Online Relationships - Can you Cheat

Cherryann I can’t help thinking that this is Groundhog day again for you. You have by your own admission been dating girls online with little to show for it. This is by no means a judgment on your veracity or indeed your bona fide intentions. Its the nature of the game.

Lets just flip this online dating on its head for a moment. Say that there are 10 single available Filipinas of equal attractiveness to you at a venue - a restaurant for example. 5 have been using dating sites for many years and five have never enrolled in one. Which group would you most likely trust to not in your words ‘cheat’ on you?

Lotus Eater - I asked these questions out of interest only and have no plans to return to the Philippines in the foreseeable future and I am not active on any dating sites.

I have decided to concentrate on my English daughter and hopefully plan a couple of holidays with her, maybe one to Norway although since she drinks it will cost me an arm and a leg.

To answer your question though - If the  women were equal in looks to me, I would not have been to the Philippines in the first place and would definitely not go back. 😂😂

@Cherryann01 so you really don't like the Philippines? You do seem to post a lot here. Kinda odd.

Bad eggs?

Cherry whether you like the Philippes or not your post yet again inquires about online dating,,,,, all countries are the same. I met my better half online 12 years ago and yes like you had a few on the go, you know the old saying "try before you buy".

Meeting a prospective person online, in a mall or church etc. is always fraught with danger if you don't have your wits in order, been there for the last 50 odd years and learnt. Know what you want and expect as the other person should also, don't take or give sh1t and walk slowly.

Worked for me. Many others I'm sure, probably many tragedies along the way.

Regardless as Larry and yourself state that you won't entertain the Philippines in the foreseeable future  so why post here? Licking your wounds?

Online dating sites are very personal and if you can't work out the cheaters from the scammers or the fugly ones your self and need to broadcast insecurities and naivety  in an open forum, sorry Cherry but it does seem sad. And sorry to be to the point.

Good luck and as always OMO.

Cheers, Steve.

To be fair...and maybe simple too. I did find my gal online. And I was looking around. I was honest and up-front about it from the start with each of them. And when I or they felt it wasn't right, we actually said so..that was a rule I made in our first conversations.  Not hard really. To just be up-front.

Now it's been 9 years or something since Delia and I had that first conversation 12000 miles apart. We took the ferry to Bohol yesterday for her birthday and spending a couple days at a beachfront resort.

How many replies would this description work on a dating site?

(1) Lonely Man

(2) Limited Funds

(3) Old

(4) Limited Vices (alcohol, smoking, sexaholic)

@Enzyte Bob huh?

@Enzyte Bob huh?
-@Larry Fisher

No not me. . . .this guy is too good looking.

Larry - I never said I did not like the Philippines and I do want to go back there. I would love to see Palawan, Bohol, Boracay, just to name a few places. I love the waterfalls and nature there and although the beaches have never been one of my main priorities, some are extremely beautiful. I also like the friendliness and laid back nature of the people. Every country I have been to has it's good and bad points and it is simply a matter of finding some place that bests suits my requirements.

Big Pearl - Thank you for your contribution also, much appreciated but this is just my inquisitive nature asking these questions. It does not relate in any way to what I have been doing or intend to do. I simply asked the questions because I remembered a previous topic and wanted to know how people who use the online dating sites think and what they do when it comes down to actually visiting the Philippines to meet prospective partners.

Like I said I am very inquisitive and like to know things and to give you an example of this, last week I went for a walk down by the Leeds/Liverpool Canal and realised that although I had done the walk a few times before and been fishing on the canal when I was a kid, I had never taken the trouble to read the signs at the locks to fully understand how they operate. I had a basic idea of course but I never took the time to find out fully. Now I have no intention of buying a long boat and sailing on the canal, I just wanted to know. Same thing with this Forum, I do read pretty much all the topics but only reply or comment on the ones that interest me or that I think I can make a meaningful contribution to. The stuff that I do not need right now like information about different types of visas, buying land, shipping boxes, etc, I know it could come in useful at a later date and know it is there to read again later.

So this is not a case of me licking my wounds or me saying that the Philippines is not for me. It is a simple case of me deciding not to visit this year and to hopefully enjoy a holiday with my daughter. Finding a partner is important to me (who wants to die on their own) but not as important as finding the best place to see out my retirement if I should choose to move anywhere so I am also open to other countries if they best suit my needs and requirements. I also love to see different places and experience different cultures. I got the travel bug in the early 80's when posted to Germany during my time in the Royal Air Force and have enjoyed visiting different countries ever since. I am 60 years of age now and cannot retire until 67 so I do have plenty of time to make my decision and maybe finding a woman now would simply be too early anyway. The chances must be slim to maintain a long distance relationship for more than 2 or 3 years.

Enzyte Bob - Yes money also comes into play. If I was stinking rich I would not have a problem choosing where to retire and I would probably not have a problem finding female company. All of them would be after my cash of course and being rich would have it's downsides too but if money was no object I would retire in Austria and just travel the world, one continent at a time.

Lotus Eater - To answer your earlier question properly, I would choose the five who have never enrolled in a dating site. The problem with this sort of question though is I could never know for sure who had and who had not. I would only have their word and is that enough? But you could flip that again and say that if five had been on dating sites for many years, then since they have obviously not found what they are looking for in all that time, they may actually appreciate and be loyal to somebody that does choose them and treats them well and respects them. The five on dating sites could also be on the sites purely for scamming purposes, who knows.

Cherry, post #3.

Verbatum: I have no plans to return to the Philippines in the foreseeable future and I'm not active on any dating sites? Why are you still here?

Given your responses I'm sure you are a politician and if not focus there. You asked questions in your opening post and now avoid/deny. Come on mate. I have some HTFU cream, can I send you some?

Seriously Cherry? Get on with your life and stop trying to get someone to rub your back,,,,, In Austrlia we say harden up princess or the proverbial HTFU cream.

Steve.

Cherry, post #3.
Verbatum: I have no plans to return to the Philippines in the foreseeable future and I'm not active on any dating sites? Why are you still here?
Given your responses I'm sure you are a politician and if not focus there. You asked questions in your opening post and now avoid/deny. Come on mate. I have some HTFU cream, can I send you some?
Seriously Cherry? Get on with your life and stop trying to get someone to rub your back,,,,, In Austrlia we say harden up princess or the proverbial HTFU cream.

Steve.
-@bigpearl

What exactly have I tried to avoid or deny? I do not use dating sites. Like I said before I did check one out a while back as an experiment. I avoided nothing, answering all the comments to date. Austria will not happen because I am not minted even if it would be my ideal choice.

I have never tried to avoid any questions on this forum and never said I did not like the Philippines. I am simply  taking a break regarding visiting again, slowing things down and trying to be a bit more cautious while still trying to gather information. Having a vacation with my daughter seems like a good plan to me since she is the final year of her studies at Uni and who knows where she will be in a year or so.

I personally don't give a flying F--k what you do or not believe but what I have written here is completely true.

Come on cherry you are a nice guy but I will refer you back to who started this thread asking frivolous and insecure tripe. You say you are focused on your daughter? It seems not or why here asking questions that you can answer yourself in a Filipino forum and country that you are not interested in? Mail bride from Russia rings a bell.

Come here and enjoy or find some other country.

OMO.

Cheers, Steve.

I started this thread for the reasons I stated and for no other reason and I cannot answer those questions because I have not lined up multiple potential partners to meet when in the Philippines. Regarding my daughter, it is not so much that I am fully focused on her but I do feel time is running out for us to have one last holiday together. I only see her when she comes home, she obviously has her circle of friends she goes out with and has a boyfriend from down south.

Regarding the Russian mail order bride, I was married to a Ukrainian woman for 17 years so kind of done that although she was not mail order, met her at the rail station in Riga. Then did things the old fashioned way (Writing Letters) until we met again.

I am still open to the idea of retirement in the Philippines but it cannot happen for a few years and maybe when the time comes I will just hop on a plane, visit, travel around for 6 months or so check the Philippines out for myself before making the decision to move there or not to on a permanent basis.

But and for about the fourth time, my questions were only asked out of interest after remembering a post made some months ago and I just do not understand where this narrative about me now not liking the Philippines comes from when I have never said that. Sure you can read back some of my posts before and I have said the food sucks or most of it, Cagayan De Oro has more junk in the street and rivers than a scrap yard, etc but I have never said I do not like the country. I do however know that should I move there it will not be to Cagayan De Oro or Tacloban.

However Big Pearl, I do like the fact that you speak your mind and don't try to dress things up, nothing worse than a person telling you what they think you want to hear.