Girlfriend living with her nephew

yeah, your in a life commitment thing. The guy is in puberty as well and like most Thai kids raised as royalty.

Most probably, unless he is following very specific education which is not available in and around home town, the other family members, parents or guardians, sent him away because they could not control him

If I were you I would give your GF an ultimatum, him or you, but not together...

Harsh, especially on yourself, but if you do not put your foot down now you are in for a miserable life

    yeah, your in a life commitment thing. The guy is in puberty as well and like most Thai kids raised as royalty.
Most probably, unless he is following very specific education which is not available in and around home town, the other family members, parents or guardians, sent him away because they could not control him
If I were you I would give your GF an ultimatum, him or you, but not together...
Harsh, especially on yourself, but if you do not put your foot down now you are in for a miserable life
   

    -@martinoo2002

Thanks. Yes, I do remember hearing that at home they were not able to control him and this is part of the reason why they sent him away. Actually, it sounded like they were not even attempting to control him because they didn't have time or energy for that. I am quite shocked at the attitude that "oh we cannot bother to try and control him, so let's send him to my sister", but that seems to be the reality.

What I want to know, is if I choose to endure this, how long will I have to put up with it? Are Thai kids supposed to move out at some point like in western cultures when they reach the age of 18, 20, 22 perhaps? or should I expect this to really be a situation that could last for 5, 10 or even more years?

My wife has an extended family in her birthtown.  Either the kids (adults with kids included) live with their parents or the other way around. Out of 13 cousins 3 live independently...

So I guess you are convicted for life with a chance on parole

...If I were you I would give your GF an ultimatum, him or you, but not together...
Harsh, especially on yourself, but if you do not put your foot down now you are in for a miserable life
        -@martinoo2002

@Davey32

This is not Germany, and do not expect that anything like in Germany will happen here, never ever. Will be just opposite.

Escape as soon as possible from all that.

Go live by yourself or you will pay the consequences of stress that could hit any part of your body. You situation is like the Chinese drop that will make a big hole one day.

I escaped from something like that in Europe but after 2 heartstrokes, thanks God I survived, so I left everything behind and came to Thailand alone.

Don't buy a house cause your gfs expects you put on her name and then you not free to do anything anymore.

Keep renting a place so that in case you can cancel the contract and leave or leave them there and you alone move to an other place.

You must have an escape option or you become shrimp for a Tomyum or papaya for Somtam. Thailand is full of girls better than that.

They are use to a wild life, they live together but each one expects that others do the duties and cannot understand the idea of silence, respect of other's needs and keeping order, tidy or discipline.

If it wasn't tought since baby, will never learn it now .....

I fully agree with Maxi on this issue....Even if you would like to marry a Thai lady get legal advise on ownership of assets as well as prenuptuals..

A few thousand thb well spent!

Need.more advise or clarity feel free to contact me....

@Davey32 Option 1. Explain issue with girlfriend. Offer to rent him a small room to live nearby, alone. Take the expense for agreed upon period till he goes to the university. Explain this option to girlfriend. If she says no, then you know it is issue of dependence and or family issues. Option 2. Give girlfriend either [link under review] will choose you, but you may have future resentment or she will be grateful you made the strong decision for her. So, I would explore her feelings first. Your issue is not really your discomfort, your issue is lack of ascertain to the end game. My bet is she is waiting for you to make the strong decision for her, saving face with her family because she can't enforce her wish. Option 3. Explain to gf first. Then, Sit with girlfriend and her nephew. , Explain must have end game first. Then establish rules. Establish consequences if rules [link under review]

@Davey32 Hello Davey

Well...... being a Farang is sometimes not easy.... as for this young Man, did you try to communicate with him ? : there are instant translators on Smart Phones which are very effective.

Personally, and I mean I agree to think this is not a panacea, after giving him one (1) warning, I would leave my Girlfriend. Life is too short to loose time with Morons. Who knows ? after this guy realises he is the cause for his aunt to be so unhappy, he would come to senses

Charles