GF and Extent of Her Family Involvement
Last activity 23 June 2022 by Cheryl
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I wasnt too upset because she wasnt that attractive and physically she was disappointing too.
...Still I turned the intended romantic getaway into a city tour instead- @adriano69
Not sure if I interpreete you correct, but that sound some as you saw it as sex tourism?
while she saw it serious by she involved her family.
OR perhaps she understood at your early reaction it wouldnt become any serious and tried to get as much out of it as possible 
But if I entrerpreted you wrong and you are serious, I know two as far as I know good women just in Davao and close. Dont know if they are free still though.
(One didnt want to move to where I want to live, and the other messed up a bit to much by not thinking ahead for me, who need a wife, who can manage my business when I retire/die. The first is/was restaurant manager and the other worked for Amazon earlier, perhaps she is OFW now. last I heared she aimed at that.)
For me it comes down to this;if you get with someone that likes you for who you are and not how much money you have or willing to dish out then the relationship has a chance to last.if you get with someone that likes you for your money or how you can help their family then its basically no better than a GRO (prostitute) that will have no problem cheating on you (my wife has friends like this and i hear stories all the time regardless if the guy is a Foreigner or Filipino).- @johncroy
Well. There is one in between, which I believe many of the rather happy marriages belong to specialy when its big age difference:
Similar as it was in "rich" countriies" back when there were almpost no jobs for women, women wished to get a husband, who can earn enough fopr he, wife and future kids could live ok, so they dont need to worry if there will be basics as food, clothes and a place to live. In the Philippines women can have jobs, but most salaries are so small so they dont earn enoufg to not struggle, which make the situation similar.
Although in poor countries its common children are expected/demanded to support their parents, when they get old.
In the Philippines it can be one step worth by many - lazy - ones expect to get support when just being cousin or uncle - and they count relöatives as that too when they are so far relöated so "western" languages dont have a name for it
((Swedish have as most for grandkids where the grandpparents were cousins, but I doubt more than a few know that word and almost none know who any such are. ((I know of one =One of the best icehockey defenders ever Nicklas Lidstrom. We followed when grandfather visited them once when passing when we travelled but that was before "Lidas" was born
On top of that SOME Filipinos are as to many westerners are too =Want to show off spending more than they realy afford to to LOOK to others as they can afford much more than they can. Even puting themselves in much debt to do that. I am NOT talking about them, who get in debt to survive, nor them who borrow and buy e g a house, but them who borrow to use up e g at parties.
((I prefer dress as a (Thai) farmer =long wide trouser legs so snake can miss by bite in them and to drive old bad looking but good functioning cars. Except I dress up e g when going to dance or to NEW customers - old customers I dont bother to dress up to meet by they know allready the quality my businesses deliver so I keep them anyway. Although my bigest customer ever after some years the main owner came and visited my office and got shocked 
Before I moved the business to biger, it had just storage plus the office space from were I led the 70 employees was just 2 x 3 meters.
and to drive old bad looking but good functioning cars. Except I dress up e g when going to dance or to NEW customers - old customers I dont bother to dress up to meet by they know allready the quality my businesses deliver so I keep them anyway. Although my bigest customer ever after some years the main owner came and visited my office and got shocked Before I moved the business to biger, it had just storage plus the office space from were I led the 70 employees was just 2 x 3 meters. A winter, when it was very cold, all the customers in the bank arrived very much freezing in posh clothes and briefcase they had to expose glove hand to carry. Then I arrived dressed as an Alaskan at winters and instead of a briefcase I had a plastic bag, which I could carry still with hands in pocket. Not sure of the proportions of shock and envy among the freezers BUt I have had suits all the time e g one common among bank managers back then, but I just dont like wearing suits specialy the tie.))
BUt I have had suits all the time e g one common among bank managers back then, but I just dont like wearing suits specialy the tie.))Inspite of I normaly dress nice at FIRST meetings, I suppouse how I mostly prefer to dress sort away gold diggers and show offs
Google seem to ignore "private" and "net" when I tried to find PRIVATE net debts per capita in western countries deducted with worth of property as house or car when such are collateral for loans. Got a lot of hits about what I DIDNT search for as e g compared to GDP, and I were to lazy to recalculate by look up GDP for each country, or showing private share of the PUBLIC debt, which each individual cant do any much about... I gave up trying to find such info anyway.
I know its common with crazy high debts anyway, many even max out high interest several credit cards!!! So there are many crap thinkers in western countries too...
This was back before idiot "specialist" doctors hadnt decided to not giving me expected surgery so I expected to move to Phils after rehab. . . . . . . . . .Coach53*************************************************************What kind of surgery? Brain surgery?- @Enzyte Bob
Well. I have told its a common surgery for sportsmen - I suppouse injuries at legs are much more common than brain - and I have told I cant travel because my injury get to much worse by that (and I have told somewhere earlier Otherwice I would have moved to Phils with wheelchair or crutches a long time ago.)
But your conclusion capacity is NOT as bad as Lotus Eater's
According to "specialists" I dont need the surgery anyway
I haven't seen posts from moonunit0103 for quite some time. I hope he's doing fine.I feel bad for you guys who were taken unawares by your GF. By the way, this practice of taking advantage of a person's generosity is not typical of Filipino culture. Filipinos adhere to a practice called "utang na loob" or debt of gratitude where you have to pay back / return the favor to someone from whom you asked for a favor. Usually, this would involve helping someone get out of a sticky situation, like lending money / helping / paying for medical bills, tuition, rent, business capital, bail, etc. And then there is also "hiya" or embarrassment for asking for a favor. And these two are some of the reasons why I avoid asking for favors or being treated out for free. I would rather pay someone to do something for me, or be the one granting favors.I actually wrote extensively about this a few years ago in a post. I can search for it, but I can't seem to log-in to my account using my laptop. It's a bit difficult to find and write something using a cellphone.- @FilAmericanMom
Good to know 
But it seem many Filipinos dont follow that to Filipinos neither because how come otherwice there are so many stories where the others stop working and just wait for the money to come when a sibbling become OFW (or marry a foreigner) ?
And the "crab mentality" holding them down, who try harder to improve their lives.
But there are good behaving examples too where everyone do their best. E g three sisters have an alcoholic father, who lost their farm by that when they were kids. Inspite of starting broke the sisters took turns financing university/college education for one sister at the time. Two became teachers and one became OFW and their mother take care of their kids when they got such
@adriano69 Best not to go to Philippines to see just one person unless you have already met in person.
- @moonunit0103
Well. Better not do as a friend of mine, who is very clever EXCEPT he is crap at relations and psychology.
He went to meet 8 at same trip at same hotel! Then he didnt understand why these women lost interest!
(If someone dont understand - Most women are good investigators, so they found out he met more than themself and no one want to be just a backup choice, specialy not when being many.)
Although its some hypocrytic, because many of the women have backups too - but not necesary that obvious
I don't use dating sites but understand why many people do. Each to their own. As I alluded to before on this Forum its easy to meet Filipina's once you are in the country ( provided you ever set foot there - some members on this Forum are inate dreamers) and the 'serendipity ' meeting negates the disappointing false starts that are prevalent, via the dating site route, from the experiences of many expats.
My take on dating sites is that they can become addictive - "it's a numbers game" is often cited for their justification. I suspect that they have a high proportion of 'Anoraks' (Our American friends use the term 'Nerds'). I said high not all.
Many readers will say ' yes but I'm time limited, it costs a fortune on air travel to get to the country and dating sites give me a better 'bang for my buck'. Perhaps not the right phrase to use in the circumstances. Forgive me.
I make many business trips into Asia every year and when I check into a hotel always avail myself of the hotels 'in house' massage to negate the effects of the long flight & 7/8 hour jet lag time zone difference with the UK.
My go to hotel in Manila used to be The Mandarin Oriental Hotel on Makati Avenue sadly no longer there but a new replacement is due to open soon. They had 30 masseuses on 24 hour rotation and some were devastatingly attractive Its a great way to get to know a woman. You are in a private, intimate (by necessity) setting and the conversation will flow naturally because you are not in 'date' mode - she is there as your therapist.
Its a great way to get to know a woman. You are in a private, intimate (by necessity) setting and the conversation will flow naturally because you are not in 'date' mode - she is there as your therapist.Many Filipina's can be strikingly direct in their comments to you during the treatment. Often they will ask you if you are married and you can gauge their 'availability' by the questions they ask you. Fellow Forum readers you will get to know more about her in the space of an hour AND what she really looks like compared to the endless chat and niceties that occur online.
Since the Mandarin closed I have started using high end Airbnb's and now avail of outside massage therapist organisations. There are of course some seedy establishments selling sex but it is easy to weed those out via a few text messages. I use the WellnessHub Philippines internet portal containing several salons where you get a qualified masseuse (in most cases). You can have a two hour massage for about £6 ($8) so even if you don't find anything in common with your therapist its an enjoyable treatment. If you do 'click' with your therapist she will always leave her CP number with you and hey the rest is up to you.
I always extend my trip in the Philippines for a couple of weeks or so and venture out to one of the islands and am never without company
Just a hea
ds up...its a sad situation here...in reality the economic situation here especially in the many impoverished 3rd world provinces are in dire straits...not much is being done to improve the livelihoods of the many poor young school girls who in their early teens are already being groomed by parents/family members to look as sexy/dress their best possible for the sake that one day they may be able to get noticed/or when they were to go online to meet these much older foreign expats/locals who are looking to settle down/retire/interested in their prized 'possession'.....so the grooming itself costs $$$ (laptop/Wiifi/electricity/clothes/tik tok/YT dance move downloads/karoke singing/dating websites/cell phone/loads & lots and lots of time) & so don't expect them just to roll over for you.....It's their way/families way of survival...so be prepared to loosen yr purse strings but don't go overboard doing anything for anyone.
ds up...its a sad situation here...in reality the economic situation here especially in the many impoverished 3rd world provinces are in dire straits...not much is being done to improve the livelihoods of the many poor young school girls who in their early teens are already being groomed by parents/family members to look as sexy/dress their best possible for the sake that one day they may be able to get noticed/or when they were to go online to meet these much older foreign expats/locals who are looking to settle down/retire/interested in their prized 'possession'.....so the grooming itself costs $$$ (laptop/Wiifi/electricity/clothes/tik tok/YT dance move downloads/karoke singing/dating websites/cell phone/loads & lots and lots of time) & so don't expect them just to roll over for you.....It's their way/families way of survival...so be prepared to loosen yr purse strings but don't go overboard doing anything for anyone.Again omho
@The Cold War Kid Never knew horses went to water to think
- @Cherryann01And we all thought Coaches syntax was bad- @Lotus Eatern
I have even managed to impress a Scorpio woman!!!
By I knew things in very different subjects OTHERS in that group of friends had brought up at a party. I dont remember which the other subjects were, but the 4-5th was she had headache but didnt want to go home and I told how that type can be cured/reduced without meds.
While you post a lot of BS and lies post against me claiming I dont know what I am talking about, but you have NEVER managed to correct me... Not odd, because - except perhaps when I have said "if I remember correct" or such - I have only been corrected once* and it WASNT by you... 
( * My info in a Visa situation wasnt the latest and I didnt know it was changed.)
And you have NEVER answered any of the posts where I have shown YOU are very much wrong... inspite of I have reminded you. How come?
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