Dying fathers younger Viet gf

I know that it is hard. My Vietnamese child bride of 43 years is also dying. Aside from some cousins, my soon to die wife and our children, everyone else in my family is already departed.

Right now the only person whose feelings matter is your father. Even if he is being foolish and stupid, and it sounds like he is acting that way, try and let him die in reasonable peace.

Been their. Done that. Still doing that.

70 years old wrote:

Right now the only person whose feelings matter is your father. Even if he is being foolish and stupid, and it sounds like he is acting that way, try and let him die in reasonable peace

While I appreciate your sentiment, it does sound as if he may be squandering away his daughter's inheritance.  Of course we don't know if he is spending 90% or 10% of his wealth on this short term happiness.  It shouldn't but for most people it does make a difference.  My father altered his will to give 20% to his girlfriend of similar age, who was actually far wealthier than he was.    If she were poor, it would have been a lot easier to take.  I didn't resent him, but I did blame her and her daughter who was a partner at the law firm that wrote the will.

THIGV

All very good points. Their just isn't any good answer. My own feeling is that money can be replaced. Memories of a parent's death . . .

Agree with 70 years old. It reminds me of my wife's grandfather who was 90+ and I'm sure many other people can relate to having aging relatives with alzheimer.

He would do crazy things like constantly moving the bed around or chop wood. When we have family dinners he would scold guests or pick on certain people like me to keep eating. His memory was in and out and he'd sometimes just remember the past and having to catch the bus.

I would be the only one that would play along with grandpa moving furnitures back and forth or playing along with his jokes.

It annoyed a lot of his kids and relatives. But his only educated son made the comment let's do what our father says if it makes him happy.

Don't take offense to this but it's human nature to have a sense of selfishness. It's our natural defense to protect ourself. Spend the rest of your father's life having happy moments and bear the negativity for your father.