Dealing with homesickness as an immigrant teenager...?

There is no "cure" for homesickness - and there is also nothing wrong (or embarassing) with having nice memories about a place where you once lived, and with missing the friends you had there. Everyone who moves will sometimes feel that way and everyone has bad days and moods.
You, however, might be in a depression. Depressed people cannot see the positive aspects (that EVERY situation has) any more, but only the negative (which also every situation has).
It is difficult to get out of the spiral of negativity this creates - and most people need help to manage it. There are many (mostly charity or church-run) organisations offering helplines especially for young people like you. If you tell me where you are (which city), I will google them for you.
A small first step, which you can try by yourself, is to write down three (or five, or as many as you can come up with) positive things, aspects, activities or situations you had in the last weeks - and then re-do one of them every day. That way, you have something nice to look forward to.
I hope this helps.

By the way: I find it great that you understand your own situation and have the courage to ask others for help (and in very good English, too - where did you learn that?). This is a great first step, and more than most others manage!

Thank you, but i don't really want to ask people in "real life" for help because that means i should tell my parents what's going on and that's the last thing i would do...i hope you understand but thank you for the answer.

Thank you:) i learn english since i was 4 and i really love the language. And in the school, too.

Sunshineonyourmind wrote:

Thank you, but i don't really want to ask people in "real life" for help because that means i should tell my parents what's going on and that's the last thing i would do...i hope you understand but thank you for the answer.

No, I don't understand this at all. Your parents should know of your unhappiness; not to make them feel bad but to find a solution. Just returning to Romania might not be an option but eves if it is , it should not be the only one. No reason to just give up and leave; one needs to find a solution. And this means find someway to make better friends where you are.

During Corona times it is especially difficult  but otherwise school is the mostly likely place to look since one has daily contact to others of the same age. Another possibility, for people of all ages, is to join a club to share your interest be it some kind of sport, hiking, reading or whatever. Germany has many clubs open to kids. This is something different than in the USA where most such clubs are run through  school rather then independently. In Germany they are the major source of social integration outside of school, work or place of worship.

Sunshine: I know it can be difficult to open up to your parents, especially during teenage time when your inner voice tells you to become independent from them. But I am sure they would not reject you and would do anything to make you feel better. They probably already noticed that you are unhappy and might also wonder how to start the communication with you. And even if not, this should not prevent you from getting the help you need!

You should also realize that homesickness is usually not (although it feels like it) due to the current place being worse or your old home better. In reality, the feeling comes purely from your own mind - deep within your subconscious - which is resisting change and make you unable to see the positive aspects. And since you cannot run away from yourself, returning home or moving elsewhere, even if possible, would not normally help. Like the problem, the solution must come from within you - and there are experienced people who can help you with that. Go and look for them!
As a start: Most schools in Germany have a social worker ("Schulsozialarbeiter") whom you can approach and talk to confidentially and without your parents knowing (if you prefer so).

Hello there,
My daughter moved to Germany when she was 16 to go to school in Germany and improve her language so she could study there for university (her father is German, so she always spoke the language but it needed improvement).  The first few months for her were difficult--and that was not even in Covid times.  The things she found that helped: going out of her room and trying not to be by herself, even if she was only reading a book in a park or having a coffee at a cafe.  Trying to talk to other kids at school (she found a couple of other 'foreign' students who were also trying to fit in/having difficulties with the language, etc) and they started hanging out outside of school.  She joined Green Peace Youth as a way to meet other people her age, too, who shared some of her interests.  In general, trying to keep busy, trying to stay around people, and trying to find things in your week to look forward to.  It takes work and energy and there will be good and bad days, and homesickness is really hard.  I'm sorry you're still feeling it so much.  If your goal is to stay in Germany and find ways to make it better, I wish you good luck and hope some of these strategies help you.  Good for you for reaching out!!!  You sound like you have a lot of wisdom and strength

Another mom

This was me years ago. I know exactly how you feel. Leaving your home country, leaving behind your loved ones and relatives and friends and moving to a new land.. missing them so much that you dream of them every single night and you just crave to go back and be there. I also moved with my family to a new land as they thought it would be better for us, children's education and living standard. This home sickness makes us reluctant to be close to anyone in this new place. That's what makes the homesickness worse.
As time went by, i got busy with school.. i joined extra curricular activities. I also joined cultural activities of my ethnicity. All these while i still missed my homeland but I also made some connection to the place i was living in. Made a few friends whom i still keep in contact even years later.
Once my tertiary education was over we moved back to our homeland and now i'm married and have a  lovely little girl of my own. We are planning to move to Germany now. I hope my daughter doesn't go through what we went through/ going through. Even if she does, I'll make sure I'll be there for her.

I would suggest you try what i did. Tell yourself and make yourself understand that Germany is going to be your land for now.. at least for sometime. Once your education is over or when you rare financially independent, you can decide where you want to be in life. Until then keep your beloved home country in your heart and enjoy living in your present place. All the best, dear one. Take care!