?

-I hope law & order situation is good?

-There are no fears for another round of agitations like what happened earlier in the year?

-Can my family move independently alone?

I shall be thankful if you can throw some light.

Thnaks

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