Expat Just Bought House, Young Wife Possible Problem

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moonunit0103 wrote:

Wanted to give an update on my neighbor. His wife finally let him leave the apartment and go to the house.  She forbid him from moving there before the Priest blessed the house.  Monday they had the blessing, and they had lechon and several other dishes.  They had not moved out of the apartment, so he was unsure where he was staying.

The next morning, he messaged me that they spent the night in the house.  He also said that 8 people slept in the bedroom with them!!!

Yesterday I moved 3 loads of stuff out of the apartment, and was it a shithole. They found a mouse nest with baby mice among their things.  But, according to him, it was a deal, only ₱7000/month.  The lavatory had fallen off the wall, so it sat atop a chair that did not have a bottom. 

I went home and immediately showered and put on fresh clothes.  Not crazy about vermin.

The part about "he was unsure where he was staying", that is most troublesome to me.

She forbid him to move to the house before the Priest blessed the house? My friend invited me to his house during the priest blessing as part of the house warming party he threw.

He needs to put his foot down, I understand he may love or whatever twisted definition of love he thinks mean for her and her family, but this is situation is surreal.

I didn't see it mentioned or maybe I missed it, but I really hope they don't have kids yet, it's time to cut the cancerous tumor and move on. At least now, since the last time of "loving" was December - at least it safe to know she wont come back and say I'm pregnant.

also isn't it the owner's responsibility to fix the broken toilet ?

It just looks like they let everything go to sh** and nobody cared, so long as she has a his ATM card.

Man had mumps, is sterile. 

Except for the money paid for the house, not sure why he stays.  Plenty of good, faithful women around.

Fil-Am Mom wrote:

I don't think you should pressure him (or as you said hit him with a 2x4). Little taps in the right direction, and encouragement for times when he stands up for himself, would be better.

But first drive a long nail at the end of the 2x4. That might get his attention.

You can buy loyalty cheaply if you shop around.
(omo)

very sad, there is an american guy lives 100 yards away from me, kinda starting to lose it mentally , maybe 68 or so seems 75 at least, but he used to slowly walk over and visit me and chat, he would repeat himself sometimes but seemed like he knew his building codes etc,at least back in the US he did.
nice guy,chuckled alot.
he told me he was bringing in 1700 US a month and he had been eating generic spam 3 meals a day for months, every month his wife says they dont have money its all gone etc..

i told him i needed about 300-400 bucks a month to cover my electric,food and cignal TV bill...otherwise its just luxury things like vacations or buying phones or laptops etc..
and i eat good,i have american peanut butter and sliced bread and hormel chili and milk and orange juice etc..
he kind of frowned and i told him for the money he is going thru he could have a gardner and 3 beautiful maids "in uniform" waiting on him and cleaning AND eat whatever he wanted for breakfast lunch and dinner.
anyway as visits went on he began to see his wife had his money and he was dependent on her and trusting she was not full of shit. one day me and my wife were in town and ran into him and his wife at a place foreigners eat and joined them, she got up and left to go "send money to her adult daughter in manila". talking with him and "their motorcycle driver" (her nephew) i learned..they were in town to get his SS money,once a month they go to town, he sits in place and eats while she goes to get his money and send it to whoever or stashes it wherever and buys whatever and returns to the cafe... i stated wow thats backwards, usually peoples kids in manila send money here to their parents not the other way around, the driver kind of smirked or chuckled at that.
  so as time went on he started standing up for himself and they got a refrigerator(very cheap) and he started getting more varied foods. and she started being less and less smiley with me when i went to visit and he visited me less and less..
they got a TV (very cheap) and he was happy he could go to the fridge and get a snack and sit and watch TV...but his wife started leaving the room when me and my wife stopped by or if just i stopped by.
the house he was building has a roof over 2 rooms and the CR is tiled but its open completely to storms wind bugs rats etc.
he says she spends all their money on construction but the house has not changed one bit in a year.
he stopped coming over completely and she shuts the door if me or my wife knock on the gate or yell OYO out front.
we have no contact now, he's not allowed out. never see him anymore.
i talked to his stepdaughter on FB messenger and she said her dad was diagnosed with alzhiemerz about the same time he started chatting with this filipino woman in facebook, she learned he had a pension and was lonely and slowly losing his mental facilities next thing you know he was on a plane here and she lost contact with him.

if you want to help your neighbor dont let his wife know you exist or that he has a friend or you will be cut off in a jiffy and he will be all alone again.

she is obviously abusing this guy verbally and maybe punching him, he is alone in a strange place and she threatens him he will go to jail if....
he is scared.
he needs to get the hell out of here or he will end up dead or locked in a shack being hit and yelled at while others take trips to the atm till he's used up.
get him in touch with a bodyguard that he can pay to protect him and travel with him to cebu airport or manila and get on a plane, maybe an off duty cop. but dont let him spill the beans to his "wife"
thats my opinion.

They have Social Services if the guy is getting abused.

Mills and Boon eat your hearts out, we have it better in the Philippines,,,,, so it seems.
You know I live in a very quiet Barangay with 20 odd foreigners in our  direct area, 85/90% blow ins like myself with Filipino better half's and, not that we have a huge amount to do with each other apart from the odd social drink, kids parties and the passing chat I have never had a whiff, thank god of what is happening in two of our members neighbourhoods, others from years gone by sop stories on other sites I have heard like here yes but perhaps here where we live all mind their own business and don't air dirty laundry and all seems rosy, very, happy to keep it that way from our perspective and wisely limit too close a contact.

I also agree with moonunit's contribution though here (Philippines) they  the complainants verbalisations will probably fall on deaf tardy ears and little will happen unfortunately because the squeakiest wheel will always get the oil, Philippine national.

OMO but it appears that the victim here if he is that doesn't/didn't communicate his wishes,,,,,,,, power of attorney/safe guards prior to making such a bold move, communicating his wishes to family and friends nor did they look after/guide his interests.  Now? looks like it's all over bar the shouting, sadly.

Interesting to learn from others mistakes and if I personally become all of the above the first confidants will be my family, secondly my attorney as we call them here and never the neighbours for obvious reasons.

OMO.

Cheers, Steve.