Divorce in Morocco

Salam

Be patient.

Increase your good deeds, night prayer, say istafaAllah a lot.

Ignore her a bit, it sounds like you are chasing her, following her social media. Most likely if you stop begging for her attention she will wonder why and act different. Be patient, you are living in different countries, no point letting her play you like a child. Just be a man and busy yourself with important things and let her be the child. Let her contact you, when she does limit the time and quickly go back to that important thing you was doing.

It’s a bit crazy to get married in a January and divorced in March. My advise is forget about getting divorced for now. When we have problems in life we think it’s a test and maybe that’s the case. In the past when we had problems we thought it was because of our sins. The past scenario is how we should view problems in our life’s. We all got sins and we should expect the consequences of them. Address your sins, increase your good dead’s, make dua at the last third of the night before fajr and make lots of astafallah. From this most likely your life will get better but you have to be consistent and patient. From this either your wife will come good for you or maybe in a years time you find another.

If you carry on as you are now, eating out of her hand and being under her thumb most likely your situation will get worse.

You obviously married this woman because you saw some good in her so just follow my advise and maybe you will see that good and more. As my wife says women are like children, they follow their emotions too much. You have to follow your intellect.

With regards to the valentine present pictures, she is probably winding you up and playing you. I’m sure she wants to find out how you react. Women are going to test their man and as she says she finds you to be a child. Just turn it arround brother. InshaAllah everything will work out. This is just normal stuff couples go through when they get married. Be patient, wait for her to contact you. Busy yourself with what’s beneficial

JazakAllah for the reply my brother, its not the only time she's mentioned divorce.  The thing is with the social media and the posts she didn't know I can post them. She dreads inappropriately, goes clubbing and free mixes with men. I have had a lot of patience and Alhamdulillah I've always prayed my salah and tahajud I pray every night. She's adamant on a divorce and she's told her parents about this too.

Her mentality has changed and she's living the free life, the uni life. She can do as she wants when she wants and nobody can question here, I've never said she can't study, work or even go out. I've never forced anything upon her and I always remain calm Alhamdulillah. But it's got to the point where there is no return from her. She keeps messaging me and ringing me asking for a divorce and to send her papers which I don't really want to do. My intention has always been pure. Marry and be good to my wife. Respect and honour her but right now I'm not getting that back.

Indeed I should be patient but how patient do i be? She's said the other day I don't love you, I have you, why don't you go kill yourself ( she's aware I had a bad patch a few weeks ago where I almost did) spoke to her few days later after not talking and asked,  I said when we are angry we say things we regret and you said a lot the other night, did you mean them? She turns around and says yes.

It's causing me a lot of stress and I've just come out hospital due to this and it is really effecting my health. The thing is she demands me to abide by duties of a husband but as soon as I mention the duties of a wife she switches it on me all the time. I can't win with her.

I just wanted to know what I would do if it came to divorcing in a moroccon court and if did not want to divorce her what would I do, she did say she'll do papers herself if she has to which I assume she means khula.

Thanks

Ok so for now just give her the cold shoulder, ignore her for a week at least. Concentrate on your self and your life in uk. Maybe ignore her for a month. Don’t use social media or things where she can track you, see what you are up to. If this is making you feel ill then you need to get a break from this anyway. Just keep company of good brothers. If you are not working then start working ASAP otherwise you got a lot of spare time to think about this situation/her. Get some good books to read, that will take your mind off it

If she is not living a good life there is not much you can do when in different countries. No point worrying too much as you can’t do much to change the situation.

As for divorce in Moroccan courts, just cross that bridge when you come to it. All property/possession you had prior to marriage will remain yours, she will only have a claim on what you acquired during the marriage. That’s Moroccan family law to my knowledge. I don’t think it’s a difficult process either, not like getting married. But like I said ignore her asking for a divorce. Probably also best not to talk to lots of people about this situation, all the advise will send bouncing from one to the next. Just take a break from the situation, forget about it for a while and see how it is in a months time.

Maybe after ignoring her for a while you should appoint someone and get her to appoint someone to mediate and get a solution but first just talk to her and see if the ignoring has worked. Maybe she needs some space/time to work things out herself. It sounds like she is just playing up, like children do when they want a reaction/attention